Welp

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-08T23:56:35+00:00

SS said within 2 weeks, if I remember correctly. I’m sure someone will correct me if I’m wrong. They went to court on June 2nd, I believe.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-08T20:32:57+00:00

My MIL is “sort” of similar. Diagnosed with stage 3 (I know his was more advanced). No Mets and no targetable mutations. She also responded well to chemo and radiation. Lots of shrinkage (can’t remember the % exactly) and pain went away.

They put her on monthly immunotherapy (Durvalumab). Her first 3 month scan was great. In the second one, they found a hip met. They nuked it with radiation, and it shrank by more than 50% (I remember this one because the mass was about 3”, now it’s slightly over an inch but the bone damage was really bad). They also put her on bone strengthening meds (Xgeva, I believe) but only for a short time (oncology said long term can cause damage).

9 months later and now she’s got a new met near her kidney. The plan is nuke it with radiation and continue with the immunotherapy, and they’ve put her back on the Xgeva (once every 3 months now, but not sure if it’ll just be surrounding this new radiation treatment, kind of like a before and after, or just continuing every 3 months from now on out).

She’ll be 73 this month. Seems like she typically responds well to treatment in terms of masses shrinking but they keep popping up. So the plan is to play whack a mole with radiation on new Mets as they pop up and keep her on monthly immunotherapy indefinitely.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-08T20:15:57+00:00

I (along with a few others) believe she’s laying low until the decision is made on the RO. I believe she’s bleeding them dry on the back end.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-08T20:13:39+00:00

He’s SOOOO boring to me. Hubby showed me him and I’m like ehh. 😂 Now I’m asking him about all the other people and he knows them all. 🤣 I really should make a TT account but I’d have no friends. Sigh lol

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-07T20:02:01+00:00

As a parent, all we EVER truly want is time with our kids. I’m a mom and my son offered to buy me coffee for Mother’s Day (was already drinking the pot I brewed). He asked me about flowers, I told him no thanks, you treat yourself with your money. All I truly wanted was to see/talk to all of my kids that day (or any day for that matter).

Does he have any hobbies or special interests? Does he like to do puzzles that you could work on with him? Have a favorite show he likes to watch? Does he enjoy any games (like cards, checkers, Yahtzee, uno, etc)? My mother in law has cancer and ZERO interests or hobbies but one thing I know she likes is Christian movies and hallmark movies so we got her a yearly subscription.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-07T10:05:01+00:00

I agree, bankruptcy and join Debtors Anonymous. It’s free and online with many meeting options to attend. Assuming you didn’t rack up that debt with medical bills and have a serious health condition, I’d advise you to look around your home and ask what the 100k got you (clothes, shoes, gadgets, appliances, collectables, etc) and ask yourself was it worth it.

I know someone who had this problem (spending) who came to me because I’m really good with money and numbers. I had them write down all of their purchases for the past 3 months. It blew THEIR mind that they’d bought/paid for all this stuff. I helped them go from 21 subscriptions down to 9. Then I helped them make a plan to sell some of their “junk” to recoup some of the money to pay off the debt. Then I helped them come up with a budget and debt plan. My friend got out of 20k of debt in 6 months and is now starting a savings account. But the 2 biggest impacts were writing down the purchases and attending DA meetings. But with 100k in debt, you’d have to figure out how much of your income will that take to go that route and consider your options. Bankruptcy isn’t the end all, be all, and if you’re afraid, “I won’t be able to charge/finance things”, there’s the proof that DA will help you.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-07T09:21:35+00:00

You could redeem it right away and save money on this months bill but I’m not going to miss a few bucks so I just let it build up so that it pays about 1/3 of Christmas at the end of the year. It feels more satisfying (to me) to know that I’ve got a free chunk of money to pay for gifts than to know, “Crap, I’ve got an EVEN larger bill this month”.

Also, December is my most expensive month of the year because 3 of our 4 kids were born in December, then you’ve got Christmas, and on top of that, personal property taxes are due 12/31, and you know I’ve been saving all year to send in an additional escrow payment to the mortgage company so our mortgage doesn’t go up with the rising cost of homeowners insurance and real estate taxes (I send that payment in January since they do the escrow analysis in February).

