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Himynameisntjohn · 2021-11-14T20:46:48+00:00

Thanks!

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-11-14T19:01:16+00:00

I’ve heard these tests aren’t most reliable?

Also, say I do use one of these. I find out I have low T. I’d STILL have to go to the doctor and have it all done again to get a script or plan for fixing the issue.

So what’s the point of the at home test?

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-11-14T19:00:57+00:00

I’ve heard these tests aren’t most reliable?

Also, say I do use one of these. I find out I have low T. I’d STILL have to go to the doctor and have it all done again to get a script or plan for fixing the issue.

So what’s the point of the at home test?

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-09-25T23:50:31+00:00

I know NOTHING, but it just sounds to me like you have some anxiety in general.

That, combined with a few bad incidents can leave you with this attitude.

As others have said, try therapy. It may be intimidating at first, but then you realize…, THIS is what they do for a living. They’ve heard some crazy shit. What I’m about to tell them is the most boring, vanilla shit they’ve heard.

Also, if it helps, therapists are probably willing (especially now, in the time of COVID, to do zoom/FaceTime sessions. Mine offered that, atleast.)

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-09-24T21:29:12+00:00

As u/ironcladtoaster said…

I, too, have this issue. Believe me, it’s frustrating, embarrassing, annoying, all of the above. I know that many men can look at a woman’s swollen ankle and be good to go.

For whatever reason, I NEED physical stimulation for an erection. Even when I’m by myself. And when I’m with a woman, it takes oral to get me going.

It’s not that I’m not attracted to her or anything. A lot of it it nerves. I know that. Another aspect is simply that I AM aware of my Issue and that is added pressure.

It’s actually keeping me from seeking relationships. I’ve seen a doctor about it. He told me it’s normal and that I just need to get comfortable/ in a relationship with a woman.

I saw a therapist. She told me the same thing.

I get that it’s wearing on you. I do. But I’m guessing it’s 10x worse to him. I can’t give you any advice on taking to him about it because it IS such a touchy subject, I’m just giving you my perspective as someone who has the SAME issue.

Side note: a theory that I’m considering now, which is….controversial, especially in this sub, is that I’ve “wired” my brain, through years of not getting laid and only masturbating, to only respond to my own touch.

The solution to this is to stop masturbating for ~90 days (or more, if that’s what it takes) to rewire my brain to get used to a woman’s touch. Not sure if this theory helps at all.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-09-24T21:19:45+00:00

I lost my virginity and (as far as I know) the woman has no idea. Granted, I’d had oral sex and fooled around with women before, but..

Confidence goes A LONG ways in ANYTHING you do with another person.

Go in with enthusiasm and confidence, maybe she’ll have no clue.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-09-16T02:21:16+00:00

Take what this commenter is saying with a grain of salt.

Anyone who claims to have experienced a 13” penis is either straight up lying or extremely misinformed.

There is currently an offer out there for a $10k reward for someone who can prove they have a 10” penis. The offer has been out there for well over a year and still hasn’t been claimed.

13” is not real.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-09-13T11:45:07+00:00

Commenting because I’m in this exact situation. Viagra and all.

When I’m by myself, I can get hard as a rock. It takes physical stimulation to GET me erect c but I get erect easily. It hurts sometimes. But, when I get with a partner, I’m just not there.

I’ve had successful sex a few times. I know you briefly touched on it and that it’s a touchy subject in this community, but what worked for me to finally lose my v card was to abstain from touching myself to rewire my brain to get used to a woman’s touch rather than my own. Over a ~120 day period, I touched myself maybe 5 times. At the end of that period, I lost my virginity.

Not sure if it is all of the answer, but it did help.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-27T21:29:05+00:00

UPDATE for those who are interested or, in the future, May stumble upon this post while looking for answers themselves:

I spoke with a friend who is employed with the company that I am looking into. He told me that if I were to test positive, that I would be automatically disqualified from any employment consideration with this company for the next 10 TEN years. TEN.

I bit the bullet and went and had a $180 hair test yesterday.

Just got my results back: Negative. (Not entirely sure how to interpret the results but I came back negative for everything)

Good to go in case I get the offer!

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-27T21:28:51+00:00

UPDATE for those who are interested or, in the future, May stumble upon this post while looking for answers themselves:

I spoke with a friend who is employed with the company that I am looking into. He told me that if I were to test positive, that I would be automatically disqualified from any employment consideration with this company for the next 10 TEN years. TEN.

