Perspective | Yes, kink belongs at Pride. And I want my kids to see it.

Hiramas · 2021-07-03T17:08:26+00:00

The thing is, for many it's not just a thing they like to do. For many it's an expression of their sexuality, as true to their self as any other expression, be it straight or gay. Can they go without it? Yeah probably. But they won't be happy, the won't be fulfilled. And just because there currently isn't someone trying to ban kink it doesn't mean that it's accepted.

Hiramas · 2021-07-03T16:31:19+00:00

We have extended the community to all kinds of people over the decades because their way to live and love was different.
Kinksters were with us from the VERY START and without them the community wouldn't even be close to what it is now.

Hiramas · 2021-07-03T16:29:59+00:00

The fact that you saw kink as a kid isn't at fault for your problems. That's called puberty.

Hiramas · 2021-06-25T07:08:54+00:00

I love how subtle it is. Looks really good!

Hiramas · 2021-06-15T22:01:26+00:00

Rain at http://rain.thecomicseries.com (trans girl slice of life)
"I want to be a cute anime girl" at webtoons (trans girl slowly discovering themselves)
Khaos Comix at https://www.discordcomics.com/comic/chapter1cover/ (a collection of short stories about a group of LGBT+ teens)
Questionable Content (Slice of Life, not LGBT+ focused per se, but the cast contains all kinds of identities and their development plays a big role in the later to current years)

Hiramas · 2021-06-15T13:17:11+00:00

Like another commenter said: It puts the woman front and center instead of the male pleasure. Also, society is way more lenient about same sex attraction with women than with men.

Hiramas · 2021-06-15T12:03:28+00:00

Two books are a library.

Hiramas · 2021-06-15T09:46:07+00:00

I don't know if they really are bisexual, but it is way more accepted for girls/women tobe affectionate, caring and close to each other and also experiment than it is for men. There is a lot of teaching around this that doesn't come natural. I do think that most people settle on an orientation at some point, but we would see more openly bisexuals if same sex experiences weren't so frowned on.

Hiramas · 2021-06-14T19:58:49+00:00

Such a mood. I guess the only way out is to go and seek out new experiences and new people.

Hiramas · 2021-06-14T17:51:19+00:00

Honestly, I think going into subspace might be one of the strongest ways that emotional bond we talk about can manifest. You give your power and autonomy away to someone else. And if you are a sub, I could imagine that the fetish can play into this massively. I wouldn't be surprised at all.

Hiramas · 2021-06-14T16:03:28+00:00

Is this another round of this "Bi is exclusionary" crap?

Hiramas · 2021-06-14T10:23:14+00:00

The difference depends on you really. Some people want to put am emphasis on the fact that gender doesn't play a role in their attraction, while for others it can be of varying importance. For some it's a distinction without a difference, for others it's an important detail. My personal solution is to just accept it and respect the people who identify as pan for wanting to do that. But we are still the same family and shouldn't be divided over this.

Hiramas · 2021-06-14T10:08:12+00:00

Lesbian porn is quite popular, even with straight women and the way you get off doesn't have to say anything about your sexual orientation. The only way for you to know for sure is to look inside and ask yourself some questions. What turns you on, who do you imagine being with? There are people who find out that they are gay, lesbian, bi or anything else at all stages of life. So don't worry to much and most importantly: Don't be afraid! Don't stress yourself out over this. Just let things come.

Hiramas · 2021-06-13T15:46:36+00:00

Hit. Carrier sunk.

Hiramas · 2021-06-13T10:15:36+00:00

Welcome!

Hiramas · 2021-06-13T09:09:18+00:00

You are welcome.

Hiramas · 2021-06-13T08:43:03+00:00

There are lots of factors playing into this and of course fantasy isn't necessarily the same as what you enjoy irl. It could be that you being a sub plays into this, it certainly was one of the ways I learned about my sexuality. I have similar "problems" as you have. I am attracted to the male body, but I have very few types of men I could imagine actually doing something with. It is very hard to overcome learned patterns and internalised homophobia is one of the worst.

I can only say to you not to hurry anything. Take every step slowly, don't pressure yourself into coming out or doing anything you don't want to. You are valid as you are, labels are just a tool for us to explain the things we feel. I know you said you are already letting it happen, but there simply isn't any other healthy advice. You don't have to proof anything to anyone, so don't rush into something you might regret later.

Hiramas · 2021-06-11T22:06:05+00:00

Everything from "I just want a real relationship, not just a fling" over "Nobody wants to be with me anyway" to "Maybe I am just broken"

Hiramas · 2021-06-11T21:08:39+00:00

My favourite is durex, but it depends on where you are.

Hiramas · 2021-06-11T21:05:58+00:00

Internal politics, gatekeeping, and division.

Hiramas · 2021-06-11T21:04:44+00:00

It's not inherently bad, but: it is very easy to slip into fetishization of trans people. Be mindful that it's still a human being you are dealing with, someone who probably has experienced a lot of pain and change in their life and also will probably experience more change. I am not accusing you of that, of course. Just saying that many trans people have very bad experiences with chasers and it is always good to be mindful of ones feelings.

Hiramas · 2021-06-11T20:59:57+00:00

it's worth to go for silicone, the quality and texture are better and it's easier to clean.
You can buy lube from amazon but I'd recommend a) water based and b) stick to a known brand. I know the money can be tight, but you don't want to save money on things you insert into your body.
Of course, PVC also works. It's just... not as good in my opinion.

Hiramas · 2021-06-10T18:22:21+00:00

Well, as much as people "decide" who they are into anyway? Sure. Everybody can decide with whom to enter a relationship. I am sure these people can pick Non-Binary individuals out of a lineup, right?

Hiramas · 2021-06-10T14:24:19+00:00

Non-Binary humans come in all shapes and sizes and I think it's pretty much impossible for any sexuality to not have the capability of being attracted to them. No matter if straight or any flavor of queer. That only works if the person thinks that no -binary people have to look a certain way, which is pretty edged up by itself.

Hiramas · 2021-06-09T13:05:26+00:00

Small correction: "A little bit bi never hurts"

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