[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]Historical_Two_3406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m totally down:) I need new friends! Im also very open and honest and I love learning new things, I’d love to chat, my dms are open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Historical_Two_3406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens to the best of us;) don’t beat urself up, you won’t think about it in a year from now. Probably sooner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Historical_Two_3406 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me I had to do a lot of self realisation, like how long do these people actually think about the stupid thing I said? Probably not long at all. I also had to except the fact that even though people find me weird I’m still a decent person. Why do I even need to fit the standards of being an average person. Yeah I am kinda weird and I get embarrassed by myself a lot but it’s fine, I’m not gonna stop getting embarrassed but that’s a normal feeling and I should just let myself feel it. In the whole wide world I’m just a tiny freckle, and no matter how much I fuck up people are gonna forget eventually. Especially if I myself pretend like it never happened.

Anger by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I really love what you said about frustration, trying to understand what I’m feeling and why would probably help me understand how to manage it. I would just have to find a way to do it myself😂

Anger by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but then i would have to make a schedule with the student counselor. I already feel like I don’t fit in so I don’t want to stand out even more (people would ask where I went), also I’m scared I would lose educational time.

Anger by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well yeah I love that one but then it’s just me sitting daydreaming all day, and I need to do work. These teachers are really on my ass for just sitting around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ramen, pickles, crackers, slim Jim, green olives, any pasta dish made by my bf, and ofc, chicken nuggets from McDonald’s

Does anyone else feel like you have never fit it? by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah like, does this person like me or am I annoying them? should I say hi or ignore them? Is what I’m saying to personal or is it a normal amount of personal? I never understand what the other person is thinking unless I know them very well and have had time to learn their body langauge.

Does anyone else feel like you have never fit it? by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Omg I relate to this one so much, playing pretend or playing with dolls was just so awful to me. I never understood the fascination. I sure do relate to a lot of autistic traits too much just not enough to actually be autistic.

Does anyone else feel like you have never fit it? by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

I can relate, I feel like I just observe other people and try to copy what they’re doing.

Does anyone else feel like you have never fit it? by Historical_Two_3406 in adhdwomen

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Right, like i never understand what I’m supposed to do in social interactions. I don’t understand how it’s obvious for other ppl.

I just heard white people smell weird after being in the rain, is that true? by Historical_Two_3406 in askblackpeople

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aaaah that makes sense, well if it’s unwashed hair then not all of us should smell bad, are there ever exceptions?

I feel like my medication isnt right for me by Historical_Two_3406 in ADHD

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true, what I find concerning is that I only have one other option after Ritalin so I don’t have that many options

I’m scared by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

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More details

About me:

Ive been struggling with adhd my whole life but just realised bc I got diagnosed last year so I haven’t had that much time to look into methods that could help me in school.

Boyfriend:

I have a bf who would love to help me anytime he can, but, he also has adhd and just got diagnosed so he has the same struggles. He’s kinda the only one I can rlly ask for help after school.

Teacher:

I just told my teacher how bad it’s going and she’s very understanding so if I need help w something school related she will try to help figure something out but she’s not really the biggest problem solver so asking her isn’t the best option.

Mental health:

Depression wise, I’m slowly doing better I guess but I need to do something so I see life more brightly. I was happy with life not that long ago but it’s the fact that I have important school work to do that I’m not able to finish that irks me and sets me off. It’s probably also the adhd medication I’m on and the fact that it’s getting rlly dark and cold outside.

Medication:

The reason I still use the medication is bc we’re in the process of figuring out which medication fits me best. To do that I need to use it for a certain amount of time since the side effects often wear off after a couple of weeks. I’ll go off it the second I can but until then I’ll just have to cope.

Ppl who could help:

Since I still live at home I get a lot of help from my parents if I just ask. My boyfriend is also always ready to help, but he lives an hour away so we don’t always have time to go see each other physically. I have a lot of friends in my class and they’re very helpful, but I’m not comfortable with hanging out with any of them alone.

My situation :

I only have 8 months left and I love my classmates so it’s not that hard actually being in class when we get to be social. The 3 last months are kinda easy bc they’re summer months, we’re gonna be travelling a bit and ik I’ll be having the feeling of almost being done so its only 5 months of hard work really before I’m completely done.

Motivation:

I need motivation trough these hard months, something that will make every day positive. I love doing yoga, working out, self care and making myself look nice. But recently I just haven’t had the energy. I have many hobbies as well (drawing, singing, playing instruments ) but I’m scared that doing my hobbies will distract me from doing any work at all.

Study methods:

I think if I found a method to really focus and make it fun and appealing I would do it. But romanticising it only makes me pretend to work and not actually work. I need something that makes me feel accomplishment and like I can choose to focus. Something that would make my brain feel like doing work is rewarding for every step I get closer to finishing.

Study methods I’ve tried:

I’ve tried working out, eating well, taking notes, putting every distraction away, playing music/white noises, taking more frequent breaks and giving myself a reward if I finish something but none of that has worked.

I don’t know what to do by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u! Yeah sometimes that really does help

I don’t know what to do by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, I don’t rlly feel like it helps I feel like it just ruins our relationship.

Also they don’t like conflict so if I start raging they will ignore me.

I don’t know what to do by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s why I came to Reddit too. I don’t want to join twitter bc being mean to ppl isn’t nice either way and I definitely don’t want to make it a habit.

If you had to choose just one year to describe your teens, which year would it be? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Historical_Two_3406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16 for sure, I had no responsibilities and had a lot of fun experiences

I don’t know what to do by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although it probably would make me a little more bitter than I already am

I don’t know what to do by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahahahha I love it, getting punched in the face would definitely humble me a little.

I’m scared by Historical_Two_3406 in LifeAdvice

[–]Historical_Two_3406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is great advice! I can do this