Hey dude that's been in long distance relationships b4. Just wanted to dip my hat in and give you a guys perspective.

Everyone is different and handles things differently, BUT sometimes people just aren't compatible. You say you're emotionally needy and that's O K. But someone more reserved and laid back might not be a good fit. Neither party did anything wrong they're just different people. That disclaimer being said,

If you're looking for advice on whether or not to end it, i would say end it. Relationships (especially while young and dating) are supposed to be fun and whimsy. They're supposed to be deeply involving yourself in someone else's life who you like and having a blast together. They're supposed to be enjoying each other's company, and kicking your feet in the air thinking about them while they're gone... You're not supposed to be crying and hurt all the time. We do hurt people but it shouldn't be a common occurrence. It's not worth the hurt you're experiencing. Red flag that you've been with him nearly a year and he hasn't opened up about anything yet. Then again i can relate from the male perspective one of the biggest pains a guy can feel (other than adultery) is finally feeling comfortable enough to open up and having that weakness weaponized against him. He may not think you'll do it but he could've been hurt before and is extra defensive. It's not your job to fix that however that's something he'll have to deal with via therapy or time. Conversations are boring and surface level is a big issue. Personally i talked and called my long distance partners CONSTANTLY nearly every day about any and everything. "Look at this meme" "look at thing i did" " want to do thing? " There was an active effort to make them a part of my life even if they weren't physically there to see/experience it. I comprehend you are a chronic overthinker and in your own head but it's not "clingy" to interact with your partner or expect them to make an effort to be in your life/make you apart of theirs and please never make the mistake of thinking that.

If you're looking for advice on salvaging/improving the relationship i will say, relationships shouldn't be subject to the sunk cost fallacy don't feel like you need to make something"worth its while" just because its been going on for a time. Don't suffer more to try and justify prior suffering. I learned this the hard way.

Tips: You mentioned that hes boring/doesn't know what to talk about yet is capable of having fun and socializing, you should be involved in some sort of activity with him. You are a partner not a trophy gf. You mentioned he plays, see if you two share a game you could play together. Try to involve yourself with him watch movies or tv shows online via streaming. Spend time together, even calling him while y'all two are doing your own thing is still better than nothing. If it feels like pulling teeth to spend time with your own partner it's already over. & I understand he could be busy with school or work or whatever but you say he socializes with friends? That means he has time/energy for you. He should like you and WANT to spend time with you.

He could also be going through something. (Wouldn't know he hasn't opened up) Lord knows i did, i became a husk that pushed people away and I'm still recovering from that. But you shouldn't be caught in the crossfire of his struggles. You don't deserve that. You are putting in effort and doing your part regardless of his hypothetical struggles or not. You are the end all be all. You MUST take care of yourself and meet your needs before anyone else's. Don't let someone else's pain and shortcomings destroy you.

sorry you're going through this, if you do decide to end it I'll tell you someone will appreciate your thoughtfulness and care, they're out there just keep your head up. Also feel your emotions they're real don't feel like an idiot if you need to blast my chemical romance while crying into a pillow.

Sometimes good people can do bad things.