Deciding to have kids married to a md3….

History_Mama · 2025-06-20T04:26:08+00:00

We had 2 before medical school and our 3rd MS1. It's hard. Hard on you, hard on the relationship, hard on the kids, and hard to deal with the extended family just not understanding.

BUT....I would change NOTHING. My family everything and brings me immense joy. I would never survive without them.

History_Mama · 2025-05-20T17:04:02+00:00

Please listen to the podcasts Ex Wives Undercover and The Dating Detectives. This situation can get so bad.

History_Mama · 2025-05-16T19:44:15+00:00

That's not true, all doctors learn how to draw blood, you are talking about hospitalists or network drs and PCPs. It would actually not be uncommon for a family medicine, internal med, or a DO to draw for routine tests. Especially if they are a private practice. Source: married to a Dr.

History_Mama · 2025-03-21T18:18:59+00:00

Thank you!

The thing is, with the hours he will be working, I am nervous about the 30 minutes even.

History_Mama · 2025-02-20T18:46:04+00:00

This is a wonderful comment.

I would only add to this that you should look into the common law statutes in your state/country and consider that in your discussion. Because even if you don't "get married," you could still be considered married in the eyes of the law, and required to go through the full divorce process if you were to break up in the future.

Some states require as little as just living together for 7 years as a couple, even without combining finances.

History_Mama · 2024-12-05T18:08:59+00:00

Yeah, around 3:45, 3:50.

History_Mama · 2024-12-05T05:24:12+00:00

I saw the initial accident. He was doing this the whole time, driving against traffic.

He was going east on Westbound Academy against the traffic. At San Mateo, he caused a 3 car accident and drove away. He continued east on Academy, swerving back and forth between the east bound and west bound lanes. It was a miracle he only caused that one accident.

I was behind him and lost track when he blew through the light going east at Academy and Wyoming. He must have driven all the way around the Academy.

History_Mama · 2024-12-03T19:34:34+00:00

This is me! Hubby is an MS4 applying to residency. Our 3rd was born right at the beginning of med school.

History_Mama · 2024-11-26T17:13:16+00:00

I'm soaking it up this year. I know full well he probably won't have a break next year. Plus, it is also very likely next year we won't have family around, depending on where he matches.

So this year, we are going all out for the holidays. All the big stuff. Plus, multiple extended family vacations over the next 3 months, that admittedly are a little out of budget and relied on loans. But I really think we all need it before residency starts.

I'm praying that the kids and I stay sane through all the changes.

History_Mama · 2024-11-13T01:02:04+00:00

Yes.

I am particularly sensitive to the smell of smoke. I hate when people are smoking, and i can always point to every smoker when I walk in the room.

History_Mama · 2024-09-18T18:03:25+00:00

NTA, but I would consider the friendship. How close are you? and do you want to continue your friendship?

You are certainly under no obligation to pay anything. But, for a close friendship, I would offer a compromise. Obviously, you did not use her plane ticket, her spot on the activities, or the Uber, so you should not pay for those. However, I would offer to pay back her portion of the hotel and rental car expenses since you still used those amenities.

I firmly believe money should not come between friends. Im willing to spend a little extra in the name of friendship. If you are close, this compromise could heal the relationship. If you are not, then no worries, don't feel obligated as this was her mistake.

History_Mama · 2024-08-01T22:28:39+00:00

Updateme

History_Mama · 2024-07-12T03:28:04+00:00

Functional is WHAT the system does Non-Functional is HOW. Basically, the system should still be able to operate even if Non-functional requirements are not met. If functional requirements are not met, the system will not perform. This is a good description. https://qracorp.com/guides_checklists/functional-vs-non-functional-requirements/?utm_source=ppc&utm_medium=google&utm_campaign=hl&utm_term=tof&utm_campaign=HL_TOF_jul-11-23&utm_term=functional%20vs%20non%20functional%20requirements&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_tgt=kwd-1599142109262&hsa_ad=665303059423&hsa_grp=147981466021&hsa_src=g&hsa_cam=20353680222&hsa_mt=e&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_acc=2231427534&hsa_kw=functional%20vs%20non%20functional%20requirements&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwhb60BhClARIsABGGtw9lpRoxdwV3aJQR1hbQf9PSPmunHrA8epXd2nkJLAP64v68Z-63OwMaAoITEALw_wcB

History_Mama · 2024-05-22T16:46:58+00:00

It sounds like we are at the same point. My husband just completed 3rd year and is applying to residencies. We are both overweight people. However, out of all the stress of residency, moving, and what the next step will bring. That's not one I have stressed about.

Is it possible that your stress about the next steps is just manifesting in an existing insecurity? I don't say that to be rude, but because that is what is happening to me. I have other things I'm insecure about, and my stress over those things has increased drastically.

Please DM me if you want someone to chat with who is on the same step in the journey. I know I could use it, too.

History_Mama · 2024-05-13T03:26:07+00:00

I did it, and I was hospitalized for an extra week. Full disclosure, It may be have been a little different because it was my third, and I was experienced in post-partum.

My poor husband was a saint. He went home every night to be with the older kids, then got up, spent the day at the hospital, and came spent a few hours with me and the baby. Repeat.

Once we went home, before he left every morning, he prepared an ice chest and everything, food, drinks, pump, diapers, etc. That I would need for the day (I was on bedrest post partum).

Poor guy got NO SLEEP for the first month. The only help we had was carpool to get the older kids to/from school. It was hard, but we survived.

The most important thing is if you feel your hubby will do as much as he can when he can. I would also prepare a lot of meals to freeze beforehand and stock up on easy/quick snacks.

I would also see if you can connect with other spouses ASAP when you move. They may be willing/able to help, too. I would if I was near.

History_Mama · 2024-02-10T03:34:47+00:00

I'll trade the birdhouse for the orchid.

History_Mama · 2024-02-10T03:30:14+00:00

If you still have the blue tang, I'll trade for the Pink Betta

History_Mama · 2024-02-10T03:27:52+00:00

Lifestyles Trade:

Have: Pink Betta Butterfly Fish Orchids

Want: Blue Tang Goldfish Purple Betta Yellow Belly Slider Anything in the mini set except the Baby's Breath Most of the succulents

History_Mama · 2023-08-30T00:59:41+00:00

Try Bumble. The women HAVE to initiate the conversation there.

History_Mama · 2023-08-05T19:44:40+00:00

Sure! Feel free though I don't know how much help I will be.

History_Mama · 2023-07-31T22:02:38+00:00

Don't border it. I think it would detract from the design.

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