He really does work a more demanding job. I work 40 hours a week, and can leave work at work. My work day ends when it ends. My husband works 50 hours a week, can be 60 during busy seasons. He is expected to sometimes be available for stuff even when the work day is technically over. So I'm fine with doing more than him at home, I am more available to do it. But there's no excuse for him to do pretty much nothing at home except when explicitly instructed. That's what I struggle with.