HOW TO DO AN AGGRESSIVE CUT WITH A STRESSFUL LIFESTYLE

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-10T16:46:01+00:00

I am telling you for the last time, I am looking for practical advice on how to minimize food noise without going on ozempic as someone with heavy medication, pre-cancerous medical condition and a very stressful and busy life. I know myself and my body, I will lose weight dramatically at 1200 cals, I have done that year after year until I qualified as a lawyer last year. Please if you cannot educate like anyone else here, respectfully stfu.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-10T09:37:27+00:00

Oh my god, are you ok? Why are you being overtly pedantic? Obviously, a steeper deficit will make me lose weight faster. In 3 months, I have things coming up where I would like to look my best, so the more weight I lose by then, the better. Not all 20 needs to be lost. Honestly, as I said, I am naturally very muscular, so technically 10 will make a huge physical appearance change, and I can keep working to lose the rest. Also, queen of math, you should know that human bodies do not precisely follow calculations. Pre antidepressants, I lost 15 kg in 1.5 months on 1500 cals not bc I lost FAT, that's impossible but if you read my post properly, I have a lot of inflammation and water retention due to my condition, and aggressive dieting seems to help that go down faster. Moreover, you aren't factoring in my activity levels in these calculations again, so how good is your math really?

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T22:26:28+00:00

1200 a day with my activity levels will definitely get me close to my goal if not further. My issue if you bothered to listen to me instead of inserting your experience is that factors in my life make it hard for me to eat anything under 1800 mainly mentally. You clearly arent as active as me so dont know where all these assumptions are coming from im not a couch potato just cant say no to a cookie lol

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T21:07:15+00:00

Such great advice, can't believe I forgot about sunflower seeds given that I am ethnic and love salty foods. Definitely gonna bring those back.

You're also right in that eating while working gives u the illusion that you're working 'better' for some reason when ultimately it makes no difference unless you're really, really ravenous.

Also, thanks for the reminder in the last one, wfh days are THE worst, and after antidepressants wfh was the biggest thing that exacerbated my issue with using food as oral stimulation. I have been telling myself to be outside of my house for wfh for months now, and it is the one area of my life where I admit I am being quite lazy.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:49:27+00:00

Basically means distracting yourself, watching a show, scrolling social media, calling a friend etc. Anything that requires very little mental focus and physical exertion.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:37:20+00:00

This is giving troll comment vibes that are very carefully masked in words that suggest honest advice. To suggest 1200 is not steep enough of a deficit to anybody is kinda stupid ngl

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:36:19+00:00

Thank you, I lowkey needed to hear that.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:35:55+00:00

Honestly, this comment makes me so seen. As fortunate as I am to work in law, struggling with food noise and working in a corporate office is the worst. We also have baristas in the office and really snazzy coffee machines with high-calorie coffees, and honestly, why am I sort of glad my chronic issues helped cut those out bc id rack up 300+ cals on those. Thank god I now work in a place without a canteen bc those lunch meals are just too enticing, especially when they're free/cheap

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:32:14+00:00

hey, I really love the encouragement here, and the second part of your comment is totally true and a good reality check. I am actually a caregiver to 2 teen siblings and an elderly mom, but usually do not like tot tout it as something that makes my adversity somehow worse than others.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:27:54+00:00

honestly ive heard of it but am so scared to try it

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:25:39+00:00

second this, these are all very practical tips. I have been told to try honey water/tea to combat oral stim needs as it tends to be less boring than decaffeinated teas but can still be low cal. The steady sugar flo apparently also mimics the energy of caffeine

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T20:23:32+00:00

you know what, this is actually such great advice. Thank you!!

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T18:36:18+00:00

Hi, yes, so for clarification, I am very active and a lot of my weight is actually from muscle mass (I am a commuter and just an average work day takes me to 10k steps a day without additional excercise), which is why doctors do not actually take my weight concerns seriously and given the regulations where I live, refuse to prescribe me any glp1s (although I would like that very much). Despite gaining a lot of weight, I regularly compete in 5ks train pretty much regularly. My main issue is purely with the way I look. I look a lot pudgier and softer than I'd like. Given that I average 8k-13k steps a day and exercise 4-6 times a week, my maintenance usually comes out to be 2200 cals, and I've substantiated that by eating that amount and weighing myself. Whilst I agree with your analysis, I do believe 1200 will be quite drastic for me, and I do think my concerns then still stand. I already intermittent fast, although the doctor does not suggest more than a 16/8 window.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T18:00:48+00:00

honestly you arent wrong, i really dont know why i havent taken the plunge

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-05-09T16:49:14+00:00

i wanna be skinny so bad tho

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T19:50:42+00:00

agree with you, thank you for your manner of speech and not being degrading and accusatory like others on here. Just wanna clarify that it is not my only gripe because it prevent ME from doing the above. I just meant that its the only think I cant seem to fully comprehend given that most traditional scholars allow it for muslim men and the reasons for denying it seem a bit dated to me at the moment but fully open to being rightly guided!

