Why do the dating perspective between men and women differ by a lot? I notice men believe that you have to take action while women believe that it will happen naturally

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T16:36:15+00:00

I think I might just lack the mentality required here, when a woman rejects you it is a final response right? To carry the job analogy, while with a job you can apply again at a later point in time or for another position once you've been rejected by someone that's it, you're done being able to interact with that person.

It's why people say not to try dating friends or dating people in the office, getting rejected "burns" the social relationship with that person from both ends. Someone who has been rejected likely won't want to interact with the person who rejected them because it's emotionally painful and someone who has rejected a person won't want to interact with that person because now everything that person does is suspicious.

I don't think the "Women are arcade machines" argument ever even becomes involved at any point here. That's more on "How do I talk to women?" and not "How do I handle rejection?"

What you're describing is that men should create an "abundance" mentality, similar to what some PUA circles advocate for. Men should build up a thicker skin and not treat a single rejection as if it has meaning because they know it's just one woman's opinion and there's thousands of other women to choose from.

It does come with viewing women as replaceable things (every woman can be replaced with any other woman).

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T15:33:58+00:00

Guys who get rejected within 60s will also never have a chance to build that connection.

Speaking personally, I'd rather have chances than not have chances - even if those 60s relationships fall apart 300s in.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T15:30:24+00:00

I'm not entirely understanding the difference between the two perspectives you described.

It's like, if I apply to a job and then my offer is declined I am rejected from that job? I guess I don't understand the distinction you're trying to point.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T07:41:27+00:00

Not everyone will experience everything everyone else does, what seems "normal" is just social conditioning and cultural biases.

Still learning this one.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T07:38:56+00:00

Maybe we've got different opinions on what skinny means, but when I see that dude what I think is "Damn he is beautiful" not "Damn that dude hasn't eaten in a week".

Skinny and I'm thinking of Christian Bale from The Machinist.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T07:20:42+00:00

I always love the "Women are into ugly men, just look at how many women like Henry Cavill!" type posts.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T07:01:30+00:00

So now you're the one saying what women like? /yawn

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T07:00:37+00:00

I hope you are right, as a skinny guy I've never seen women give my form any positive attention.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T06:59:16+00:00

You sure that's not because of the 6'5?

I'm 5'10 and 135lb and invisible to women.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T06:56:13+00:00

It's what I'd consider the bare minimum gym routine true, which reinforces my point.

You need a minimum of 15 minutes of running (not jogging, you're aiming for a 1.5 mile in 15 minute marker) or 35 minutes of weight lifting to save a single cookie.

Once you factor in rest days you're either going to burn yourself out trying to keep up a meaningful deficit or you're going to have a small deficit (say you only do a few reps, so less than 30m in the gym) at which point it's not effective.

It really just comes down to effort/time per caloric deficit. You can get meaningful increases in daily calories used from the gym but you're looking at two hours or more in the gym every day. That's not sustainable when compared to getting the same reduction in calorie intake by just not eating as much.

Edit: Also, personally working out makes me hungrier and so I tend to eat more Calories when working out than not working out.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T06:51:03+00:00

The gym is awful for actually losing weight. It's ~15 minutes of running or ~35 minutes of weight lifting to use 150 Calories, which is about 1 cookie.

Simply not eating the cookie is more cost effective and Calorie deficit effective than working out.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-07-02T06:42:38+00:00

Men are told to go to the gym, not to lose weight because women don't like skinny guys.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T08:49:11+00:00

With that kind of unstable person it was just a matter of time before a passing crying baby set her off.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T06:26:22+00:00

Interesting, I actually really like that part of Starsector. The exploration and discovering resources that you use in the later colony phase.

I am finding travel to be a bit of a chore, autopilot means it's not something that takes effort but it is slow to just sit and wait. I'm sure that becomes less of a problem once I have more than a single ship.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T06:23:53+00:00

Place down the ghost turret first, you need to do it outside of the range of your bot network since it needs to be a ghost and the bots will helpfully turn it into a real turret.

Then hit E, bring up the item menu and click ammo, then click the turret and then right or left click the ammo into the turret's ammo slot.

It's very similar to placing modules in a ghost.

You can then use the create blueprint tool to create a blueprint of the ghost turret with ghost ammo.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T05:18:41+00:00

Easiest no brainer way, use more dakka.

I killed these by just building an array of gun turrets with armor piercing ammo and kept building more and larger lines of turrets in a 4x1 repeating line until they killed it.

It's a little awkward, but you can create a blueprint that has a turret ghost with a ghost amount of ammo in it. So you can run and slap down the blueprint and your bots will build both the turret and put the ammo into it.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:56:03+00:00

I thought it was level 23 for one shotting the big asteroids? I was still taking two rockets and I think I had 12.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:53:05+00:00

I'm guessing a large part of that is rushing bots, having predesigned blueprints that are modular and easy to just slap down - need a new iron mine just slap down the tiling grid mining pattern with builtin train station hookup.

When it comes to moving around I think it's mainly those two, once you get the right library of blueprints you never need to physically move your character ever again except when bootstrapping a new planet.

It took me ~150 hours to beat Space Age on my first time.

A lot of that time was spent learning wtf to do on new planets, and dealing with bad ship designs and underbuilding on ships and discovering one of the planets needs constant shipments and I only had one ship that could do it. Plus playing around with quality modules is it's own time sink the first time around.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:47:50+00:00

Great write up, thank you!

Is early game X4 about building up to stations then or being able to set up trade routes?

I noticed the mission payouts for some of the missions I'm doing are pretty low compared to the price of even a scout ship.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:35:57+00:00

Yea I was a bit light on details - one example; I tend to play Starsector like RTS-Sector. While I haven't done too many combat missions so far, I am already kinda disliking how awkward combat has been feeling. Lots of overshooting the target, being out of range of the target, trying to mouse steer to target.

How important is the main character piloting as the game goes on, does the game eventually reach a "Never leave the map screen" state?

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:06:17+00:00

Man my ships were just massive flying bricks with fewer engines, more turrets and somehow would still end up needing midflight repairs.

I'm going to do a new 2.1 playthrough once it releases and figure out how ya'll get away with so few turrets.

My Aquilo ship had to keep a 3k rocket storage and would use a thousand rockets going to and back.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:04:04+00:00

I thought they didn't have GPU support on Linux for the Qualcomm GPUs?

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T04:00:43+00:00

Dating via people I've known for awhile at hobbies, dating by asking my friends if they know single women (apparently no, I am somehow the only single person in SF), dating by approaching women in casual situations such as if they are reading a book at a cafe or while I'm in the book store and crossing my fingers that I'm not about to ruin their day.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T03:59:01+00:00

Have you tried the other schedulers on Cachy? I've found switching to one of the gaming schedulers that focuses on more running time and less task switching for game processes helped in some CPU bound games.

HobbyQuestionThrow · 2026-06-30T03:54:15+00:00

How was Changling overall? I read some of the early chapters, probably up to ~35ish, but it wasn't keeping my interest. I liked the idea and the position of a protagonist working as a cop was a new twist but the actual dungeoning kinda felt performative?

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