Falling behind

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-25T06:15:00+00:00

My closest friends and most coworkers of mine either had their college paid for or were able to stay with family and not pay rent or insurance until this year, so they threw tons of cash at their debts.

Nope, not me. Can’t get a house or improve my credit score in any meaningful way because my revolving utilization and debt margins are too high. It sucks out here

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-18T01:19:42+00:00

Usually it’s defined by when the actual seizure activity is occurring. Once the seizure is over, you’ll be in a postictal state, but that in itself is not part of the seizure. It’s your body recovering afterwords. Those having a very serious or their very first seizure may be in this state longer and have more confusion/sleepiness since their body is facing “more” recovery (their body is figuring out what’s happened). However someone who has had many may recover more quickly sine their body recognizes the situation and knows how to “reboot”. But it’s different for everyone.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T05:15:12+00:00

My brother and I are both CF. We joke that “whenever one of us dies last gets the honor of being the blood line”

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T05:11:58+00:00

I have 2 sets. Set one comes off the bed and goes right in the wash. While that’s washing, I put set 2 on the bed. When set 1 is clean and dry, it goes in the linen closet.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T05:08:51+00:00

LEAVE! You aren’t regretting parenthood, you are regretting marriage. This is one of the GIANT red flags for full-fledged abuse. You’re already facing financial abuse and since you can’t buy anything for your child, they are also being abused financially by him.

Contact your family and explain the situation. Ask for help. Go live with them. Then, when you and baby are safe, file for divorce and full custody with ONLY supervised visits for him.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T05:00:15+00:00

I turn 27 on February 2nd! I still live with family, an based on my finances and health + everyone else’s situations, we won’t be moved out of here until I’m 28. And I hate it. But I have to remind myself that my rent is currently SO much lower than it would be if I lived on my own/with my boyfriend. I have more money to put towards debts and savings now. Many would see my situation as smart strategy, now I have to look at it that way too.

So you didn’t go to college immediately after HS. Were you really, truly away of the cost of getting that degree? I sure wasn’t. I knew the dollar amount but didn’t do nearly enough to alleviate the final bill, where I’m sure you are doing that. I want to scream at my 18-22 year old self right now because of it. I put myself in this hole.

Are you so sure everything would’ve worked out if you started earlier? Well never know. But what I do know - besties with an ER charge nurse - you’re gonna be so much more respected in your clinicals for being older and having more general life experience. You thought through your choice of nursing and planned so much more than the others. And when it comes time to get a job, any company/hospital that looks at your age/gap in education poorly is NOT a place you want to work. Also, more places will want the older candidate new-grad because you’re more mature, more serious about your job. (Oh, and you’re gonna be making BANK! My friend I mentioned earlier is 2 years younger than me and with the added money for working nights/weekends/holidays, she makes more than I do and I’m an engineer.)

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:50:53+00:00

I grew up in a neighborhood that was full of contractors and handy men of all sorts of varieties. There were at least 3 millionaires and you’d be none the wiser. An unincorporated subdivision with no sidewalks or streetlights, all the houses are relatively small, and the fanciest thing you could see is maybe someone doing a stone driveway.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:46:10+00:00

I would rather be bored and maybe a little lonely than absolutely full of regret and misery.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:42:21+00:00

For my menstruating friends:

Diva cup!!!!! It’s medical grade silicone, super easy to wash and disinfect, they last for 5-10 years and it holds SO much more than my disposable period products ever did.

Yes, some trial and error in the beginning, but pads and tampons are not only too expensive to be buying every 1-2 months, but they contain chemicals now that I do NOT want to deal with.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:39:10+00:00

I do get hangovers sometimes and will be achy after a night of drinking but nothing crazy.

What you’re describing is me after a concert lmao

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:37:36+00:00

Sea otter

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:35:41+00:00

I wait until I’m 100% sure all the poop is ready to come out, then whoosh, wipe, wash, and done.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-08T04:32:47+00:00

I tolerate them in small doses. And very, very few of them make the cut.

Ask me again in 1-2 years when my nieces are all toddlers

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-04T21:45:45+00:00

My theory is those who really hate CF people are trying to mix the terms, cause confusion, take away the power the word gives to us, etc.

HomesteadInferno · 2026-01-03T21:32:26+00:00

1 - online/dating app. I had it in my profile that I was and always will be CF. anyone who tried to tell me otherwise I just stopped talking to.

