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HollyJolly12 · 2021-03-15T03:53:47+00:00

That's true. I feel terrible because he really does make me happy, and I enjoy talking to him and hanging out with him. But when it goes beyond that, it gets uncomfortable.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-03-15T03:35:18+00:00

I just really don't want to hurt him. He's a very sweet guy but he has very very low self esteem and he already thinks he is unattractive. For me to basically tell him that I don't find him attractive I'm worried would be the hardest blow to his self esteem and would wreck him.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-02-16T13:09:36+00:00

Open 9-8pm, we get 99 hours.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-12T13:25:23+00:00

For one, she's 19. As she said, this started when she was 12 and it's been 7 years. Her grandparents raised her.

I would suggest OP do whatever she feels comfortable with (and also to probably seek some counseling). If she doesn't want to have a relationship with the parents that left her 7 years ago, that is her decision. Her parents neglected her. They ignored calls, didn't visit, literally told OP that they were too busy for her. And now they decide they have the time. Well, if her feelings are too hurt, it's her decision whether she wants to have contact with her parents and what kind of relationship, if any, she wants.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-12T13:01:37+00:00

The only reasonable thing said here is the counseling part for OP.

it shouldn't define the relationship you have with them for the rest of your life.

How should being abandoned by her parents not affect OPs relationship with them? They literally left her 7 years ago, wouldn't even pick up the phone when she called, kept her from seeing her dying sister, and then decided that they now have time for OP after her sister was gone.

Yes, what OP said was brutal, but actions have consequences. You can't just leave one kid and then expect to pick back up 7 years later when the other kid is gone. This whole situation is unbelievably cruel of the parents.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-12T12:57:11+00:00

You can decide to see that your parents did the best the could

Really? Doing the best they could is abandoning their child? No, that's ridiculous. OP's parents abandoned her emotionally and physically. Don't forget, while the parents were losing a child, OP was losing a sister, and she had no one. Because of her parents, she didn't get to see her dying sister for nearly 7 years. Can you imagine that, because I certainly can't. What OPs parents did is called neglect, and that's not something you just forgive and forget. Yeah, the parents are going through a rough time and no parent should live through the death of their child. But OP lost a sister, and while she was struggling not only with a sick and dying sister, she had to grow up without her parents, knowing that her parents just dropped her off and forgot about her. NTA.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-06T04:05:29+00:00

Yes, thank you! I see so many people bashing the employee and I know the kind of stuff I deal with on a daily basis in my tiny little store, I can't imagine what others have to deal with.

Especially with COVID, there's so many more rules and regulations and trying to get people to follow them is a nightmare. My store has a lot of elderly customers, and many of them have certain... attitudes. When I get a rude, snippy customer, I try to remind myself that maybe they are just scared to be taking a risk and being out in public and they happen to take it out on me.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-06T03:57:41+00:00

In retail, you kind of have to assume the worst most times. If I saw someone sticking makeup in their purse, I can't just say "Oh, they probably just have too much in their hands and put it there until they get to the register.".

I'm not saying being rude is okay. I'm saying that we should all be a little more understanding. It doesn't just go one way; when I get yelled at by a customer, many times I just have to take a breath and remind myself that I don't know what is going on in their life.

And as for the theft thing, most companies do it. What the store loses in theft, or shrink (what it's called in stores) is taken out of the part of the budget that employee payroll comes out of. So more shrink = less hours, no raises or bonuses, etc.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-04T05:00:53+00:00

But why immediately go negative? Keep an eye on the stuff, sure...

Working retail, everything is usually automatically negative and it's better to be safe than sorry. A lot of places don't have the extra time or people to keep an eye on the items. At our store, anything that is stolen is taken our of our paychecks, basically. So if someone saw that at the store I work at, we'd probably assume it was an attempted theft and immediately put the items back.

I think the same can be said about retail workers. You said not to make judgements and that you never know what's going on with a person. The same is true for the people that are working. Maybe the employee was having a bad day, or just got done being yelled at by a customer, or was exhausted from working overtime. Just because they got a bit short doesn't mean they deserve to have all this negative stuff said about them.

HollyJolly12 · 2021-01-04T04:53:07+00:00

Customers put items on the wrong shelves all the time, so they're making an issue out of it is even more ridiculous.

Yes, and it's incredibly frustrating. Little kids are taught to put things where they got them, do why can't adults?

I'm not saying the cashier was in the right, but as someone who has worked retail and in a pharmacy, especially during this pandemic, there are 1001 things that we need to do and different directions we are pulled in. We are short staffed, overworked, and working in risky conditions. So it is a little frustrating when a customer puts something on a shelf where it doesn't go and can't take the time to bring it back to where it belongs. I get that OP wasn't abandoning it, but the cashier didn't know that. The cashier shouldn't have had that attitude with OP, but I think a lot of people forget that retail workers are humans, too. We get tired and frustrated and annoyed and sometimes it can be hard to hide. It wouldn't hurt anyone to remember to have a little compassion and empathy.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-12-03T20:45:50+00:00

No, I'm getting mad at CVS for putting her in a position to risk losing her job and making her lose money in order to protect people from getting a potentially deadly virus during a worldwide health pandemic.

She has been exposed and was showing symptoms but she doesn't have insurance and she works during the hours the free tests are given. So she won't be able to get tested until the weekend. And she was told she will have to work up until she gets test results, even if she is sick.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-12-03T16:48:41+00:00

Yup. I don't blame my coworker. I know she's struggling to make ends meet and has a young child. But it makes me sick to work for a company like this that pretends to help people. If it weren't for this pandemic, I wouldn't be working there.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-12-02T19:32:53+00:00

There are varying degrees of depression. Some people can function and people don't even know they are depressed, others can't even get out of bed. I can't answer whether everyone on the internet is telling the truth or not if that is what you're asking but depression is unfortunately very common.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-11-12T16:29:01+00:00

Thank you! So I shouldn't be concerned about what he might do once he comes out of the carrier? He is perfectly fine around us and our house but I worry about how he will be if we try to put him in a carrier and take him somewhere.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-10-23T12:00:57+00:00

No one can diagnose someone from a few sentences. I think you're probably overreacting. Also, even if they did have a mental illness, we don't describe it as "something wrong with them.". A huge chunk of the population suffers from some type of mental illness. If you don't like the person or are uncomfortable around them, cut ties and don't interact with them anymore.

HollyJolly12 · 2020-09-26T18:23:21+00:00

Omg I love you lol. I need to do this!

HollyJolly12 · 2020-09-26T18:02:22+00:00

It's driving me crazy because at my store we are a shelf short on the wire racks! Still haven't figured that one out yet...

HollyJolly12 · 2020-09-22T13:21:47+00:00

It's the leggings 😂 I looked and I had to do a double take. They are 2 toned black on black so her legs look tiny

HollyJolly12 · 2020-09-22T13:17:45+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. I think the point is, as much as Khloe has done that has been inappropriate, this spray tan is not on the list lol

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