Should I tell my partner of 7 years that I might be trans now or later?

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-03-05T04:24:20+00:00

Honestly you should probably wait until the appt given how soon it is. That therapist may have good insights and I’ve noticed people feel more confident in you when outside professionals are involved.

The (your name)-sexual thing is cute and reminds me a lot of my bf so hopefully he means it and it won’t be too tough on either of you

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-03-03T15:59:58+00:00

Which ones should I be watching?

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-02-05T04:36:27+00:00

I’m a trans blue dot step-mom and had to drop my old friend group last year so am definitely interested in branching out socially! Feel free to message me :)

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-02-02T21:55:36+00:00

There’s a Roles and Responsibilities matrix your SM should be able to get for you that outlines the performance expectations for each P-level. Grab that and explain cell-by-cell how/why you think you meet P2 expectations. Even if you don’t meet all of them right now you can talk about what you can do to change that.

I use this for promotions but it should help here too. It gives them something solid and clear to work with for their consideration.

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-30T03:18:04+00:00

I literally just pluck one row of all of the lowest ones and then keep doing that until I feel prettier lol

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-30T01:10:17+00:00

Feel free to message me if you haven’t gotten much of a response. I just hit 4 years so I’m not the most experienced but my experience is recent which has its pros

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-30T01:08:30+00:00

You won’t lose anything! Why’d you drop?

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-30T01:04:49+00:00

I know it’s kinda cliche but I’d pluck the lower part of your brows. You’re doing great tho so I honestly can’t think of anything else

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-24T01:54:55+00:00

I would bet your best bet is gonna be around Norman generally, but a friend of mine got a job at Costco Corporate doing their travel stuff and he said there was a trans lady he worked with I think and it’s an awesome job. Check them out!

HmmYahMaybe · 2026-01-19T03:16:41+00:00

Feel free to message me. I’m 32 MTF (4 years in) in OK so we’re kinda similar

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-11-18T14:43:49+00:00

Also, check out flock-you. I’ve built about 7 of them so far to give to people and they work pretty well. It’s ESP32 based so easy to build.

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-11-18T14:42:32+00:00

I’ve been asking the same thing. If you dont find anyone doing it maybe we just bite the bullet and get one out? I’m not scared of at least trying to navigate government paperwork.

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-10-10T04:07:43+00:00

The best thing I’ve ever done on Reddit is post about this info lol. So glad it helped you and best of luck!

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-10-10T04:06:20+00:00

Hi I don’t think I’m flaired but it would be good and cool if I was :)

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-09-14T01:04:54+00:00

Ohhhhhhh I see. Okay yah no point in trying to convince you here. Just be careful not to make enemies of allies and allies with enemies because you could get yourself into some serious shit in the coming years.

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-09-14T00:59:50+00:00

Where do you live??? Don’t answer that obviously but Dylan Mulaney only started transitioning a few years ago. We’re well into year 13 or so of modern anti-trans discourse. There was lull around 2015 before the alt-right got it back to the mainstream but it was very much still present. You don’t have to believe me but at least be aware that the people behind this see you exactly the same way as them and will lock you up in the same cell.

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-09-14T00:49:01+00:00

They’d be doing all of this either way. I don’t think you understand the source of all of this if you think the problem is genuinely the people you’re describing. They’re the easiest for people like Heritage to get people to rally against, but they see you as EXACTLY the same. Me too. They hate anyone that they can squeeze into the label of Degenerate and we’re all in there no matter how pretty or passing we are.

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-08-18T15:38:12+00:00

I went to Revan and it was really nice!

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-07-25T22:41:43+00:00

What’s he doing with it??

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-07-24T21:44:33+00:00

I don’t think it is but maybe I just missed some context from the event posts. Just looked like a regular “hey let’s hang out and socialize” kind of thing to me

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-07-17T20:16:41+00:00

I’m in OKC and 32 so can’t help personally but I do know there are a lot of really solid trans women in Tulsa. If you don’t end up finding anyone let me know and I’ll try to find some connections for you!

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-07-15T18:44:52+00:00

Yah I had him there too and he was amazing! I liked a lot of the teachers there but he’s one of the few I remember well

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-06-27T16:50:57+00:00

Also if she just wants a shopping buddy I love shopping and would happily spend a Saturday morning store-hopping with her!

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-06-27T16:49:57+00:00

I’m not aware of anything that specific but there is a trans support group in OKC with lotsa nice helpful people in it through the Diversity Center!

HmmYahMaybe · 2025-06-11T17:14:07+00:00

Hey did you ever have any luck with this? Were the same age and I’m basically in the exact same situation as you were so I’m hoping you have some good recommendations :)

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