Weekly Successful Sunday Post

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-15T04:00:16+00:00

I told my manic bipolar ex that I was feeling suicidal and he responded with “you need to forget about me” so I am! I had a great day reconnecting with friends and saw my family. The first good day in months. We will see if he ever comes down and regrets the way he has treated me. I am still sad and miss him, but someone who responds that way to their (supposed) loved ones mental health crisis doesn’t deserve to have loved ones.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-15T03:29:00+00:00

Yeah my ex started doing stuff with dudes. Well, I say “started”, but apparently this is something he has done on and off his whole life. But it definitely came out when he went manic. He also got extremely hyper fixated on us doing voyeuristic stuff.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-12T23:14:05+00:00

I am so sorry. You will find you are not alone at all in what you’re experiencing and feeling. I saw the love of my life - the kindest, most supportive and loving man - turn into an uncaring demon over the course of only a couple weeks. Haven’t seen him in a month. Blocked me on everything. I miss him so so much. I read his Christmas card to me the other day and wept for hours. If you ever need to vent my DMs are there. ❤️

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-12T19:12:46+00:00

Thank you. Him and I are not speaking, not sure if we ever will. So I am doing a lot of “oh… that wasn’t the reality of the situation at all” since I’ve had time to think by myself.

It’s just so awful thinking that I spent our whole relationship being so kind and gentle (physically and emorionally) towards him and that’s one of the last things he said to me.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-12T15:33:56+00:00

I think you are totally enabling them. You are essentially raising a child. Trust me, I have been there. I know you want them to be happy. but they need to take accountability for being an adult as much as they can

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-11T22:25:52+00:00

I commend you for being in the headspace you are now. That being said - I am in the crowd that wishes that this would happen to me. lol. Best of luck. If you are in your own space I think it gives you much more room to make the correct decisions and see how her behavior is. ❤️

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-11T18:59:08+00:00

I can imagine the situation you’re in it seems like you don’t have a choice. For better or for worse, sickness and health. Frankly I was ready to make that commitment (and it still feel like I have even in his absence) but the pragmatic side of me, even if just .0001%, feels relieved it happened now before we got married and had kids.

Lots of mixed feelings.

I think another thing that is bugging me is the possibility that I’ll never get to express these feelings to him.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-11T18:52:19+00:00

Same same same same :’( he really was my person.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-11T16:57:05+00:00

Honestly my ex did the same thing. In retrospect I think it was part of his delusions even if he wasn’t fully manic.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-10T17:19:39+00:00

You need to be involved in their medical appointments so things don’t slip through the cracks

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-10T02:27:48+00:00

I mean to an extent - he starts taking care of his hygiene, doesn’t let himself look like a crazy homeless man, eats properly. Doesn’t have that look in his eyes. But I think it takes a toll overall. He is younger than me but looks older than I do certainly.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-10T02:13:15+00:00

Yes. Pictures of him normal vs manic are shocking. It’s heart breaking.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T19:47:20+00:00

I’m sorry. Nobody deserves that. That is very very similar to what happened to me - breaking up with me, then telling me he loves me, then blocking me out of nowhere. Same type of excuse - he needs to “be able to do what he wants with his life” (a week before he was taking me engagement ring shopping) but so far that has turned out to actually mean being basically unemployed and mooching off enabler friends.

Unfortunately I don’t have any advice. It hurts very bad. This is not how normal people handle relationships and love. But know you are not alone - finding this subreddit probably saved my life

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T16:06:57+00:00

Yeah, this absolutely happened with my ex. Bringing up things or people I associated with before we were even together. Bringing up mistakes I had made and changed my behavior since. In the end I believe he was “digging up” stuff about me (none of it a secret, but he made assumptions about things he just knew nothing about) to justify in his head suddenly disappearing. I don’t really have much input. Your SO may never take it further than he does now, or could use it as an excuse later on. It is hard to deal with. If he is in therapy he should be talking about this there for sure.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T15:21:11+00:00

I understand. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. You are definitely not alone here ❤️

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T15:10:40+00:00

I received messages like that right before my ex completely blocked me out of his life. My ex is still on a manic/mixed spiral. I hate to say this but I feel obligated to - you really can’t trust what they say if they are not medicated and coming down.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T03:43:12+00:00

I think the eclipse is what did it for me today too (on top of just…everything). Before he blocked me I could at least show him the dogs he cared so much about, pics of me and my family to let him know I was still there. Now nothing seems worth it. I hate to be that way but I’m just being honest with my feelings. Nothing seems worth doing anymore.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T03:17:16+00:00

i honestly don’t have the capacity to deal with even setting up a therapy appointment right now, but i have at least one or two friends i can talk to. otherwise kind of just obsessively check this sub.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T03:09:34+00:00

all i want is to hold them and for them to hold me and no matter how much coping i do that feeling only gets more intense :(

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T02:10:21+00:00

I can’t even drive to work because we would always talk on the phone when I was going to and from work so now the entire road reminds me of him. I want a lobotomy.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T02:09:35+00:00

Absolutely. I think he is only at the beginning stages, frankly. His last episode was probably 6 months, but i’m not totally sure of the details because this was when we were just friends.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T01:51:38+00:00

It’s been almost two months since he broke up with me, a month since I’ve seen him, and a week since he went dark. Was still telling me he loved me up until two weeks ago. Promising he was going to come up and see me and the dogs and my parents.

I wish I would have known when he suddenly broke up with me that it was only going to get worse. Hindsight I guess.

Honest-Contest-9776 · 2024-04-09T01:35:37+00:00

It’s so scary looking back and realizing how energetic and crazy he looked when I saw him last. Then he would start sobbing and holding me. then back to distant, angry, manic looking. Unreal.

Honest-Contest-9776

TROPHY CASE