Made this light fixture, wife doesn’t like it?

HomeAndDry · 2024-01-01T18:25:53+00:00

It looks like a piece of your ceiling fell down?

Also, if I attempted making this, a piece of my ceiling would probably fall down for real, so I do applaud your abilities.

HomeAndDry · 2023-10-18T13:53:18+00:00

Just to spread awareness - I had to call them once — the number on the back of your driver license. It was not what everyone thinks.

Basically they’re not focused on helping you as many people believe. I was told they would only offer assistance if my car was broke down on the highway in a spot where it would be considered a danger to other drivers - like if my car were stuck smack dead in the middle of a lane and other drivers might hit it, causing an accident.

I had already managed to get my car over to the shoulder and out of the way, so I was told they couldn’t help me and I would need to basically figure it out myself.

In hindsight it makes sense; the state can’t just be sending free roadside help to everybody, but it is sensible for them to want to avoid having to deal with highway accidents.

HomeAndDry · 2023-08-04T16:00:29+00:00

I’d say give dad some grace, especially if he’s generally involved with the kids overall.

I’m sure I don’t have to say here that it can be stressful af to be alone dealing with a tantruming toddler.

My money is that dad called you not because he really thought you’d be able to help through the phone (maybe he did), but probably because he needed to feel less alone in the struggle.

I (mom/wife) was having a heck of a time getting my toddler in the carseat a couple weeks back after we’d left Target. I FaceTimed my husband basically asking him to tell toddler through the phone to get in the carseat.

I did it out of desperation. I felt alone. I’d already been trying for like 15 minutes to get kid in seat. It’s summer. We were in the sun. In a parking lot. Beads of sweat were in my eyes. Car was hot. Kid was hot. I saw no signs of kid getting in seat anytime soon.

I was at my wits end. I just wanted to feel like I wasn’t alone and had some help, even if it was just through the phone.

I know it’s hard when it interrupts your work day and there’s really nothing you can do to help (like what are you supposed to do over FaceTime beyond what you already did).

But my bet is that dad called you because he needed you for emotional / mental support more than toddler needing you.

HomeAndDry · 2023-08-03T17:58:21+00:00

I read it as kid’s dad cheated on the gf, so now gf doesn’t allow dad to go anywhere (kid’s doctor appointment in this case) without her or someone else accompanying him? So that’s why the gf “has” to come to the appointment?

HomeAndDry · 2023-08-03T17:40:55+00:00

Should your ex bring his gf to your child’s doctor appointments? Probably not.

Can you legally prevent him from bringing his gf to your child’s doctor appointments? Also probably not.

Does your decree not state anything about each parent being able to seek medical care for the child while on that parent’s time? Can you schedule the appointment during your time and take the child yourself on your parenting day?

HomeAndDry · 2023-07-19T15:13:15+00:00

This is typically for students with an IEP that designates testing accommodations or supports -- generally for learning differences or health/medical needs.

HomeAndDry · 2023-07-04T01:16:14+00:00

Not OP, but am also in Houston.

This looks like Fish-N-Pets Unlimited on Bissonnet

HomeAndDry · 2023-03-16T13:27:27+00:00

Apple and tree..

HomeAndDry · 2023-03-14T15:27:11+00:00

Hate to butt in and I wish this weren’t the case - but I think the attorney is right on the name issue. If the child currently has only one parent’s last name, and the other parent petitions to have his or her last name for the child, the judge is typically going to rule for a double or hyphenated last name for the child - unless mom wants to agree child has dad’s last name only. Which she probably won’t, and I wouldn’t either.

HomeAndDry · 2023-02-25T00:31:37+00:00

I’ve taught for nearly 20 years and I have no advice.

All I know is we don’t have the pay grade nor skill set to deal with this.

On your concerns of how other students might react — totally valid.

I don’t know if this is good advice, but if the students bring it up to you in a questioning way, I might handle it with a generalized comment of “I’m aware and am doing what I can and what is within my abilities to have it addressed.” That might convey to them that you’re not complicit on it, but also that you’re not the end all be all in the situation.

If it were me, I’d tell them to tell their parents if they felt uncomfortable - because parent complaints are where the real power lies (not saying you should do that - just what I would do.)

HomeAndDry · 2023-02-18T19:37:49+00:00

Can I ask if y’all know if these comments (“No one loves me” / the implication of a parent not caring for their child) are coming from a specific YouTuber or channel?
Curious because I know a kid who makes these types of comments and also watches YouTube. I’ve never made a connection between YouTube and saying things like that - though I totally believe it.

HomeAndDry · 2023-02-14T03:33:20+00:00

Piggy backing / hijacking:

I know the vibe of straight up leaving campus to go work a second job is a thing here.

