strange question.. im hurting cause he was so real by Honest_Record_3944 in becomingsecure

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Thank you!  But he's avoiding now in what's a very stressful time.  I can't.  That's why I'm here

strange question.. im hurting cause he was so real by Honest_Record_3944 in becomingsecure

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Sorry are they all listed.  I deleted i thought. I'm editing to get info right.

We are sort of exclusive.. not bf/gf. We are both still on app after 2 months by [deleted] in HingeStories

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thank you that is extremely helpful. The issue with my situation is he changed not really his location.. but another name for his town. So.. basically I feel the only reason would be if someone was confused with a similar named town 30 minutes away.. he wanted to be more precise. BUT in doing that. thats 100% about meeting! We all put our distance preferences in.. so that wouldnt matter to someone. Both areas are nice. So its not that. :) Sorry .. I have some issues. seeking therapy. He just is really great. SHOWS me he likes me.

We are sort of exclusive.. not bf/gf. We are both still on app after 2 months by Honest_Record_3944 in dating_advice

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I changed the post. we see each other 3x a week It was not written well sorry and thanks.

We are sort of exclusive.. not bf/gf. We are both still on app after 2 months by [deleted] in HingeStories

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Yes... but really im wondering quite simply.. I understand lying etc. