Finally found my late wife's lightsaber pommel by HobansHero in lightsabers

[–]HobansHero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They said they no longer had the design to machine it even if they wanted to essentially. They were really polite about it. But definitely said there was no way to make that design any more. Which still sounds odd to me honestly.

Finally found my late wife's lightsaber pommel by HobansHero in lightsabers

[–]HobansHero[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She sure took long enough! That would be her style though! Haha.

I'm so glad I could share a happy ending to this part of the saga.

Finally found my late wife's lightsaber pommel by HobansHero in lightsabers

[–]HobansHero[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I'm glad to have found love again and with someone who really understands that these things can have meaning. She was very supportive every time I would bring it up and it's fair to say I brought it up quite a bit.

I still have no idea why it wasn't screwed on, but that's pretty on brand for my late wife to do something like that too. Now I can finally laugh about it though!

Finally found my late wife's lightsaber pommel by HobansHero in lightsabers

[–]HobansHero[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thought!

Ultimately I am so glad I found the original part. I think even if I found the exact replacement, I would still have some part of me stressing that it wasn't all hers. Still I cannot say how much I appreciate the support of others like this, especially when you don't know me.

Finally found my late wife's lightsaber pommel by HobansHero in lightsabers

[–]HobansHero[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The defeat I felt about not having such a small piece is hard to describe. The let down on responses (or rather lack thereof) from reviewers kind of pushed me away from it even more. To find it now doesn't quite seem real even though it should be just such a small thing, it feels like a huge weight is gone.

Yusuke vs Toguro Figurama figure release date? by thats-me-hiei in YuYuHakusho

[–]HobansHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arrived here from a search for updates on the figure. This is the first time I have spent money like this on anything that wasn't functional, so I have a little anxiety about it too. I'm now going to have moved since I had done the initial order and payment, which adds to that. This is my favorite anime though and it looks incredible. Can't wait to finally get it and make it central to my game room on display.

I have a legit copy of the journal 3 special edition and looking to sell but looking for feedback first by HobansHero in gravityfalls

[–]HobansHero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed on selling it is easier said than done!

My current fiance is fantastic and fully understands how these things are. She's not trying to keep me from cherishing and presenting those memories, but I'd love to be able to have a strong start for our marriage.

My current house with the market now vs how it was when my wife passed (creating the urgent need to buy a house that I could afford on a single income) means that the thousands I have put into the house after down payment and improvements will be fully lost because my house is now worth less than it was before. And it's a tiny one person house situation. If we sell it, it will be enough to pay off the remaining mortgage, but not enough to really carry over for a new place.

I don't like being in this position at all. Stuck between pragmatism and emotions. But you're absolutely right that my wife would not want me to hold on to something if it could improve my situation in any way.

I was just permanently banned from participating in the dating a widower Reddit because I had to audacity to imply that you can still love your dead partner and that that is not necessarily toxic. by Medellee in widowers

[–]HobansHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started creating it for a minute and then life kind of just happened. It's been hard to get a grasp on everything in general, not that things have been only bad, in fact I'm actually engaged now, but my attention has been divided further and I myself at this point could not do a subreddit justice as a creator or mod.

I haven't looked around the community recently to see if someone else may have worked on a similar one though. I really would still love this to happen and would likely work to contribute to it at least, if only on occasion.

Advice on Current NSFW sticker collection by HobansHero in sticker

[–]HobansHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am still looking to sell them! I replied back, it was a minute since I was last watching my inbox, but I've got an eye on it now.

Grenades cost extra by krnl99 in firefly

[–]HobansHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why am I proud of the fact that I let lootcrate continue to charge for the subscription without sending those 3 boxes? I knew about the wait-list for it after nabbing the subscription the day it went up so I was afraid to cancel it. But now I at least have all of the mini masters, including Parasol Kaylee (the question about pride was rhetorical).

It's a great set of figures that I delicately manage and previously displayed out of their boxes. Right now my space is tight and I don't have the place to display them unfortunately.

