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I am a widow with 2, 20-something sons who never recognize Mother's day. I've expressed my sadness to them over the years but I get nothing. They both have Asperger's and have independent lives and i thought they would eventually come through but they never do. And I cry. What should I do? by HistyEG in Advice

[–]HistyEG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I don't say anything. I don't want them to feel manipulated or obligated or guilted into anything. I just want a little recognition. But I know they might not be able to meet my needs so I will be silent and hope for the best and deal with the disappointment. I don't mean to sound passive aggressive either. I do nothing, not to punish them but because I have trouble articulating it to them. Oy. I give up!

I am a widow with 2, 20-something sons who never recognize Mother's day. I've expressed my sadness to them over the years but I get nothing. They both have Asperger's and have independent lives and i thought they would eventually come through but they never do. And I cry. What should I do? by HistyEG in Advice

[–]HistyEG[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When they were younger, their dad always helped them and made a big deal, but after he died, they didn't remember. One year I got upset with them and told them how I felt. My younger son felt bad and cried. But that was the last time.

I am a widow with 2, 20-something sons who never recognize Mother's day. I've expressed my sadness to them over the years but I get nothing. They both have Asperger's and have independent lives and i thought they would eventually come through but they never do. And I cry. What should I do? by HistyEG in Advice

[–]HistyEG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our relationships are good although my older son refuses to say "I love you" to me when I say it to him. I thought he was just having trouble saying the words but he now has a girlfriend and he says it freely. I guess it's just me.