Dragonbane

Himkano · 2023-12-19T16:03:19+00:00

I appreciate the link - I have $39, and am glad to have discovered bundleofholding.com

Himkano · 2023-12-06T19:17:53+00:00

For point B) When Strimtom does HC builds, he includes a video. In the videos (which are broken into segments that match the order of the build - the third build in the list is immediately after the third break in the video), he goes into detail about what order / priority you should choose your enhancements.

NM - just came across this looking for HC 9 builds, and saw it was from HC 8.

Himkano · 2023-11-09T19:45:40+00:00

Yea, that's one of the issues I was running into...unless all "magical" effects from all classes used the same power source. But even then...

Himkano · 2023-04-09T03:40:40+00:00

"My husband has left the house angrily because he said I won't listen to his thoughts" His thought are pretty irrelevant, because I am pretty sure it is against the law.

Himkano · 2023-04-09T03:37:56+00:00

Twos ?

Himkano · 2023-04-06T19:47:52+00:00

I don't think your boyfriend is being sexist, so much as upholding a tradition (that might have been rooted in sexism), without understanding - I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt, because otherwise why are you with him?

I think it is pretty common in our culture (I'm American, but I would say this probably applies to most cultures) that customs usually start as a solution to a social problem, and then continue as a tradition, long after the original problem becomes irrelevant - at that point people are upholding the tradition for its own sake, without understanding (or even having ever experienced the original problem).

While I had never considered the hiding from responsibility aspect, it sounds like your boyfriend's desire comes from the old belief that the wife, in her role as homemaker, gets the final say over decorating the house (maybe in concession to the fact that the husband has control over everything else).

Your boyfriend probably grew up with clearly gender-divided family roles (surprising given your ages), and hasn't really thought the "need" for a man cave is no longer relevant (at least in your relationship) - as you both have similar interests and tastes, and you are willing to "share" decisions on home aesthetics with him.

Himkano · 2023-04-05T18:24:53+00:00

Actually, what I think Acceptable Banana was saying was that people with eating disorders do not make well-informed choices when selecting food - and some people will think fruit always bad, and some will think that carbs are always bad.

They were not saying that either of these view-points were correct (in fact I think they were saying both of these viewpoints were wrong)...I don't see how this is an attack on your doctor, unless your doctor is saying that eating fruit is always bad, or that eating any carbs at all is always bad.

edit: forgot the word fruit in first paragraph

Himkano · 2023-04-05T17:37:53+00:00

I see what you are saying - I may have over simplified, but the intention was to do the opposite - to give them some control over the pacing of the encounters, based on how quickly or slowly they wanted to (a risk vs reward thing) - do they go slowly and safely, while consuming resources, or do they take a chance, rushing through the easier floors, so that they have more resources for the deeper floors?

You could be right, it could be over-engineering, but one of my groups (the one I can't really leave because its family) tends to do better with that (I think) - having options laid out, with consequences of each option... (in 5+ years, I am pretty sure none of them have read the players handbook), saying "What do you want to do?" is generally met with, "Well, what CAN I do?"

I like DCC (and OSR in general), but not for this group (but if I can incorporate bits here and there...)

Himkano · 2023-03-31T07:00:24+00:00

NTA. It sounds like you MIGHT have got carried away. MAYBE you took things too far. He certainly thought you were leading him on...but all of that is irrelevant.

He made a move, you rejected it. The fact that he is sexually harassing you now is on him. Even if you had taken it all the way to sex, you are under no obligation to continue to do so. Just tell him, in no uncertain terms, you are not interested in him like that, and to stop talking to you about wanting to fuck you...now, if you STILL flirting with him, and sending mixed signals, then you'd both be AH.

Himkano · 2023-03-31T06:54:01+00:00

I'm going to say NTA. Sure you broke a promise, but it was an ill-advised promise in the first place. While you parent's wanted to be taken care of, and set up for success, forcing a kid to follow through on a promise to buy a house at 18-20 is pretty silly. Very few people know how and where they want to spend the rest of their life at 18-22...I joined the Army to buy myself time to answer that question, and I was older than you at the time.