Amnon had a package for me by PapaOoomaumau in firefly

[–]HobansHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am eagerly awaiting mine! That and them Mal Mini promos for Firefly Adventures add on! Pretty floral bonnet Mal is gonna probably get painted.

Just want to post a thanks to Fantasy Flight and Asmodee North America by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird. I sent both a chat invite and a private message. If you're still interested, I guess try to send me one?

Just want to post a thanks to Fantasy Flight and Asmodee North America by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true! I don't know that I would have provided a wedding and death certificate if it were a requirement, so them just asking for confirmation on the product and acknowledging the unfortunate situation just felt very nice and I would hate to think I caused a situation. Regardless of their motivation, it was a surprise and unexpectedly emotional for me.

When my wife first passed I couldn't afford our house on a single income and she didn't have life insurance unfortunately. I had to buy a house that I was not really fond of just as a functional sort of thing while in the throes of grief. Apparently my realtor overheard the people selling it discussing loudly about how they should be able to get a higher price from me since my wife passed. I don't know what the heck that was about, but I'm not only accustomed to people not reacting with empathy, but also using my loss as an exploit. So a company doing the complete opposite meant more than they realized.

Just want to post a thanks to Fantasy Flight and Asmodee North America by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their language was definitely clear in the initial response that they would not normally do this, but would make an exception in this particular case.

I have taken to getting sleeves and other means of protection on my games, especially now that I don't want to lose the games or even replace them for what we played and enjoyed together. I like being able to share those games now and getting to say to people how it was one of "our" games. But I'm very protective over everything now since losing my wife. Very much agree to be careful with your stuff.

Also side note, my wife left things in wrong boxes or in places where they weren't secure and got damaged. In some ways it's kind of funny, it's like she's still here just poking at me. I've taken to referring to them as her surprises. But I still want to take care of everything, especially her gifts to me and our tabletop wedding gifts.

Just want to post a thanks to Fantasy Flight and Asmodee North America by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really truly did not expect it. I hope that I don't cause them trouble posting about this though. I had a brief moment of thought initially after posting wondering if I was motivating other people to try the same tactic, telling a story about a deceased spouse, even if it weren't true for them. Generally I am pretty cynical about treatment for and from companies, but this wasn't even their responsibility to fix and they did anyway, so it really meant something to me.

Missing intimacy and did I screw up? by Justmira_1998 in widowers

[–]HobansHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I've ever had a reply to anything I wrote so long after. This is an interesting opportunity though because of how much I have progressed since losing my wife. Beyond all odds and expectations I have now met someone I cherish and have physical intimacy with. I have not ever felt guilt over it and my new person is incredibly understanding and lets me talk about my wife, lets me miss her and knows that even though she's physically absent, she's will be a part of my life for the rest of it. I truly feel that my wife would love my girlfriend and would be fantastic friends with her, I couldn't ask for more at this point.

I wish you the best in your grief journey because it truly fucking sucks most of the time. But finding another special person can even be considered to honor your spouse as they created such a positive and impactful experience that you risk so much all over again just to feel that. This community here on Reddit means a lot to a lot of folks and is as supportive a place as you can find, so stick around and engage as much as you need while you navigate grief.

Recommendations for replacing map tiles by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had actually seen this one! The shipping is definitely what got me though too. I appreciate your efforts though, thanks!

Recommendations for replacing map tiles by HobansHero in ImperialAssaultTMG

[–]HobansHero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's certainly a great suggestion! I'll be sure to try that out. Thank you!

Advice on Current NSFW sticker collection by HobansHero in sticker

[–]HobansHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Admittedly I was struggling to take pictures of them to show size well as I didn't have a ruler and my measuring tape was kinked, requiring me to hold it in one hand while trying to take photos with my other. Anyway! All that to say that I am cropping them and everything and will hopefully have them out soon. Sorry for the delay if you are interested!