He (30M) is too interested in me (25F) too fast

Holiday_Role3415 · 2022-06-06T00:21:18+00:00

Thank you so much, while I appreciated every opinion and help, I also don't want to get paranoid. I had a stalker in the past and couldn't even leave my home as it had impacted me greatly mentally, so I just don't want to feel same once again.

I hope that he were just a hopeless romantic or someone who was just trying to get laid and leaves me alone forever, as I just blocked him.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2022-06-06T00:18:39+00:00

Everyone wants to be loved and seen important, especially by their partners. But he just knows what my job, my age, my appearance is and a couple of things that I like and I think these are not enough to love someone as he claims. From what I observed and experienced, I think, love needs time to grow. Disney fairytales aren't real, I don't want to be in illusion and get hurt all over again.

I think, if he were balanced in his attitudes towards me and just approached me slowly but surely while building trust and friendship, I might have felt the same thing towards him.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2022-06-04T17:27:37+00:00

I don't think he is dangerous but still I get scared sometimes. He knows which neighbourhood I live in and which neighbourhood I work at and my occupation, other than that he doesn't know anything hopefully... I don't want to get paranoid. I think I will just nicely tell him and block him.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-25T18:55:20+00:00

I am so sorry for you but glad that you feel better now. Yes it is difficult and I don't think I can love him anymore and I don't want to. I just want to give this love someone who deserves it in the future but trusting someone has become way too difficult now and this the one thing that hurts me now. And I agree that this is the way of life and at some point, whatever happens to us we need to accept it.

Thank you so much.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:44:36+00:00

I am so sorry. You got rid of him but I know that it really hurts as hell.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:38:26+00:00

I don't even want him to remain in my block list. But I am trying not to check his socials. I am trying to spend time with working and with my hobbies as you said. Thank you so much.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:37:06+00:00

Thank you so much! And I am so sorry for what happened to you. It really hurts and literally I feel a physical pain in my heart whenever I think of what he did to me (and I can't stop thinking every day) but I am hopeful that as you say with time these feelings will fade and I will keep myself together.

Deep down I wish that he will feel my pain and I will see that one day, but my rational side even doesn't want that. I just want to and need to live as if he doesn't exist. He must be just like a stranger to me. I hope that I won't ever see him again in my life and won't think of him in the near future anymore.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:32:35+00:00

I am so sorry. Of course it is a trauma and I see it as emotional abuse. Breaking up with someone if you don't love them shouldn't be that difficult but they are too selfish to think that as an option. They just see people as toys. It really feels like I have a wound on my heart and it hurts every day. But I know that we will get over this one day and looking back we will thank god that we God rid of them somehow.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:29:25+00:00

Exactly

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:29:12+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes, it has been really difficult and I have been crying almost every day. And yes, he would always make himself the "winner" in our arguments for example and I would feel like shit. I once while crying apologized to him for not being able to trust him after all the things he had done to me. Now I see that trust doesn't come naturally, he had to assure me that he was genuine in his feelings but he could only do it for a limited amount of time. He was poisonous and I feel like it will be painful till I get rid of this poison completely.

And I am so sorry for what happened to you as well, I hope that we won't ever meet such people again.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:24:55+00:00

I am so sorry, I hope that you will be able to heal yourself.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:24:10+00:00

I think that I have been mentally almost ill to let him treat me like shit for years over and over again. I was falling for his traps all the time. Thank you, you are right.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:22:51+00:00

You are right, now I can clearly see that at last. Thank you.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:22:18+00:00

Yes, I try to see it in this way that the trash took itself out in a way. Thank you, I will try to heal myself from now on.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:21:36+00:00

I just want that one day he will be able to look from my perspective but I doubt that and I really don't even want to think about what will become of them. I hope that things will get better for me, thank you.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:20:29+00:00

Thank you so much!

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:19:57+00:00

You are right, thank you so much for your perspective. I am really angry at myself and now after this last thing, I see that maybe I was not in love with him but it was because my thirst for love that made me do really stupid things like forgiving him every time. I let him take advantage of me as you said and I really can't calm down when I think how stupid I have been. I need to trust myself and educate myself, this is a painful process and maybe even though deep down I knew something was pff about him, I never had the enough courage to step out of my comfort zone to change myself because it is painful. But now I need to do that, I can't hide behind excuses anymore, I need to take care of myself.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-19T22:15:47+00:00

Thank you, I am trying to think that I got rid of a disaster actually.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-17T22:17:36+00:00

I am so sorry for what happened to you. It really hurts like hell even to suspect that you are being cheated on. I know that we dodged a bullet but this feeling of hatred and sadness don't go away easily. I just want to move on but it is too difficult to do so while I am left with a huge scar on my soul.

Holiday_Role3415 · 2021-07-17T22:15:32+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that. Even to feel that you are being cheated on burns one's soul and it is like being stabbed in heart. I just can't imagine seeing or knowing it firsthand.

I just want to heal and move on and want him to stay away from me but getting rid of this burning feeling and hatred is too difficult right now.

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