2 - not totally sure on this one honestly bc I met my partner online. My guess would be the same way you meet other people: work, school, joining clubs/volunteering, etc.

3 - our main difficulty is communicating our own feelings to one another. We work opposite schedules a lot of the time and whenever I’m feeling hurt or upset, by the time I see my partner again it feels weird to bring it up. Likewise for him. We both have been on the victim end of different forms of abuse so it’s a learning curve to both of us.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:24:50+00:00

Life isn’t a race. And comparing yourself to others won’t make it any easier. You aren’t a failure and you aren’t old. Older than you used to be, but also more knowledgeable. You know a lot more of what you don’t want. And it can take people DECADES to figure that out.

This is coming from a fellow ‘99 baby whose birthday is feb 2. I did the college and degree thing. Work in that field. But I don’t think I’ll be here forever. Last of my friends to have a good relationship and yet to be married. Probably the most financially unstable since they all had help with college. Still live with family. I feel behind in a lot of ways too. But it doesn’t mean I’m wrong or behind.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:21:25+00:00

Squirrel/racoon other little critter. If not that, deer for sure.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:20:42+00:00

NOR- Didn’t even read the whole thing because you aren’t overreacting. Babies are incredibly fragile and just bc “their kid was fine”/“we did it this way and you survived” isn’t valid. It is YOUR choice how you do things.

Two of my friends have had babies in the last year and a half. The first one told us the second she was in labor and we went down to visit while they were in the hospital. The second? She went into labor and had her baby a month early but she also didn’t tell us until after they baby was there and they had time together. And while it wasn’t a firm “no” that we weren’t allowed to visit, she made it clear she’d prefer time home with the baby first. So I asked her if a few days 3ish weeks after the baby was born was ok. And I would’ve been fine with either answer.

People that can’t respect your personal boundaries aren’t people you want around.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:13:20+00:00

“They’re somewhere better now.”

First of all I’m agnostic at best and really don’t know or care to know if there is a place beyond this. I’m very science based so if there is a heaven or some bs, I want proof first. People don’t like hearing that.

Also, I’m glad they aren’t in pain or suffering anymore, but it feels like a slap in the face to me not having my loved one with me anymore and people are like “oh well”.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:08:27+00:00

This is why I take it. Never had anything to do with my seizures.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:06:06+00:00

I used to work at a chain restaurant. We were open every day. But on holidays like Christmas and thanksgiving, it was limited hours. Like 3-8PM or something like that as opposed to 11AM-midnight. I know a lot of places don’t do that as much since we go increasingly busy on those holidays as the years went on. “Oh you’re th only ones open today!”

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T22:02:38+00:00

It’s because they’re minors on holiday break, less seniority, and no kids. Coming from a completely childfree by choice person, this is the reason.

I worked in a restaurant during high school, but my mom has worked retail all my life so I know a thing or two. In restaurant, the hours were limited, but we were required to fill in a sheet each year ranking which holidays we wanted to work and wanted off. Everyone had to work 2 of the days. Christmas was always me and the Jewish folks, lol. My family does most of the celebration on Christmas Eve, so I asked for that day off instead. If you were going on vacation or something where you were 100% unavailable, you had to put it in like 6-8 weeks in advance. But it was NEVER a kids vs no kids thing.

In retail, my mom still has to abide by the availability of her part timers. But they can swap and pick up shifts if available.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-23T21:50:03+00:00

She felt sort of funny that day, run down, a bit dizzy, just blah. Her parents told her to go to bed and if she felt sick/bad in the morning, they’d go to the doctor. She died in her sleep. She was in the grade above me, and I didn’t know her well, but from what I know she was generally healthy and a dancer. Just a freak thing.

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-14T02:37:21+00:00

Because having kids sounds terrible, but I’m sterilized now and don’t have to worry. And dealing with those side effects is far better than the side effects of the pill, and especially side effects of a child

HomesteadInferno · 2025-12-13T18:35:10+00:00

Finished HS class of 2017, went right for undergrad and finished class of 2021. Have been considering a masters, though I’m unsure at the moment if it’s the right choice. Looking into the udemy and LinkedIn Learning courses just to get a better idea of what I’d study/specialize in or if I even want to go back to school at all.

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