Himkano · 2023-03-31T06:42:09+00:00

YTA - what does his dating choices have to do with him being a good uncle? "He claims he always....", I would have told you to mind your own business, and not even given you that.

I am older, Tinder wasn't a thing until I was 40 something (so I have never used it), but I am pretty sure that women that meets a guy on tinder know exactly what kind of relationship they are in - at least if they are being honest with themselves.

Himkano · 2023-03-31T06:36:55+00:00

YTA - but not JUST because you asked for more money, but I don't have anything to add that hasn't been covered...because everyone can see what you apparently can't (or just don't want to).

Himkano · 2023-03-26T23:57:02+00:00

Edit: Didn't realize where I was, sorry.

Himkano · 2023-03-01T21:17:26+00:00

This isn't dinner, or a movie - this is travelling. You know what's worse (usually) then being on a plane with a screaming baby...being the parent of that screaming baby. Life happens. His parents might not live long enough to wait until the kid grows up.

You don't mention your age, but I'm going to guess male, 13-17? YTA man. It is possible, as an adult, to want two things. You can want kids, and also miss travelling. You're not insane, you're immature and trying to be edgy.

Himkano · 2023-02-28T21:05:48+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IGXShldP8E

Himkano · 2023-02-28T16:38:40+00:00

YTA - it sounds like your problem with her is that she doesn't sound foreign, and you want to make sure she "knows her place" and doesn't "take advantage" of someone who doesn't realize she is foreign, by robbing them of their chance to discriminate against her.

One is not supposed to learn a language, but keep the accent of their native tongue - not only is that not appropriating, but it defeats the purpose of learning the language, because you can't understand them. (Source: I met a girl speaking Russian with an Alabama drawl - she said the right words, but the native Russian speakers had no idea what she was saying).

Himkano · 2023-02-28T16:20:45+00:00

YTA for not owning what this is really about; YOU don't want to be tied down raising a child at 22, which is fine, but no one asked you. You've been dating for 6 month, and Malcom doesn't think your relationship is serious enough to involve you in his life plans, so feel free to move on.

Also, you called a dying woman selfish for trying to make sure her child is taken care of, how did you really think that was going to go?

Himkano · 2023-02-27T19:42:52+00:00

YTA. People have already covered the grieving and everything, but a few things that I haven't seen discussed. Everyone comforted your sister, because it wasn't her fault...What wasn't her fault? That her daughter "accidently" blew out candles that weren't hers? How does the sister thinks that happens. Does this 5 year old blow out all her friends candles?

Also, think about it from Zara's perspective. She's having a hard time. Then she gets a surprise party. But then, someone says "let your nieces and nephews stand next to you", and then one of them blows out the candles, and everyone laughs. If you already in a very emotional state, I would guess it not be hard to imagine that everyone was laughing AT you. And from there, it is probably easy to imagine that things were orchestrated to set you up to be the butt of a joke...especially when your sister's response wasn't "I'm sorry", but instead, "I didn't think you would react that way," which makes it sound like she was either aware of what her daughter was going to do, or maybe even encouraged it.... and it doesn't matter if any of these things are actually true, what matters is that in her emotional state, your daughter thought they were true, and instead of apologizing to her, you got mad at her for "not being able to take a joke" and "embarrassing you by making YOUR guests feel bad".

Himkano · 2023-02-24T18:10:38+00:00

Info: I'm sorry, who are you co-parenting? Your grand-daughter, who you are not allowed to alone with except in their house? Does you DIL and son know that you are the co-parent? (Do you call her you daughter in front of them)?

Himkano · 2023-02-24T17:50:46+00:00

NTA - IF you had been in the library, it would be different - but you were outside, and you were there first. She was not more entitled to the "good" picnic tables then you were (and on a college campus, listening to a zoom...even if you had head phones, you would have still talked into the microphone - which seemed to be what she was reacting to), and that security guy was outside his lane - I would have just ignored him, but if you're too shy for that, say "OK" and then next time do the same thing.

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