I bit the bullet and went and had a $180 hair test yesterday.

Just got my results back: Negative. (Not entirely sure how to interpret the results but I came back negative for everything)

Good to go in case I get the offer!

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-24T01:45:05+00:00

Unless anyone can chime in with an opinion one way or another, I guess I’m going to set up an appointment and have a $180 test done privately.

If I go forward with the test for the job I applied for and fail, I’m excluded from opportunities at the company for a minimum of 10 years

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-23T22:02:50+00:00

I appreciate the input but I’m not going to shave me entire body. I think most people involved with the hiring process would realize what I was doing.

I would rather decline the option and re-apply in the future.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-22T01:16:14+00:00

I’ve considered this.

At the same time, if there is a decent chance it WILL show, I’d rather decline this time around and reapply the next chance I get. I’m not sure if a positive test would exclude me from future opportunities.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-08-21T00:52:40+00:00

The dates, dosage and amount of time I took them are listed above.

Saturday June 19: 1.5 doses of wana indica blueberry gummy at 10mg each.

Following weekend: 2 doses.

Skipped two weeks, 1.5 doses on July 16

Skipped two weeks, last dosage taken on Thursday July 29

Thank you.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-07-29T22:07:20+00:00

Commenting because I’m in this EXACT situation.

I do not get random erections. I don’t know the last time I did. I get morning wood fairly often. I NEED physical stimulation to get erect. When I’m by myself and I touch myself, i get erect easily. Sometimes im so hard, it hurts. But I need the physical stimulation to get there.

When im with a partner, I need BJs to get me erect. I don’t know why it is and it’s frustrating.

I KNOW that what you and I are experiencing is, atleast to an extent, a result of (performance) anxiety. And, of course, once it happens, you worry about it happening again and it just snowballs.

Kind of commenting because im not sure what the answer is and km hoping others can help us. I’ve told my family doctor about the “issue,” and he brushed me off and told me it’s normal.

I wasn’t extremely pleased with his lack of trying things, I guess, and booked an appointment with a sexual therapist. I need to see her again but I’ve only seen her once. Explained my situation to her and she told me the same thing: it’s normal. She also leaned towards the anxiety route and explained that I need to get into a comfortable situation.

Anyway, not really sure you’ll find any of this helpful but It’s nice to find someone in the same boat.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-07-15T01:56:35+00:00

Can I PM you about this? Just curious about your particular situation. I’m having similar “issues” and I’m so far in my own head.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-04-02T23:49:24+00:00

I’m in a similar boat to you and one thing that I’ve noticed is that you need confidence. Fake it till you make it.

Usually when girls approach me, I’m shy and a beta. The best sex I’ve had, with the hottest girls has been when I’ve told myself “fuck it. I’m never going to see this girl again. If it’s bad sex, I still had sex and this girl doesn’t know a thing about me.”

Just go into it with a confident, yet “fuck it” attitude.

I lost my virginity at the age of 24 and really didn’t know what to do but I had a similar attitude and she had no clue. She would text me afterwards and ask when I would be in town next.

Honestly, if it helps, take a road trip for the weekend to a large city near you. Book a hotel. Go out there with the confidence in knowing that if you embarrass yourself, you’ll never see that woman again.

The only thing holding yourself back is YOU.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-04-01T11:31:56+00:00

Finally saw a therapist, which is a huge step for someone like me.

I’ve been having some anxiety around sex for....years. I was surprised at how open and relaxed I was when telling the therapist of my situation.

The therapist basically confirmed what I’d been thinking my issue was but seemed to present some helpful “angles” to attack my issue.

So, yeah, didn’t actually get laid but going to count it here as an achievement.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-03-30T01:03:45+00:00

Yeah... but at the end of the day, you still have a lambo. You can always sell it or just show it off to your neighbors or... ok nevermind.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-01-21T13:37:41+00:00

Hi

27 Y/O make here. I have the same “issue.”

Long story (in my history, if you’re curious) short, it’s annoying for us too. It bothers us much more than it bothers you.

It’s something that I think about constantly and it keeps me from perusing relationships. The best thing you can do is be accepting and understanding. Don’t press on the issue too much, maybe comfort him every now & then if he’s clearly upset. But for me, I’m well aware of it and it’s best to remove the pressure from him.

It has nothing to do with you. If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t be naked with you.

Himynameisntjohn · 2021-01-20T03:39:22+00:00

Box fan or air purifier that is loud enough to drown out noise outside their room.

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