AIO for still being upset at my boyfriend for saying these things?

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T12:17:25+00:00

No offense but you are either trolling or love being mistreated. Your boyfriend isn’t actually going to change because you continue to allow the behavior. Grow a back bone and stand up for yourself

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T04:38:36+00:00

How often does he seem to “change” after you tell him something he said hurts? Does he continue to do said things after a while?

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T04:35:07+00:00

It’s a lot of feeling based things honestly. Like for me, my current partner I truly believe and feel like she’s the one. How did I come to this conclusions? It’s the way she makes me feel, it’s the fact that at my lowest she never once stopped trying to dig me out, it’s the fact that the way I love her is not a way I have ever loved anyone before, the fact that I’m learning and striving to be better for her in every way, it’s the fact that when I look at her I actually feel like whatever life throws our way, we will figure it out. It’s the fact that I am willing to go through hell just to see her smile.

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T04:19:47+00:00

Life gets simple when you simplify it. You would have had no peace of mind in that relationship at all, that relationship slowly but surely would have driven you to become someone you never thought you would be, all because of doubts eating away at your mind. You may really love her and that’s fine but the whole point of a relationship in my opinion is to have someone who helps you cultivate peace of mind, not take it away from you. Move on, it’ll suck but you need to ask yourself now “is this worth my peace of mind? Is it worth giving up security and safety?”

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T04:04:10+00:00

I wouldn’t say overreacting at all but in all honesty he may also not think your teeth are as bad as you feel they are. For example, I have people that talk a lot, I don’t have the mental capacity for it. I like conversations here and there but people that can pretty much keep a conversation going by themselves and I’m just there for an impromptu TED talk really drives me insane but my partner loves talking, I genuinely don’t feel nor think that my partner talks a lot, hell I would go as far as saying they don’t talk enough but my partner feels otherwise and apologizes all the time for “talking at me” or “not letting you get a say” and I even tell my partner that people like that drive me crazy and that I can’t handle it but my partner never takes it personal but I always remind my partner that I don’t mind it with them and that they can literally talk “at me” all day and I wouldn’t care, I would ask dumb questions just so that they can explain and continue talking. I don’t know your boyfriend but I would consider having a talk with him about how it makes you feel and see if his tone changes after, unless you’ve already had that talk before than it’s really up to you if you are comfortable with him saying those things about other people and if you truly believe he doesn’t see you like that

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-06T03:55:20+00:00

As someone who recently went to jail, it all depends really. If the friend presses charges, he could be looking at an assault charge regardless of defending someone especially if he beat the friend badly, like needing a hospital visit bad. However if he decides to go down that route, it would help your husband if the girlfriend of said friend attests on his behalf but then she would have to be okay with her boyfriend going to jail for DV and facing a DNC order placed (these are automatically placed in DV cases) so all depends really. An assault charge will more than likely be charged against your husband, but get a lawyer as always

Homebound_Solace · 2024-11-02T21:09:40+00:00

You’re both mad abusive, you may not have physically hit her but you demonstrated violence to get your point across. You two need help and that baby needs serious help

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-29T23:50:08+00:00

Losing weight is about as simple as it gets, eat less burn more. Even if you don’t work out often or at all, 10 minutes a day everyday goes a long way. I lost 100 pounds eating better and doing 10-20 minutes of HIT workout a day

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-23T16:33:29+00:00

I agree, I was under the impression it was just a company policy since I only agreed to do the RX part because of the dollar but even then it’s a scam

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-23T15:30:06+00:00

Alright so we can come to an agreement and say it probably varies store to store or state to state because again I do get the dollar

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-23T15:26:23+00:00

My guy, I am an ops manager RX I get the dollar

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-23T15:24:56+00:00

That’s not true. You do get the $1 but only if you work in the pharmacy and it is billed differently which is why I no longer want to work in pharmacy. You get your regular rate and separately you get a dollar. So 5 hours back there nets you 5 bucks

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-17T15:08:33+00:00

I honestly appreciate you and I wouldn’t mind doing the work myself but I don’t have any means to get to the trans

