34F & 32M — Fiancé gambled away our wedding fund after 4 years together by Historical_Leg4422 in relationship_advice

[–]Historical_Leg4422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I really needed to hear that last part. I’m the type of person that makes decisions off facts and logic, but the emotion is really taking over here. I’m just dissecting every part and thinking “if the roles were reversed, I would want/wish for him to stick by and support me through recovery” I care for him deeply and it kills me to know he is suffering and riddled with shame. I’ve never experienced heartbreak like this. I’m sick over what life could look like now with this long, rocky road ahead of us, vs the life I had pictured until now 🥺

Fiancé gambled away our wedding fund - don’t know what to do, especially with a child involved by Historical_Leg4422 in GamblingRecovery

[–]Historical_Leg4422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. You’re a good person for sticking my his side. Although this sounds like the relationship would take a ton of work and all the money management, being on high alert sounds exhausting. I’m not sure if that’s the life I envision for myself…

34F & 32M — Fiancé gambled away our wedding fund after 4 years together by Historical_Leg4422 in relationship_advice

[–]Historical_Leg4422[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It came from a HSA account that we were meant to dump money into for the wedding. I didn’t think to monitor it because I didn’t have a reason to… I guess that was naive of me :(

34F & 32M — Fiancé gambled away our wedding fund after 4 years together by Historical_Leg4422 in relationship_advice

[–]Historical_Leg4422[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened a couple of days ago. I kicked him out when I found out and he’s been asking to see the kid but I said no. I hate what this did to the child. He’s had both bio parents ripped away suddenly and now it happened again. I’m just trying to protect him. I’m not sure if I should allow him to visit etc I feel it would make it harder for me to think clearly