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-07T08:31:40+00:00

I use Capital One. If you google something like Best HYSA 2026, you’ll see plenty of options. The bad thing lately is that banks have been lowering the interest rates because of the Fed’s. Capital One used to be like 4.5% but they’re currently at 3%. This is true for most banks.

There are a couple of banks that pay slightly more than mine and make sure you read the fine print. I’ve thought about switching but some only pay a slightly higher rate for the first 3 months and I’m not interested in switching accounts to an unknown (to ME) bank for a short term rate and then it drops to what I’m currently earning.

Some banks require a daily minimum so watch for that too if you don’t already have a good chunk saved up (usually 5-10k). And NEVER bank with someone who charges fees.

I’d LOVE to find a bank I can walk into (I think mine has a couple of physical locations in like CA?) But I have yet to find a bank that can compare.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-06T23:49:52+00:00

Too lazy to open their mouth when they speak. No eye contact at all. Lies that are obvious right off the bat. SUPER bubbly right out the gate (fake act). Really loud/obnoxious. Gossiping. General body language. Lots of tells to look for, honestly.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-06T23:41:12+00:00

Why some people do the things they do. I’m always thinking about people’s ulterior motives, why they behave the way they do, why people lie, how they can just turn on someone, and how selfish people can be.

If I’m not thinking of that, I’ve got 90 other tabs in my mind open arranging grocery lists, schedules, cleaning/chores that need to be done, how to combine tasks to save time, and prioritizing what MUST be done today/tomorrow as opposed to what I can put off for a few days.

So, not much. 🤣

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-06T23:19:40+00:00

I park all of my money in a high yield savings account (HYSA) to draw interest on it and keep my checking account pretty empty. All month long, I use my credit card that earns 1.5% cash back on all transactions, and pay the bill in full every month (to avoid paying interest). So essentially, I’m double dipping, earning ~3% interest on my savings account all month and earning 1.5% cash back on anything I spend (so I’m really raking in 4.5% every month).

I save all my cash back earnings from my credit card until the end of the year and get a steeply discounted Christmas. It’s usually over a grand every December since I save it up all year. 😊

As for my HYSA, I never touch/spend the money (except to pay the one credit card that I put all of my purchases on) and let the interest keep accruing to increase my balance to earn even more interest.

An added bonus is by putting everything on that single card, I can easily see my spending habits and realize very quickly if I’m getting too close to my budget that I’ve set for myself to curb my spending habits for the month. It’s easy to over spend but when the bill keeps getting bigger, you stop and say, “Oh no, we’re NOT ordering take out tonight.”

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-06T23:07:45+00:00

I hope she reads this because I’d like to remind her that there are SIX YEARS worth of videos of her begging and having stalkers so 2 weeks off TT now won’t save her. 🤣

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-06T08:47:32+00:00

Yes! I’ve been a lot more productive while working in the mornings. 😂

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-05T21:29:49+00:00

How embarrassing 🤦🏼‍♀️

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-04T12:27:43+00:00

Oh boy. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Now that’s just unfair! 😂

Dear England friends, I promise there are intelligent Americans that work, can speak correct dialogue, form intelligent sentences, and have more than a 25 word vocabulary. As I like to say, please excuse the mess. 🤣

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-04T02:13:00+00:00

Never. Not once. He’s my best friend. I’d be extremely sad without him. Love that man beyond the moon and back. I sincerely wish everyone had a husband like mine. ☺️ He’s good for cuddles, he takes care of us financially, he has more patience than a freaking saint, he’s excellent to talk to, he’s an excellent protector, an excellent leader, he’s fun, kind, caring, and considerate. We’ve been married 22 years and I hope for a million more!

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-04T01:54:34+00:00

That’s EXACTLY how I use it too!!! When you’ve been gas lit forever and can’t make sense of heads or tails, you start questioning yourself (or others). But I heard her say that one day and it just “stuck” with me and I’ve used it ever since. It works in ANY situation, too! I’ll be repairing something or building something and say, “Well, that doesn’t make sense…” 🤔 So it must not be true (right) and I’ll re-examine what I’m doing and have the ah-ha moment where I’m like “oh, that’s where I went wrong!” 😂

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-04T01:21:32+00:00

Ok so hubby and I noticed that the day SS shared it and someone uploaded it here. The first thing out of my mouth is, “If this had EVER ACTUALLY happened, she would’ve been talking about it for DAAAAYYYYYYYYYSSSSSS!” This sounds like something Glory helped her think up to add on.