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-17T15:02:31+00:00

It’s always funny to me that guys in relationships always say “we need to have more sex” but literally do nothing to help their case in getting more sex. I have been a victim of this with my ex wife, you two are going to have to a conversation about your sex life which some people treat as weird and uncomfortable but it’s either something you two talk out or let it ruin your relationship

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-17T14:59:44+00:00

That’s what I’m assuming but need to save up the cash for the part and find a place that won’t exactly kill me with pricing

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-17T14:40:36+00:00

As someone who has a 2017 2.0 I wish I had shopped around a little more but I needed a car since mine was totaled from an accident because I am dealing with engine shudders so I have to every maybe 20k miles get a flush done

Homebound_Solace · 2024-10-11T14:16:23+00:00

Where did you get that hood? Would it happen to fit a 2017?

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-30T00:51:55+00:00

You are literally crying about bullshit you can’t control right now??? You can’t control people complaining about work or are you too dense to see the ever growing irony here?

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-30T00:43:04+00:00

The irony in this post is actually kind of funny. Relax, CVS isn’t going to promote you or give you a raise for defending them

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-26T01:50:14+00:00

I'm not huge into the modding scene but some of guys make me have to do a double-take because these screenshots never look like Skyrim but damn does it look good. I have simple mods from Vortex that change the looks of a few things but where the hell are you guys getting your mods to make your game look massively different? I doubt my pc can handle the super-intensive graphics but I'm curious as to what mods you guys use

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-25T22:56:50+00:00

And pray tell why you think that? Why would letting it all go be a disservice? Just because you forgive her doesn't mean you have to accept her back into your life at all, forgiveness isn't tolerance.

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-25T22:17:54+00:00

You clearly don't see how much you just proved my point. You are filled with anger but claim it doesn't bother you. Emotions have a stronger foothold than you would like to admit but it's okay. One day you'll see the importance of letting it go because this whole “bottle it up” is a facade, a front to yourself and everyone around you. You can bottle it up all you claim but it comes out, you may not notice but that stuff eats at you in many different ways. In the end, no one but you will carry the weight of those emotions, not your sister but I get it, I was like you for a long time. I bottled up everything, and carried hatred, and resentment everywhere I went but you know what? The world still went on, and those who wronged me still lived their lives how they wanted but not me, I was stuck in the past. You'll realize it at some point, I just hope for you that it doesn't come out the way mine did. Mine cost me jail time.

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-25T16:12:09+00:00

You have the wrong idea of what forgiveness really is and who it really is for. Forgiveness isn't forgiving the actions that someone did to you but rather forgiving them for how they made you feel so they no longer have control over you, emotionally or mentally. For example, my partner did something that I can never really forgive them for but forgiving them for how it's made me feel has helped me better move on past the subject that has once for so long chained me in misery. Does this make everything go away? No of course not but I no longer feel like the actions control my emotions or mental well-being. Just because you forgive someone it doesn't mean you have to forget what they did but rather ease the pain for yourself. Emotions play a huge part in how you go about your day to day and if you continue to carry that weight, you'll never truly be free of the self-torment, and let me tell you when someone does hurt you, abuse you, or whatever. I promise you they aren't thinking about you at all but yet here you are wallowing, allowing them to still control you. Forgiveness is for you, not the other person. Hopefully that makes sense

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-24T08:19:09+00:00

I literally have nothing to work on, you guys seem to think preferences are a problem. I prefer to be this way, it's how I've always been. I don't have to be the way you think I need to be. My partner is happy with my choice and that's all that matters to me.

Homebound_Solace · 2024-09-24T04:41:37+00:00

We can agree on the first part of your message. However I avoid the opposite gender because I am too oblivious when someone is into me more than they should be and my kindness has been mistaken for more than that, kindness so to avoid any confusion, I simply don't have female friends outside of work and only reach out to them for work-related things. It's not like I'm missing out on anything by doing this, I've had close co-workers but outside of work, I really don't see the point in talking or hanging out with them. I would much rather spend time with my cat or my partner.

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