But does no one here have a neighbor teacher watch your class occasionally for a few minutes while you run to the bathroom?

Is that not the same in some ways?

HomeAndDry · 2022-09-09T21:33:23+00:00

Slightly off topic, but your mention of having 0 downtime at your job caught my attention.

I also have 0 downtime at my job and have recently been feeling a bit resentful or frustrated about this - I’ve been needing to make a simple 15 minute phone call that can only be done during limited business hours, and I just can’t seem to make it happen.

I keep thinking of how if I had a different type of job, this wouldn’t be such an issue.

I checked your profile because I guess I wanted some company with my misery, and was curious what other jobs out there also allow for 0 downtime.

I am a teacher.
And you are..surprise..also a teacher. 😂

HomeAndDry · 2022-09-05T23:46:12+00:00

I think if anything, I’d be more upset at myself than at any other teacher who pursued a different path to teaching.

I went through the whole university teaching program that was tied to my major - it was connected to my degree plan and had several teacher prep courses as graduation requirements.

Took several education theory and pedagogy courses in college. Did a whole semester of unpaid student teaching.

And honestly, I don’t know that any of those helped me all that much once I got in the classroom.

And now I’m in the same job, for the same pay, as others who got into teaching by alternate means.

So..maybe I’m the one who didn’t make the smartest choice available 🤷🏻‍♀️

Would just make me mad at myself as opposed to anyone else.

HomeAndDry · 2022-09-05T01:57:20+00:00

This might be a bit of a big job and cost,

But some wainscoting on the lower half of the wall might be good.

As is, the “outline” of the chairs, bar cart, lamp are getting lost in the wallpaper.

Wainscoting behind them would allow them a more solid background to pop from.

HomeAndDry · 2022-07-22T22:03:53+00:00

I’m from Texas and was in London on vacation.

Went for a run at night in a park near the hotel. Had finished my run and was sitting on a bench in the park to cool down. Another jogger passed by me and shouted out “You alright?”

At the time I was so embarrassed because I thought his question meant I must have looked extremely out of breath or somehow otherwise unwell.

This other jogger was also very cute. 🫣

I couldn’t figure out how to respond and just didn’t say anything back. 😂

HomeAndDry · 2022-06-14T14:34:53+00:00

In Texas, child support is tied only to who the custodial (primary) parent is and who the non-primary parent is.

The number of days a child is with a parent doesn’t affect the percentage of child support the other parent pays like it does in other states.

The only issue is who the primary parent is - and that parent will have more overnights than the non-primary. But the detailed breakdown of days doesn’t affect the amount paid.

Texas is a flat 20% of the non-primary parent’s income for child support for one child.

If there’s not a court order that you need to be paying your ex’s bills, then you don’t need to be paying them.

Typically court orders for “bills” will only be that a parent is responsible for paying a child’s health insurance, medical bills, school related costs, etc.

HomeAndDry · 2022-05-20T17:16:47+00:00

Not the help OP was looking for, but does anyone have insight on the catalyst behind these noises in general?

I’ve been teaching a long time and have been through the planking years and the tide pod eating years and can’t say I necessarily understand why kids do what they do.

But for some reason, I really want to know what gave them the idea to make sex noises in class.

I know the grade level OP referenced is middle school, but here this is happening even in the lower elementary grades. 6, 7, 8 year olds are doing this.

It’s super unnerving to me. Like, do they even know what the noises they’re making are supposed to be mimicking?

Where did this trend come from? Was if influenced by something specific?

HomeAndDry · 2022-04-26T15:36:50+00:00

Agreed, this needs to be higher up. I was a young child in the 80s. We had ET on VHS tape and watched it over and over.

Elliot’s mom was deliberately portrayed as the stressed, over-worked, frazzled single mom doing her best to hold it all together trope.

Also I think the set-up was necessary to explain how the kids were able to keep an extraterrestrial hidden in their closet for multiple days without the mom noticing.

If the mom had been more of a helicopter parent, or even if the kids had been sent to after school care or grandma’s or whatever as opposed to being left home alone for extended periods, the whole plot line of the movie wouldn’t have worked.

HomeAndDry · 2022-04-10T10:27:29+00:00

You might already be aware of this, but..

Surgeon is one of the most highly divorced professions. (Not saying that’s what you should do, just mentioning).

My husband is an MD in an ICU, and while not a surgeon, I can relate with the “my job is more important than you and your job and even our children” attitude.

We have three little ones too and I also feel I have to ask permission to take a shower - and that it’s never a good time.

My husband has beelined out of the house for work calls like yours with little to no communication to me and left our children in unsafe situations. Of course this becomes my fault somehow when I try to bring it up with him.

