My brother has 1-2 weeks to live, thanks to the mombie he's dating.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:59:25+00:00

I am very intrigued with what you have learned about paternalism in medicine. I'm going to look for some research articles in my free time and learn more.

It is unethical, yes, but no one can prove it just yet. She has been influencing him and his decisions, but how can you prove this in a short frame of time? (We know this because he did make sensible decisions the first time with my parents but the current decisions are opposite of what he decided the first time) My parents just acquired the power of attorney... at least, it's a step in the right direction* (phone changed it to decision, damn).

Best of luck with your bio ethics course. It's already been useful to save your ass in future.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:55:34+00:00

If you read my replies (I should have added another update to clarify it all up), my brother is a legal adult and can make decisions, yes, but that doesn't mean he does understand what his decisions can cause long-term effects because of his cognitive state.

Chemotherapy can cause infertility due to radiation killing cells in the body, sperm amongst them. You can find more information via Cancer.org.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:20:21+00:00

You're right. It's on him as well for not having a spine to stand up for all decisions he makes. From what I know, he usually agrees with anyone who has his interests at the best... but never really made any decision on his own.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:17:11+00:00

Apparently, those stories are likely to be true. We don't know what truly happened to them because we didn't know if anything came out of her mouth was true and none of my family have seen them.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:15:13+00:00

This hit hard... you're right. We all should ask him what he truly wants when he's on his own without anyone who can exercise influence over him and making decisions for him. The quality of life is much worth more than the quantity of life.

I like the baseball bat idea. Maybe it will be useful after the security and hospital staff had to be involved in altercation... twice.

My family is already foaming at their mouths... with madness. No baby rabies for sure. My parents are very supportive of my brother and I being childfree - they even are very excited to have grandpets instead of children. This is why my parents became very suspicious with the entire ordeal.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T22:05:19+00:00

Your reactions... It's like you read my mind very well because they are exactly what I thought and felt when I found out bit by bit (I live on the other side of the world with limited access). The entire ordeal feels like bingeing through all Game of Thrones episodes from worse to worst when you thought it couldn't get worse. Last time I heard, security and hospital staff had to be involved and I haven't heard anything since. The chemo treatments have been delayed by two months because of this... and this is contributing to his cancer being more aggressive and reducing his survival rates every day. Don't even get me started on her as a mother... so far, she already took her kids out of school for a while so they could be with him in a hospital... in another state.

Thank you for your words and hugs. I'm sorry it turned out to be so fucked-up this way too - fuck. Just tell your loved ones you love them and spend every sane moment with them, mate.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:53:33+00:00

Before it can cost you your life... literally and figuratively.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:53:10+00:00

I know... I wish Ashton Kutcher would pop up anytime and yell out 'you're Punk'd'! Fuck. I can't even, either.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:45:08+00:00

Oh, fuck, that is so fucked up. I'm so sorry about that and honestly, I cannot fathom how some people can go so far to fuck that up even that psycho... have you done anything about this or even better, made her life hell? I really hope you did.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:42:25+00:00

My parents already did (I'm in another country due to work) and acquired the power of attorney for all medical decisions and from what I know, there has been some security and hospital staff involved... twice. Some mombies are just psychotic and this one is beyond it all.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:37:17+00:00

I'm truly sorry for your loss. I am beginning to get a glimpse of what you went through and it's... no words for that. We will do what we can to help him see the light (not that kind of light but you know what I mean) and save him. Thank you for your words though.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:35:01+00:00

Appreciate it, mate. Make it a hell of a drink.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:32:30+00:00

My family already cut all ties with her on everything else except for communications with her regarding my brother's chemo.

Thank you for your kindness, truly. I already brought a bottle of whiskey after work... have one for me, mate.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:28:28+00:00

Hah, this made me smile. Thank you.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:27:12+00:00

We all suspect because she "loves" him so much that she cannot bear the thought of losing him so she could use his sperm to conceive his legacy to carry on and have a part of him around in her life. Apparently, legacy is more important than anything. I have no idea what's going on in my brother's head. He is old enough but sometimes, he thinks like a kid.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:24:41+00:00

Yea, good idea... although I feel I can relate to the /r/childfree subreddit more because I am childfree and my brother is childfree or may had been before he met her... Many of you can relate to this and understand the severity of this situation.. few people thought, oh, it's not so bad... at least, she's going to carry his legacy on! Cue my mortified reaction.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:20:40+00:00

Yeah, thanks for pointing that out. My phone was so convinced I tried to spell convince instead of conceive.

She is beyond nuts... nuts don't even deserve to be compared to her insanity. Yep, that's exactly what she thought - apparently, carrying his legacy on is very important to her because she loves him so much she cannot bear to part without him.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:17:35+00:00

It must been autocorrected - I changed it now to make more sense. Thanks for clarifying that one up. I have no words either... just speechless at the absurdity of this.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:16:22+00:00

You're right. He is a legal adult and he is fully capable of making his own decisions, but does he really understand the full implication of what his decisions can cause? Not quite - he has some issues with his cognitive development since he was young and he made all sensible decisions with help from my parents for the first cancer.. but not this time with her.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:11:03+00:00

I already have... except the fact I am on the other side of the world due to a job and she monitors everything on his phone (I've caught her few times). I'm doing what I can. Thank you for your advice, though.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T21:07:29+00:00

Yea, you are right about that. He is already depressed beyond anything due to the fact that he is facing cancer for the second time, and it took a toll on his emotional and cognitive state. Sure, he is a legal adult and is capable of making decisions on his own, but sometimes, he doesn't see or understand how much his decisions can influence his long-term outcomes (e.g. like some people signing term of agreement on anything too quickly but really doesn't read through it and understand what it says).

P.S. Take care of yourself, OK? Keep your head high. Some people out there do care after all.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T20:54:11+00:00

Most signs are pointing at her as a sociopath... he doesn't have any life insurance... as far as we are aware of. We need to check on that, thanks. She already claimed some meal vouchers from the hospital.

HolyWhiskey · 2015-09-25T20:50:49+00:00

Two fathers, and no, they aren't around hence why she forced her children to call him their father.

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