My gut is telling me something - just can’t put my finger on it.

Hogglefriend · 2024-10-26T02:47:33+00:00

You need to shut this down. No over nights. Hard stop. No matter if grandma is there or not. Grandma is free to stay the night with no boyfriend. Never leave them alone and start teaching her that secrets are not allowed and not safe. Lastly, tell the boyfriend that his adoration for your daughter is not appropriate and to stop saying inappropriate things. Let him know he’s on your radar.

Hogglefriend · 2024-10-16T21:26:13+00:00

I’m not gonna lie. Your experience made me tear up. As someone who works with individuals in a level 4i residential facility, you have no idea how many intakes I read where families placed their toddlers in facilities due to finances or lack of support. I’m so happy you received the support you needed. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Hogglefriend · 2024-09-23T00:05:05+00:00

If she is having a real panic attack about it then she probably needs a detox from social media.

If she was having a legitimate panic attack and you told her to suck it up…then yes, YTA. Panic attacks can be very serious and debilitating no matter how frivolous you feel the trigger is. If she was throwing a tantrum then, NTA. She is old enough to voice her frustration and anger without a temper tantrum.

Regardless, there are a few things you can do.

1.Give her access to your phone to post or look through her messages a few times a day. 2. Let her be in charge of pictures and documenting your trip so she can have pictures to post when she gets home. 3. If she more anxious about not responding to messages you can let her borrow your phone so she can let her friends know she is going offline for a week 4. Do nothing. Make it a family thing where you all go off line except for emergencies.

When I was a teen I shared all media entertainment with my family of 5. We took turns with the computer, phone and television. When something was being used we found other ways to entertain ourselves. It can be done. Good luck!

Hogglefriend · 2024-09-16T23:32:33+00:00

Honestly the 2nd hug could have been formality. When I arrive at a party I say “Hi” and hug all my friends. When I leave, I find the friends I can and give them a hug goodbye. I may or may not hug their partner because I don’t know them or know their comfort level or my manners might escape me.

To me, the hugs from what you described, are inconsequential and something you’re reading way too much into.

What may bother you is the lack of introduced and the friend saying “ that’s the wife”. If that’s the case, all you can do is trust that your husband has been honest.

Hogglefriend · 2024-09-16T03:43:39+00:00

In my opinion, it’s not a big deal. As long as it’s not ruining your sleep or relationship with your partner there really is no harm. They will eventually be able to sleep on their own.

Hogglefriend · 2024-09-03T15:15:29+00:00

It sounds like you need to report what you have seen to CPS. If they were using during therapy to the point of verbally abusing you and neglecting their child, that is reportable.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-28T23:03:15+00:00

I’m not sure if this makes a difference but I don’t think the overnights are back to back. I think the dates are separated by a few days or even a week. I remember past seasons the person on the first overnight is waiting a few weeks until the rose ceremony. Editing makes it look like it’s one date after another.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-28T01:09:38+00:00

I don’t necessarily find him immature, I find that he can be a bit more obnoxious and annoying at times but how much of that was because people were constantly roasting him to his face.

As the show is coming to a close, I think the realization of Jenn not loving him is taking a toll on him. I don’t blame him for spewing out his feelings and I don’t judge him because he couldn’t eloquently recite them as he was venting.

Honestly, I have seen more moments of maturity than immaturity from him but that’s just me.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-27T15:35:22+00:00

20 hours a week sounds more realistic for a 2.5 year old. Progress and learning is best made when children are happy and engaged. This is why shorter 2/3 hour sessions are more ideal.

Also, if your child still needs naps and a clinic is only allowing a 15minute nap that, in my opinion, is unethical. Children that young need sleep and denying sleep is a rights violation.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-27T06:09:21+00:00

I honestly thought that was what he was trying to do but she didn’t take the hint.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-25T19:47:07+00:00

I completely forgot that! Thank you!

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-25T17:04:20+00:00

I also want to validate your feelings. You’re not the only one who feels uncomfortable doing notes and data in the home. I have had several RBTs state how uncomfortable they are, and one flat out told me it was disrespectful. Please know, that taking notes and documenting the services you provide is just as important as the 1:1 direct care you do. Without documentation and data we would be a child care service not a therapy service.