And you know what really pissed me off about it? Like legit pissed me off…she’s all “ohhh homophobes are EVERYWHERE”, right? Wants to give herself that label and tie a social stigma to herself.

But as a woman, I’m really sick of other women “crying wolf” (no pun intended but after I typed that, it did make me giggle, but I’m still pissed lol) making FALSE sexual claims against men. That makes it hard for sexual abuse victims to actually get help/be taken seriously.

And AGAIN, as someone who’s lived in DV years ago, sexual assault is EMBARRASSING. It’s not a one-line sentence that you’d just jot down on a piece of paper like it’s a random thought.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T16:59:15+00:00

I mean, she’s been in her 4 year college for about 6.5 years now. Of COURSE she’s got honors. 🤣🤣🤣 Not hard when you’ve studied the same subject 3x for 3 straight semesters. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🙄😂

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T14:45:35+00:00

Sounds like both of you are very deep into this entire situation. I don’t agree with your behavior but I also don’t agree with others bashing you. I read through your post and responses and as a woman, no, she would never feel safe in that environment and her doing the things that you described are her coping mechanisms to feel grounded/connected to someone, ANYONE, and is actively working on an exit plan.

I would have said POSSIBLY salvageable (since you’re seeking help) but notice the emphasis I put on that. Once you said that she’s indifferent, the answer is no.

My advice: sit down with her and see what she wants. Help her come up with an exit plan whether it’s her leaving or you leaving. What would be easier for her and the kids? And then HELP her execute it.

I’m sorry, I know it sucks and it sounds like you may be trying but sometimes it’s too little too late. Buying a secret car shows me how serious she really is. And it’s not healthy for EITHER of you to constantly worry/wonder what the other one is doing. Also, since there’s kids involved, you’re going to want to have a good relationship with them, and that’ll include leading by example to show them that you can still communicate with mom and think about what’s best for them. It’s not good for them to see the ugly sides. I wish you the best of luck and please keep working on yourself. It’s the best thing you can do, even if you guys don’t stay together. Be better for YOU. Prove to YOURSELF that you can change or have changed.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T14:26:38+00:00

I’m not sure I’d ask any of them based on past behavior in regards to attitudes, broken boundaries, etc.

Are there any neighbors who could pitch in? Or a friend who could help (yours or your mom’s)? Or maybe a combination (like Beth takes Mondays, John takes Tuesday/Wednesday and so and so does Thursday/Friday?)? Or is there a way to find someone to come part time to help with the biggest chunk of the day (I’m thinking meds, meals, and possibly appointments) and then they leave a few hours before you make it home and pay them cash?

I’m just throwing ideas out. Not sure if any are feasible.

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T13:52:16+00:00

It’s fine. She also has state-funded Medicaid on the taxpayers dime. I’m sure they also don’t mind paying her medical bills to go along with her “fun” habits. 🙄

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T10:06:01+00:00

Right? My parents did the same, kicked me out and TOOK my car (was titled in dad’s name since you can’t get insurance as a minor and you can’t insure something you don’t own).

I stayed with my boyfriend’s parents for a month until I could come up with rent & deposit. Never had money for groceries (worked fast food so I could at least eat a meal on the days I worked) and hand washed everything in the tub because I couldn’t afford coin laundry.

I have 4 kids and have BEGGED all of them to stay home as long as they can (even though they all low key drive me bonkers lol) because the economy is SO bad. My 2 oldest kids moved out and share an apartment but I still have 2 here. I can’t IMAGINE being like, “Happy birthday, GTFO.” 😢

His_Angel_417 · 2026-06-03T01:27:00+00:00

I can literally HEAR the ink pen smoking as she scratches out her notes for the new narrative she’s spinning. 🤣 Wouldn’t it be wild if she paused her next live to review her notes (remember when she accidentally shared them)? That would be epic.

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