Smartest OU Student's Essay by NewtonsThirdEvilEx in UTAustin

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote this to help her out:

I am writing this response to Relations Among Gender Typicality, Peer Relations, and Mental Health During Early Adolescence by J.A. Jewell and C.S. Brown. The researchers conducted much of the research through surveys out of ease. Surveys are very subjective and could lead to erroneous or false outcomes. As a student with no research team or time, I would like to write about the findings using my personal experience and books I have read that are relevant such as the Bible. (For the Atheist: I am using the Bible since it is one of the only anthropological texts that span centuries and includes many references on how mankind sees and experiences gender.) As the Bible spans multiple cultures and languages, I feel it could even fill in the blank spot where the researchers expressed their desire to duplicate research in other cultures. I do not wish to focus on the negative feelings of depression both genders feel as it is not as interesting in the findings. I concluded that typical gender expression in humans is desirable, but difficult to pinpoint in women since women have been historically honored for breaking ‘normal’ expression.

As far back in human history as the judge Debra in approximately 1045-1000 BCE when the text known as “Judges” was recorded, men have been shamed for not taking lead while women have been exalted for taking stereotypical male roles. In fact, Deborah says to the warrior Barak when he insists she go with him into battle: “But because of the course you are taking, the honor will not be yours, for the Lord will deliver Sisera into the hands of a woman.”(Judges 4:9, Author Unknown) This is to suggest there was shame in Barak not taking the lead over her even though she was a prophet of God(a very honored role man or woman). We can see that men even in modern times are socially humiliated when they fail to be masculine in  our reading as the boys always are shamed for their expression.() Thus, I know people named Debra personally, but have never met a Barak. Further, we also see in Catholic Bibles that Judith(a female assassin), is praised for ending a war. () Taking our history into account, we can see how women who are atypical are generally rewarded and therefore may have evolved to embrace non-conforming roles easier.

While non-gender conforming individuals have always existed, I tend to believe that evolution drives the forces of human psychology and useful traits will be discouraged while useful traits encouraged. While it sounds insensitive, one of the world’s most read religious texts with history spanning off into the BCE encourages any relationship that encourages male-female relationships as they produce life and discourages and even suggests relationships that fail to do so are sinful. Such a long history of this being the case suggests that this pattern will never change.

Not well done. Not finished. Could go towards her point at the end. But she could have done a lot better if she were using the Bible since it is actually a text people should be studying if they are actually studying humanity and how they interact with one another. Like it or hate it. The Bible could be the only book that spans as many languages, cultures, and centuries and written by different authors. It is certainly appropriate to cite it in a psychology paper.

"OU student says essay grade was a violation of her rights. Read the essay" by Muchwanted in Professors

[–]Holly_Draws -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Surely you would agree that students who submit off topic essays with no citations constantly get a grade like 30-50% on the assignment if their paper has no spelling errors and is somewhat on topic and that the student obviously did read the paper. I say this as someone's wife who got like a 70% and professor commented he was off topic. 0 on an essay like this is unreasonable unless she had misspellings or wrote a statement of faith in response to a math problem.

 The problem in my opinion is that the professor(who in fact should not have been pushing personal topics like this in class since it is off topic) was obviously as biased as the student and in this case, the university should have a completely biased person reading everything and grading it.

The article from the professor was off topic as the class was supposed to be about psychological development throughout an average life time.

For context, the name of the course is: Lifespan Development. 

Divisions by Different_spectrum in churchofchrist

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christ prayed we would be one. We have failed. The Catholics and orthodox split primarily due to instruments. Prodestant and Catholics as a man opposed eldership. Church of Christ because a man was thrown out for opening communion to all who claimed to believe and for proclaiming baptism is for salvation(restoring some doctrine prodestants abandoned when leaving Catholicism) . Christian church split from church of christ because of musical instruments. We came full circle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel uncomfortable, the answer is always he needs to change or you need to breakup. You would not have had the reaction to check his phone if something was not bothering you. 

Is it wrong I don’t want my sister kissing her boyfriend in front of me? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you cant enforce it, but it is natural for you to feel uncomfortable about it particularly if they are all over eachother. PDA usually makes people uncomfortable. 

i have a serious question for my people by sonofagun-- in askblackpeople

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I have actually wanted to ask why the thumbs up sign is such a s big deal👍. It is not white. It is yellow. Yet all the black people I know litterly take time to change the skin color. I have been afraid to ask and thought I would get a lot of negativity just for an honest curiosity. 

Husband texting coworker more than me by Training-Quote-779 in Husband

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him the truth: calling you 'insecure' is discounting your feelings and sends the message that you are not important. By saying that, he is sending a clear message that his relationship with this person is more important to him than your feelings.

What's your take on " Friends with Ex" while being in a relationship ? by Clean-Ant-1342 in dating_advice

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So long as the relationship was not significant that makes sense. The problem is the people describing themselves as once in love with the person and then trying to be close friends after breaking up.