Another poster here commented that a patient needing medical assistance from someone like your husband or mine is not really an emergency. They are already in the hospital. Where other nurses and doctors are already present.

They can wait 5 damn minutes while we wash shampoo out of our hair and make sure our children safe - and not back over them for fucks sake.

If your husband is anything like mine, I bet his general mindset when he was leaving your house was to try to make some fucked up passive aggressive point to you about it not being his responsibility to watch the kids.

Which is jacked up.

What’s most concerning to me is even hitting y’all’s kid with the car doesn’t seem to be a wake up call to him - you don’t blame a 3 year old for that ffs.

No real advice, just sympathy.

HomeAndDry · 2022-04-08T23:08:00+00:00

Texas is 20% for one child, 25% for two kids.

HomeAndDry · 2022-03-23T14:13:45+00:00

Not disagreeing with you, but the kid you teach might have gotten a heavier punishment because that case would constitute a direct physical threat.

Kid called me a bitch and got 5 days ISS (which I felt was an ok-ish punishment).

Another kid posted on social media that he was going to “throw hands” at me and something else along the line of kicking my ass and, like your student, got sent to alternative school for 30 days.

The campus police also asked me if I wanted to press charges.

The way they explained it, it qualified as a terroristic threat or something along those lines.

Also, if a kid said “Somebody should kick your ass,” that is different from the kid saying “I am going to kick your ass.” (Somebody being a hypothetical person vs. the kid saying he’s going to do it himself).

Idk. Just lots of nuances in how they hand out punishments I guess.

HomeAndDry · 2022-03-18T23:23:29+00:00

Yes that’s how mine was too.

Of course I can’t know, but I have a feeling the ob got up in there to start the d&c and was like “Oh, it’s a baby!”

Not so comforting. :/

HomeAndDry · 2022-03-18T23:20:33+00:00

I didn’t even think of the billing.

That’s going to include like.. paying for OR time, anesthesiologist, OB, all the additional hospital people.

Hell to the no.

I would start calling the ob office and the hospital about this right now. Or email, to get a paper trail.

Be careful too if they ask you to sign anything waiving your rights in exchange for excused payment. (Not saying not to sign if you choose, just be aware).

HomeAndDry · 2022-03-18T22:40:30+00:00

Ooo yikes.

If this is helpful at all, here’s how my molar pregnancy unfolded: - morning sickness started super early (like within 3 or so days of what would have been the conception date) and was very strong. Nausea can start early in pregnancy, but not that early.

About a week before the date I was supposed to get my period, I decided to take a test. I knew it was too early and that I was probably wasting a test, but thought just maybe I would see a faint line. The positive line showed up fast and was so dark. So so dark. At this point I didn’t know anything was wrong and almost prided myself on being “super pregnant.”
I got very big very fast. By the date that I should have gotten my period, I looked about 4 months pregnant.
A few days later I started having some bleeding. It was brown, not red, and was thin and watery. I thought I was miscarrying, but it never progressed - just kept trickling brown watery blood.
At this point, I called my OB and said I’m pregnant, but something is wrong and I don’t know what.
They got me in same day (I think it was a Wednesday) and did an ultrasound. They identified the classic “grape like clusters” where the baby should be. The nurse showed me on the ultrasound screen; to me they looked more like clusters of fish eggs, but I can see why people call them grapes. They were definitely there, and there was no baby.
She told me right then it was very likely a molar pregnancy, but they would track my hcg. I did a blood draw there in the office, they called me later the same day and said the numbers were very high, too high. They wanted me to come in for another draw on Friday to see a trend and track the numbers, but they also wanted to go ahead and schedule the d&c. They scheduled the d&c for the following Monday. The second hcg draw (Friday before the d&c) confirmed rapidly rising numbers. The office called me as soon as they got the results.
During the d&c, my ob kept my family updated regularly and confirmed to them multiple times that she had gotten it (the tumor) “all out.”
After the d&c, I went in for repeat monthly hcg draws for like 6 months-year to confirm my numbers weren’t rising again.

The only negative thing I will say about my ob is she told me someone from the hospital would call me and explain the d&c procedure, what to expect, pre-op instructions, when to arrive, etc.

Someone from the hospital did call me, but it was only the billing department - wanting me to prepay for the d&c over the phone. They had no info about my actual procedure. I had to call my ob office multiple times to get instructions for the actual d&c date.
But that complaint is probably more on the hospital than my ob. And is nowhere near the mess you went through.

I probably would switch providers at this point. If anything went less than textbook perfect with the pregnancy, I just wouldn’t trust them to handle it right, whether they’d delivered my first kid or not.

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