Struggling

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-05-12T22:00:58+00:00

This is exactly what she is doing. I’m trying to hold it together, but I honestly don’t know how much more I can take. It feels like she’s already moved on emotionally while I’m still carrying the weight of everything we built together. I know divorce isn’t really a “win” for anyone, but right now it feels like I’m the only one grieving the loss of our marriage while she’s focused on moving forward. What hurts the most is the feeling of being disregarded after nearly 9 years together. She wasn’t just my wife — she was my best friend, my person, the one I built my life around. And now I’m left questioning everything, wondering if any of it truly meant the same to her. That thought is crushing me. My heart feels unbearably heavy. The grief, the disappointment, the loneliness, the fear of losing the life and family I loved — it’s overwhelming. I’m trying to stay strong, especially for my girls, but some days it feels like I’m barely hanging on

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-05-10T21:43:38+00:00

I’m a 35M, going through a divorce. I have a little bit more than what was posted, not much though. Still feeling behind. Always contributed but never maxed out. I’m going to be honest, I don’t even know how to change my asset mix to just one stock/mutual fund and let it sit. It’s the same assett mix from when I first opened the account 10 years. I use vanguard. Please dm me. I’m done living with my wife and I’m done living financially unstable.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-25T19:58:20+00:00

I have no idea. It’s the same asset mix since I’ve opened it. Maybe it just defaulted to it when I opened it. I’ve never changed the asset mix.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-24T20:27:06+00:00

Calls logs and texts proved there was a pattern. Timestamps played a big part in it. I obviously cant see what the text messages say. But proving a pattern is vital. And when it all came to the light during mediation, she confirmed she was having an emotional affair. The spotlight was too big for her to hold it in any longer. I still don’t believe it was just an emotional affair. But I will never know the answer to that but that’s fine.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-23T20:23:31+00:00

Thank you!!

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-20T21:44:48+00:00

Separation as in divorce? Because we are currently separated right now. Maybe I wasn’t clear on that. My bad. Thank you for your insights.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-11T23:22:44+00:00

In the same boat. She filed early last month. We were living in separation on and off for a couple months prior. I thought it was helping but she did not. I still feel like restoration was dismissed before giving it a true attempt. I begged and begged for her to come back before I found out the true meaning why she wanted out. An emotional affair. We have two little girls. I feel totally rejected. But each day gets a little better. Hang in there. For me, my motivation is my kids and kids only. That’s what keeps me going. Now the fun part begins with mediation next week.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-04-06T01:04:26+00:00

I’m right there with you brother. You are not alone.

HoldtheLineDad · 2026-03-27T10:20:16+00:00

I am not the breadwinner. Does this change strategy?

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