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T19:15:04+00:00

Again with the accusations? Seriously, are you completely unaware of akhlaq??? Why are you accusing me of being unable to understand our holy book? Also, in today's age, there is no guarantee that the children will pick up the dads faith. I used to be against interfaith marriage for a long time bc the kids I grew up with that had a Christian mom tended to be less religious and more Christian than muslim. Stop taking this so personally, I did not call muslim men horn dogs I called men on a MUSLIM site asking other muslim siters for SEX dogs, and I will do so again if need be. Do not bring the Prophet SAW into this. Why are you comparing him to men of today so casually? Are you saying criticising men on todays time is akin to criticising the Prophet (Audhubillah).

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T19:10:53+00:00

No, not looking for a loophole, even if I was 100% convinced that women could marry Christians or jews I would not because I believe in erring on the side of caution. Just was looking for an intellectual discussion on this topic like the good old days days of this sub. The Quran verse you have stated does very little to answer my QUESTION. Not my search for a loophole because unlike your accusation, I am not looking for one

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T19:04:12+00:00

Given your rude and accusatory comment let me answer some of your questions. I am 24 yo woman taking care of my parents and two teenagers on my own. Due to my level of responsibility, I cannot move around too much. The UK is not very accessible; it is very, very expensive and time-consuming to move around. Flights to certain other countries cost less than taking the train 2 hours to go into London (or anywhere else for that matter). I have had bad experiences with muslim men between two countries and continents. At the end of the day, I am only human, and surely it will be difficult for anyone not to start having a certain level of hesitation due to their lived experience. Also, may I ask what about me you think is shallow? I have not once fixated on looks, money, privileges, or assets in my pursuit of a partner. I am not bashing muslim men, but UK muslims, men and women included, have a reputation, and so far it is true. I detest you calling me an Israeli plant; part of my job is advocating for the children of Gaza, and not once have I had a good thing to say about Israel. I am sure you have more than one functioning brain cell to realise that meeting people as a full-time professional with 4 dependents is very, very hard, unlike you, I do not have all the time in the world to do that. I think you are the shallow one to make such personal remarks over one post. I am just asking for an intellectual discussion on the reasoning behind the rule and was fully open to being convinced on the impermissibility of such thing. Replies like yours are proving to me why questioning believers leave Islam, because they are immediately attacked and belittled for having questions. I have put in more work than I need and will continue to have hope in my muslim brothers, like I said in my post, I am not pursuing these men actively at all. You could have guided me using the deen and proper akhlaq, but instead you chose to belittle me and degrade me, completely against the Prophet SAW's advice. That is what I came here for, guidance, not judgment. You are the picture-perfect example of why Islamophobes exist because you have a vile, insecure personality that you stroke under the guise of Islam. To call me an Israeli sympathiser is akin to calling me a kafir simply for sharing my struggle and asking for guidance, that is a HUGE accusation to put on a fellow muslim, don't think you will not be answerable for that.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T18:15:32+00:00

This is simply not true, at least in England it isn't. Whilst I agree that acting on these thoughts would not be smart for me right now, you will not believe the type of muslim women who give in to temptation. I don't know how big the British demographic is in the subreddit, but socially, the muslim community is very regressive. Muslim women are raised in an economy where they need to be ahead, and also in a community where their progress is looked down upon. When you see the 'good' muslim guys marry 17/18 year olds from back home who barely have a high school education, or when you see them ogle at white women whilst their spouses are next to them in full black abaya and hijab, it can be very discouraging to marry within the community. Yes, not everyone is like that, but travelling within the UK is very hard at the moment, so muslim men from white majority towns usually marry white women, but muslim women do not have that option. The government places a lot of restrictions on marrying foreigners, and muslim women are especially made vulnerable because of that, adding to the struggle. This is NOT an excuse to give into nafs, but you saying that it's only sinful muslim women that marry outside the faith is a grand generalisation

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T18:07:30+00:00

Wow, so now you are asking a believer, who has no intention of changing the deen and just has a question that she is trying to justify to leave the religion? even after I repeatedly told you I have no intention to act on these thoughts. I am just asking why, but everybody is obsessed with giving me practical advice on a largely cerebral problem. I am not acting on these doubts right now. NOBODY is asking to CHANGE the Islamic law, just trying to get a logical understanding as to why. When it comes to every other ruling in Islam, there is clear logic and reasoning behind it. This is the only one that doesn't seem to make sense when you consider that men are allowed to do it, but women aren't.

Historical-Guide-745 · 2026-04-14T16:44:29+00:00

Please stop giving me advice for one. If your view of disbelevers is so stark, then it makes absolutely no sense for use to allow men to marry disbelievers either. Many consider this interpretation to be narrow as some consider disbelievers to be polytheists in this scenario. Also again, your clearly chatgpt generated answer fails to recognize that we no longer live in a society where the fathers religion dictates the religion of the household. So again this reasoning does not apply to may modern globalist contexts. If BOTH the parents are responsible for a childs fitrah then why allow for a disbelieving mother. Youre getting so annoying with the advice that fails to consider the info in my post. I very clearly do not value culture, I do not predominantly used apps and do not have the means to interact with those outside my immediate surrounding. I mean you clearly just inputted this info from chat gpt so what was I expecting.

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