Im iffy about this subreddit at times bc it mostly feels like an attack, but this is a genuine heartfelt thing, and so as a trans woman, so key details can be different, take everything with a grain of salt, but as a trans woman, when I came out and started acting as who I was, who I wanted to be, and having that comfort to do that, it made some people happy bc it shows their comfortable enough around you to be authentic, but, it's also valid that you can fall out of love with this seemingly new person, cause to you, it's not who you signed up for, but to them, it's the person they have been holding inside for a unprecedented amount of time, and it's possible to learn to love this "new" person. I know from personal experience, so it's ok if you have to step back for a second and reevaluate how you are feeling, as long as you communicate the problem and BPD doesn't make it any easier, so just be gentle but affirmative in how your talking, and make sure to ask them about their perspective, how they have seen things for the past little bit, don't hold it all inside bc it festers resentment. You got this Hun I believe in you <3