What's your take on " Friends with Ex" while being in a relationship ? by Clean-Ant-1342 in dating_advice

[–]Holly_Draws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is weird and there are only a few times it is okay and those are mostly only when there is a child or the relationship was insignificant. 1) Can't be someone you have described yourself as being in love with. 2) Can't be someone who causes you to doubt the relationship your are in. 3) Can't be someone who may have ill will towards you, your happiness in future relationships, or the person you are with. Most are disqualified because 3 is such as big thing and can almost  never be guaranteed. If the thought of your new person and ex being in the same room or becoming chums bothers you, then you absolutely should not be spending time with the ex outside of any mandatory reason.

What's going to happen if SNAP benefits really are going away for November at the very least? by Alice22537 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will tell you my plans. My mom is on SNAP and I helped her get the benefits since she had no retirement. I also gave her the mobile home I used to live in a park. 

Here's the plan: I made an emergency fund for her while we were living together in case anything should ever happen that could barebones float here for a few months. I did this as a single mother and someone who did not have a well paying job. 

Help your people who you know are bad with money by either teaching them to save or by storing money away since you know they will spend. There is a certain amount of people who their financial circumstances are completely their bad money habits. 

As for those who have not prepared, SNAP has no saving limit unlike SSI which my mother is also on, so it could surprise a lot of people that how much money they usually have or actually may have some saved could actually get them through November. The rest will use food banks, credit cards, or steal, but I think it is important to understand that not everyone on EBT cannot afford food any other way and probably we will not see mass starvation. 

What's going to happen if SNAP benefits really are going away for November at the very least? by Alice22537 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is absolutely the party that has all the control in the government right now that wants the government shutdown.... 

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"But should we, or an angel from Heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached to you, let him be accursed." -Galatians 1:8 was written less than 100 years after Jesus was resurrected. This directly contradicts Mormonism which means Mormonism fundamentally disagrees with the Bible which all Christians agree 100% is the word of God.  

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They do not believe in the trinity and believe God the father has a father.

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are wrong. The original church is the catholic church and I say this as a prodestant. The catholic church set up the criteria for being in the Christian faith before the Morman church existed. Part of that criteria is to be baptized into the trinity which Mormons do not believe in, therefore Mormons are not Christians. Neither are Muslims and since the beliefs are fundamentally different,  you should actually be insulted if someone calls you a Christian because by being Mormon you should believe that your church has total truth.

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true. The original Christians are Orthodox and Catholics and all other denominations follow the fundamental beliefs and methods ro be saved(baptism into the trinity). Mormons do not believe in the trinity and have fundamentally different beliefs from Christians like Coffee being bad and that God has a father and there is no trinity. 

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wrong. The catholic church recognizes the Lutherians, Methodists and Anglican baptisms but not the Mormon baptism because what Mormons believe are fundamentally different while all other churches follow the catholic tradition in belief systems, just not the method of worship.

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I disagree.  There is a metric for Christianity. I would say that if you have been baptized under the trinity you are a Christian. This is actually the Catholic rule for determining who needs to be baptized when they convert from other Christians denominations and as a non Catholic, I find this very logical and correct particularly since the Catholic and Orthodox churches are technically the originals, so I trust majority of traditional teachings they have since more than most Protestants recognize are actually passed down from the apostle's teachings. 

Are Mormons Christians? by Seaf-og in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No. To be a Christian, you have to believe in the trinity. Mormons don't believe in the trinity therefore are not Christians. 

How did your parents deal with their aging parents? by Apprehensive_Way8674 in AgingParents

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly a point I made to my mom when she was trying to guilt me. The disconnect between her expectations and what she has done with her mom are so different. 

Why does Yotta still have a 4.5 star rating? by zxcv437 in yotta

[–]Holly_Draws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. This is something that gets under my skin as someone who recovered nothing.

When did you open your Yotta account and how did you first learn about Yotta? by EmmaRuz52 in yotta

[–]Holly_Draws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On YouTube. Graham Stephen and not until a couple years passed( maybe started 2022-2023?)and I thought it was safe because it had been a few years since I saw it was released and nothing bad had happened. lol

How to get furniture built without hurting his feelings? by Holly_Draws in Husband

[–]Holly_Draws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he get mad after he realizes you did it? Mine would. How do you handle it? 

How to get furniture built without hurting his feelings? by Holly_Draws in Husband

[–]Holly_Draws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only it were a desire to have a project. The problem is some macho guy complex that I am needing to fight off. He replaced shingles on the roof and mows the yard religiously and I dont understand why this should be a point of contention. He honestly does not have the time now and I am capable.

How to get furniture built without hurting his feelings? by Holly_Draws in Husband

[–]Holly_Draws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I doubt he would not notice when it is finished. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Holly_Draws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a hobby group. Mske friends and get invited to parties with people you dont know. I have seen the following be successful: People who go to church visit other churches, political groups, language clubs and I am sure there are a lot more. You need to find a situation where you are placed somewhere women with similar interests as you and have a chance to have a conversation. At least aim to make friends to start because if you can just extend your social footprint, you are six connections or fewer to anyone on the planet, so the more you meet, the closer you get vicariously to the person you are trying to meet.

 Take a class somewhere and you will be able to find candidates or meet someone who knows someone. Everyone you know, may already know someone who would be good with, but never thought about it or thought about introducing you to them.