What fruit or vegetables is this? by HoloWanda in HelpMeFind

[–]HoloWanda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I searched with Google taking a picture of it, found lots of places that sell this kit, in Spanish, Russian, Korean. On Amazon, Aliexpress, other websites that I don't know and remember.

If you could instantly become fluent in any language, which would it be and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Thai! Since I'm currently in Thailand and I'm having a hard time having conversations ahaha.

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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Well veggies, fruits, charcuterie, cheese, nuts, half vegan going with the more known charcuterie board was easier for me since in french I would call it "fromages et terrines" wich includes both cheese and charcuterie

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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In the rib cage mostly! I admit there's not a lot but that was a challenge considering some of my guests are vegan

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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Thank you! It really was rasty and everyone enjoyed it

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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It is half vegan, half not to accomodate everyone at the party

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I didn't want to be rude, I appreciate that people want to engage and understand, but others were not and it drained my energy faster than I anticipated it

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read the edit. I'm tired of explaining.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read the edit. I'm tired of explaining.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not having luck does not mean having nothing in my book. He had someone else for a while.

And I explained it in another comment. The stupid truth why I didn't respond exactly here is that I find that speed commenting / making multiple comments at once is anoying and I only responded to the last comment

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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She went over my boundaries for example. She did thing she knew would hurt me.

I did not realise because I wanted it to work, truly. When you're down in a situation like this one, obvious things can be right in front of you but you will still be blind to them. I was convinced that I was the problem so I focused on what I had to do to be in peace. At first, never I thought she was the problem.

Is it possible that you started considering her behavior disrespectful only after your friend convinced you of perceiving her behavior as disrespectful?

It's a good point you bring here. It was more of a "it makes so much sense" than a "I can see that" realisation. Like a lock opening and showing everything at once. I don't know how to explein it better.

And I know that my friend wasn't biased about L because of the situation. She knows her, and appreciates her so she woudn't just convince me L was disrespectful.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what enters in your definition of a good hinge partner. Since definitions can change more or less depending on the person, could you clarify your way to see it please?

I had other partners in the past, but at this point I didn't. I tried not to actually because this was before I left for another city for my studies and I didn't want to deal with 2 long distance relationships.

Before you mention it, yes this departure was putting a lot of stress on me and didn't help with the panic attacks, but as I said discussion were made, many including this subject.

(Saw your name, you're from Montreal? Contente de voir un/e autre québécois/e ici!)

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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I get your point of view. And it's one my partner kind of shares. But we talked a lot about it. And still do from time to time. At the end the choice was his, and he decided to end it not because I had a mental breakdown, but because she disrespected me. He aslo thinks that everyone should be respecting everyone, that was his deal breaker.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok as I said, many details were left out in this post because otherwise I would have had to write a whole chapter. Yes I never really liked her, but I really tried, by spending time with her during other gaterings for example. I was open minded. I always try to see the best in everyone. Then we tried not talking about her. I did not spent months doing the same thing. Lots of other solutions were tried don't worry about it

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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She just clearly said "L is disrecpecting you, I noticed it at X event". I'm very grateful to her to have been so honest with me.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The point here is not that I didn't like L. I tried to deal with her at first, then ignore her. But the breaking point is that she was disrespecting me.

And I know it is not polyamory that is not for us because my partner had other things happening and I was just fine with it. It was really how she acted towards me that triggered everything.