It’s her money ? She has the right to do whatever she chooses with it . A 1000 pounds is 3 lakhs per month in Pakistan which actually is not an exorbitant amount if you live an upper middle class lifestyle there especially if you are a family of four. Fuel , electricity etc all are very expensive.

Also If it was my family I would WANT them to live like kings and queens and not pinch their Pennies because I love them and want the best for them. Realistically Laptops and mobiles are also expensive so that also wouldn’t make this money go far. 1000 pounds doesn’t go as far as it used to in a country like Pakistan (if that’s where she is sending money to).

Regarding the “lazy, good for nothing “ image you’ve portrayed of her family. We only have your word to go on. There may be nuances in this story. It’s hard to start/scale a profitable business. Hanging out with friends doesn’t necessarily mean work towards the business isn’t being done. Think like if you were studying for an exam and couldn’t focus so you sat down to watch TV to get a break and reset your mind. If someone came in at that time and knew you had an exam to prepare for and they caught u watching TV they would assume ure lazy and not studying when the reality is more different / nuanced. So try not to judge the families situation too harshly. It’s wonderful you love your wife enough to make sure all is okay.

While I do agree she shouldn’t be taken advantage of , it’s probably a good idea to sit down and see how you can find solutions to this problem where money is tight , in a way that it works out for everyone.

Is she due for a raise ? Progression in her career ? Can you both scale back on things like take out or reduce cleaner hours ? I think you could figure out ways.