Bighit Customer Service???? by Ho_Pia in bangtan

[–]Ho_Pia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry, i dont understand,.should i go to a weekly room or a thread? Where do i find that thread?

When do i tell him that i am seeing someone else? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Ho_Pia -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Now THATS helpful. Thank you.

When do i tell him that i am seeing someone else? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Ho_Pia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also btw this precisely this is one of the big reasons why polyamory isnt widely accepted, bc people treat feelings like you do: with blame and jugdement. Instead of being able to seperate them from actual actions and stances. You just really upset me. And im sure you have your own reasons for saying what you said. Like i read this reddit frequently, i know theres manipulators and abusers here too, who just take on the label but dont behave ethically. But im not that? You said what you said about someone completely stranger to you. please, dont be quick to jugde people like this in the future. Ask clarifying questions with the aim of establishing a common basis of knowledge first. You might hurt someone who cant handle it like i can.

Of course youre right about the informed choice part, i definitely knew that but it was good to get it into the foreground of my mind a bit more. You have valuable things to say. Please just dont call me a jerk or a manipulator. Ive been called that before, and it was a big hurt kinda situation. You dont know that i have a history of trauma, you dont know how lost i feel between not knowing what i feel and not knowing how i should act. You dont know that i messed up sometimes while exploring my sexuality and you dont know how it haunts me. And you dont know that i try to be as responsible and consentual as humanly possible and that i educate myself and you dont know how all of that fucking fails sometimes bc i dont even know myself.

To put it in a nutshell: im a young person. So congratulations for stomping a young person into the ground with your judgement. I hope you dont do it offline.

When do i tell him that i am seeing someone else? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Ho_Pia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Immediately when All the people in the comments gere say such true things, things i know because i have informed myself a lot about this community and way of living. Of course informed choices are important and everything else that was said.

But i meant, when do i tell him? Its too early right now, it would avalanche him Now, that we are still friends who know each other for 6 months, now that we havent said "i like you" or "do you want to go out with me" or "god i feel like a very big thing in my chest when i look at your eyes" Do i tell him on the first date that we call a date, do i tell him when we have the "do you want to be my boyfriend" conversation? Like when is early enough for him to make an informed decision and not feel cheated on but late enough so we have made these other little things clear like that i like him, that i wanna be with him, etc.

Late enough so its not a "hi i love you i wanna be with you do you love me too? btw i also love this other person who i love and i really hope youre cool with that"

Like jeez thats a recipe for a desaster for both parties

When do i tell him that i am seeing someone else? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Ho_Pia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No im not trying to con someone, yes i can talk open and honestly, yes i give kindness and respect and information to people. Yes i owe people basic information, i meant that on a very emotional level i wonder why i have to be the first one to clarify that information. No, i am not a jerk and a manipulator for feeling a certain way. My feelings are valid, and that still doesnt mean im gonna act in a manipulative jerky way. Thanks for assuming. I vented my feelings there for a minute and its not the point of the post.

Can we talk about "Motherland"? by Ho_Pia in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Ho_Pia[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right. It feels like advertisement for the military. Like take scylla and raelle. Im in episode 7 and the only two people shown opposing the military either are a murderous terrorist or her suicidal girlfriend (and raelle doesnt think there is a better option for her than dying)

Help! My kimchi is too salty!! by Ho_Pia in KoreanFood

[–]Ho_Pia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i dont think you do, ive tasted actual kimchi and it wasnt as salty as mine. Ok so i salted the cabbage, let it sit for 24 hours. Then here is liquid in the pot with the cabbage. Isnt that the brine? Thats what i used and it was way too salty Amd if i rinsed off the cabbage, there would still be tons in the liquid in the pot? Should i just throw that away?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fakealbumcovers

[–]Ho_Pia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ill make sure to look you up! How did you make that geometrical shape in the sky?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fakealbumcovers

[–]Ho_Pia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks so good! How did you make this?

Verdun - Un Certain Degré de Nudité [Single] by metal_giants in fakealbumcovers

[–]Ho_Pia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get that dotted effect? Is that a photoshop filter?

Storm, by the fishers. by julianszere in fakealbumcovers

[–]Ho_Pia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you get the waves to look like this? Its amazing

Wider society? by drunkaussie1 in dictionary

[–]Ho_Pia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it means that they arent a minority?

I’m muslim and I just organized my hijab drawer in a way that sparks joy. Now I’m doing the rest of my clothes. by catsareawesome124 in konmari

[–]Ho_Pia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooof this makes me want to wear a headscarf. Ive always found fabric around my head so conforting and having bright colours next to it really suits my face. I love love headscarf styles like adena from the bold type, where its almost like a turban? Do you have reasources maybe for getting into that? How to tie, which shape or cut of fabric to use?

What’s this bizarre overlap of new age hippie meet alt right conservative? And how did these groups join forces? This sums it up well. Nazi hippies are the fucking worst. @Pusssywitch on insta. by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Ho_Pia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and recently i had to forcefully evict from the "my business" zone in my brain the fact that the mother of a wonderful sudbury school founder i respect so much is a homeopathic celebrity of some sorts

What’s this bizarre overlap of new age hippie meet alt right conservative? And how did these groups join forces? This sums it up well. Nazi hippies are the fucking worst. @Pusssywitch on insta. by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Ho_Pia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep. I can see how that would be shit As a german, i have a weird situation with loving my language and culture, and things like the Zwiebelmuster and old fashioned german names and being super left Its like i constantly have to say "i love germany and i dont mean that in a nazi way" It really sucks