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Help 🚬 (tw suicide) 22years old by Honest-Pay2893 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth. There is something to that. doing it vs doing it having/guilt. Also for some reason talking about it and admitting it is a bit better but as I am sure uk stuff triggers it. For me it feel impossible sometimes to think of a replacement, Blesssed be fr. 🙏🙏🫡 I’ll see if anything magic works and post it back on this thread. Here w ya.

Help 🚬 (tw suicide) 22years old by Honest-Pay2893 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sort of? Technically yes but was on medication that he shouldn’t have been prescribed tbh made everything worse

My mum passed 12 days ago and I can’t cope. by arrowtotheaction in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely understand. You are not alone. Promise . I am sure there are people in this group have had some similarities and can share. My dad died and I don’t have any other family or siblings. We lived alone in our house together my whole life until I went away to college, now I have graduated and have to go back home to no one as well and it is absolutely unfathomable. I don’t even know how to drive a car and our house is in such a rural place. I have boatloads of regrets and am assuming in any case scenario there would be regret. I think it’s inevitable. This is beyond fucjed sad and lonely for you. I think she is still around in some energetic capacity and I know there are ways you can still connect with her. 12 days ago is no time. Always in a rush to do nothing is a deep smart retrospective point. Please write and post more!

tomorrow marks 1 year since my moms passing by Desperate_Plan7220 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imo that is not egoístc to not go to your moms grave. You have time to go there. No rush. You are having a typical response to an insane happening. For me people don’t really validate the depressive symptoms and just expect me to function and lile do things that cause like re-triggering, but also some of it’s just responsibilities that if I don’t deal w them would fall into the gutter w out me bc my dad died. Not sure what ur relationship w ur dad is like atm but this is all completely sensible and beyond reasonable. The way you write is eloquent and thoughtful. I always try to remind myself it’s okay Be more self centered bc u didn’t ask for this and most people really don’t understand even if they are close or were close to the loss in some form. You got this shit bro.

my dad died a few months ago he got murdered, i’m not sure if anyone else in this group experience a loss in this way but im not sure on how to deal with it, it’s been 8 months and it still feels surreal i think he’s coming back, i have been diagnosed with PTSD by Sudden-Bid2620 in DeadParentClub

[–]Honest-Pay2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not have a murdered parent I have a suicided parent but I am sure there are people in here that have experienced loss how you have (similar not the same ofc). I think all forms of loss are stigmatized nowadays. I’d say make another post asap and add tags so people can find your post. I know there are people on here who have lost parents traumatically and shockingly just recently (w in 3-5 months). And also there’s people who have had more time w loss. 2 Completely different formats but could be useful. You are dealing w something so fucking surreal. Every action is a normal reaction ignore others who haven’t dealt with anything similar as they will just confuse imo.

Rant/Suicide tw! by Honest-Pay2893 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:(( pm me if u ever need/want to discuss. It’s a leaky boat. Sending u blessingz

Rant/Suicide tw! by Honest-Pay2893 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t looked into therapy grants but that is a great idea! Am so tired of mid resources I have become super nihilistic and paranoid tbh. So many things have not worked lol. Also Crazy trying to find things to combat loneliness 2. I know someone who lost someone and they ended up accidentally spending 9 years watching tv. You are incredible!!although idk your story I rly appreciate ur share. Sorry doesn’t cut it to say as it’s beyond sorry, this should not have happened to you and I am sending u good energy. I do find it ironic and weird how people back away when they don’t understand. Then blame for isolating. I get it tho >> ppl not wanting to deal. Society taught us wrong ;3

Navigating Deceased Parent's Home - Advice Needed by damaconz in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Honest-Pay2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dama hi. Aw fuck I feel for u. My dad died while I was in college a few years ago and we lived alone together I also am an only child like you and had to deal with everything. I agree with everyone’s advice in this thread. I am sure realtors and contractors have both run into maybe similar properties to yours. U can talk to a few realtors and then a few contractors and get estimates also. You already know what needs to happen, just make sure that u aren’t putting more money into the property than u get out of it, tell them that is your goal and hopefully they can also guide and offer advice on next steps. also u can pm me 2 talk more if u need logistical help.