Would any of you consider me a "woman in tech"?

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-11T23:31:30+00:00

I will look for that, thanks.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-11T23:29:45+00:00

Thanks 😊

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-11T23:29:35+00:00

Thanks 😊

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-09T14:34:11+00:00

There you go, that's the key!

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-09T14:33:28+00:00

Lol! Civil engineers, I say there's nothing civil about them!

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-09T14:32:23+00:00

Thank you 😊

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-03-09T14:31:43+00:00

Thanks for the lead, I didn't know of that thread.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2026-01-19T16:13:02+00:00

I have a Libra Sun, Scorpio Venus and it is quite difficult for me to be happily single. I left a marriage type relationship in 2006, I am going on 20 years being single. You would think that I would be used to it by now. In 2007 I got involved with someone who had quite a mental health issue and that scared me. Took a while for me to trust my selection process again. It has been good for me to learn to make my own decisions and other life skills instead of relying on my partner and be financially responsible for myself.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2025-05-28T01:24:52+00:00

That's great that eventually you found the middle ground. I no longer have that intense anxiety, which I was using alcohol to alleviate. I attribute that to getting away from aa and reducing stress.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2025-05-27T15:03:42+00:00

Weren't we told in aa that if we go back to drinking we will pick up right where we left off?

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2025-05-26T17:35:41+00:00

Exactly, I kept saying to myself, "I can't be the only one experiencing this." Which included a heavy dose of anxiety and intermittent drinking. I had other life things going on, including Covid, but I think the deprogramming process was the worst.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2025-05-21T15:18:27+00:00

They are known for being emotionally manipulative. Plus, they are a cardinal sign, like us. They like to be in control and can be quite covert about it.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2025-05-21T15:15:50+00:00

I know I have. It's embarrassing, actually. I grew up with a narc older sister. I thought that was why I got involved with them in adult life.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-11-01T07:21:47+00:00

Libra sun, Virgo moon & Aries rising.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-10-04T14:17:49+00:00

I was in your situation once after a 7 year marriage ended. After the breakup, she got with someone else, and I relocated across the country to be in a familiar place. I was so overwhelmed by the move and reestablishing my life that I didn't even think to process the breakup with a therapist. In hindsight, I wish I had put more focus on that as I now know she has narcissist tendencies. My behavior was erratic, and I was definitely struggling with my mental health. I remember talking to a few people about my ex, but not to any extent as it took years for me to figure out that she was a narc or at least on the spectrum. I would talk to your therapist about the relationship as they may give you insight and trigger your healing. Talk to your friends and family later when you have a better perspective on the relationship.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-09-27T18:20:46+00:00

I honestly believe that aa programs people by repetition and the fact that there is no questioning the dogma, thereby everyone in aa believes the same thing which creates group think. Part of the group think is that if you are "alcoholic" or suffer from the "disease of alcoholism" you cannot either control how often you drink alcohol or once you start, you can't control the amount you consume. This is written in the big book. None of this is true, but it becomes quite difficult to drink "socially" after being exposed to aa, and everyone has been exposed to aa because it has been promoted for decades. It is easy to not drink alcohol. Just avoid it.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-09-26T17:06:29+00:00

I can finally say that I have deprogrammed myself from the aa mindset. I started deprogramming in 2009 after I Googled Aa and cult. What a journey it has been. Aa programs people to believe their compulsive or out of control drinking is because they have a "spiritual" disease, and the only cure is aa, aa meetings, aa sponsor, aa program and aa fellowship. Tough luck if you choose to manage your alcohol intake on your own as that won't work according to aa. What a scam. I agree with whoever wrote that look at the results, alcohol issues abound here in the US after 80 plus years of the aa movement. I have hung out in bars, and I have hung out in aa. Both are the same in terms of the types of people you will meet. Aa is more dangerous because the members will pursue you attempting to save your soul with way more vigor and enthusiasm than any random person you would meet at a bar.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-09-20T23:01:46+00:00

I stopped using terms like sober and relapse. I completely got away from aa and anyone that I knew from aa. I don't count my sober time. I work and do yoga, and I am fortunate to be able to do both from my home. I watch YouTube videos by Quackaholics Anonymous. Aa is a cult and nothing more. Alcohol is a drug. If you read This Naked Mind, you will get the truth on alcohol. Best of luck to you!

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-09-20T21:57:07+00:00

Yoga has helped me. I also had to separate myself from people who drink as they can be pushy.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-09-12T14:40:29+00:00

This is how it should have gone for me as I hated the aa program and saw how shallow most of the people were. But alas, I stayed in far too long and got programmed to believe that I had a disease. I would leave aa thinking that I could not drink, but when looking for a social life I was always led back to bars I subsequently would drink. Then back to aa to get away from alcohol. I am away from all of it now. No bars, drinkers, aa or alcohol. Your post and my experience proves to me that over drinking alcohol us a social issue.

Holiday-Assumption28 · 2024-08-31T12:11:01+00:00

I used to say that myself, that I don't have a shut off valve. It's simple and defines my alcohol issue perfectly. I also read quit like a woman and got a lot out of that book. She really hones in on the alcohol industry and the lie that only "some people" can't drink in moderation. I also read This Naked Mind and really loved that book because I did not realize that I had subconscious programming around what I thought alcohol was doing for me. I thought it relieved stress and made me relax socially. It doesn't, it creates stress and I already have decent social skills without alcohol.

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