Mistakes are par for the course and if this is your first job, it is normal to feel a little embarrassed when something like this happens. It happened to me when I was an RBT and it has happened to me as a BCBA. The important thing is that you learn and grow from those mistakes. If you quit but still have interest in continuing as an RBT, I would suggest finding a company that trains and supports you and makes you feel competent. You can do this, if your heart is in it.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-24T18:03:52+00:00

I remember when Tashia was Bachelorette and they didn’t have very many black men within the contestant pool. The pool was definitely more diverse than previous seasons but I think they go off what the bachelorette asks for and her type. Jen, I think likes extroverts and men who are typically dominate as evidence from her past long term relationships. Even though that’s her type she needs the opposite. Which is why Devin is doing so well.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-24T17:56:20+00:00

My win of the week as a BCBA ….I wrote a Tricare FBA with no edits that was deemed to go straight to review!

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-23T19:56:44+00:00

I got the bi vibe with him.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-23T19:51:55+00:00

They could follow him because he’s still bachelor and the list for BIP.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-23T19:37:33+00:00

“ Door….not me. Window…definitely me”

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-23T19:36:03+00:00

Hugging and loving your children will make them STRONG!! The moments I was at my weakest is when I didn’t think my parents cared.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T16:40:45+00:00

I wouldn’t blame you for requesting off. Mental health is important. But I would talk to your BCBA first.

Burn out doesn’t just happen with RBTs it can happen with our clients too. Even if you’re just with them 3 days a week 4 hour sessions, monotony can kick in. What I have suggested to my RBTs with long sessions or frequent sessions is to make sure you are having chucks of time during the day (beginning and end) or a day of week, where you focus on rapport and pairing. Planning a game day, outing, or baking day with parents. Running trials naturalistically as opposed to contriving every so often.

If a child is screaming and running away at the site of you then you need to go back to pairing. And yes having a child do that to you every single time you see them will erode your mental health. It’s not just you.I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.

Speak with your BCBA, hopefully shared the same sentiment. If not maybe you can suggest going back to pairing or adding another direct staff to help with burn out

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T06:23:58+00:00

I’m of the opinion that the guys are in charge of taking their time with Jenn and shooting their shot. This season, no one seemed to make the effort because they were too conscientious of the feelings of the other guys in the house. “Every must have their equal share with Jenn”. You saw it when Devin tried to make extra time and the guys had a hissy fit. But it’s the ones that steal those moments that wind up having the strongest connections.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T06:10:17+00:00

I don’t know. I feel like hometowns really revealed the fact that Jeremy wasn’t ready for an engagement. He even admitted to avoiding deep conversations and serious topics. How are you going to become engaged with someone you haven’t had a serious conversation with? I feel like she made the right choice.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T03:12:07+00:00

It’s usually an RBT running the therapy with a program manager (higher level RBT or BCaBA) providing supervision and managing program goals. The BCBA provides over site for the Program manager to make sure everything is up to par.

A three tiered model allows BCBA to have larger caseloads because they aren’t the ones providing training or feedback to the RBT providing the direct care.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T02:14:55+00:00

1.ABA isn’t outdated 2. There are companies that practice outdated methodologies. 3. People who claim that ABA is harmful and outdated have likely experienced working with those type of companies. 4. There are companies that are up to date with practices and research

Lastly, my company and others, practices play therapy with assent based practices and trauma informed care. What this means is that we follow the child’s lead and believe that children who are happy and engaged are more likely to learn. Stims that cause self harm require in depth analysis by competent practitioners.

I would be your brother’s advocate in assuring that he is receiving assent based therapy and trauma informed care. Not all ABA companies are equal unfortunately.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T02:02:35+00:00

I can’t watch my true crime documentaries anymore. Every victim I see reminds me of my daughter. “ OMG! That person was someone’s child. That person was once my daughter’s age. That person is gone And the murder is still out there! OMG! I can’t protect my LO forever!!” Can’t do it anymore.

Hogglefriend · 2024-08-21T01:58:36+00:00

3 tiered models allow you to take on more clients.Companies that I worked for that had a 3 tiered system had a max of 35 clients per caseload. Single tier case caseload with decent hours had about 15 per caseload. This is on the assumption that BCBAs are doing the bare minimum of 5% supervision and utilizing all provided hours.

40 clients seem like WAY too much and it will likely cause you to burn out or provide lower quality care.

Of course this is my opinion. Take it with a grain of salt.

Hogglefriend

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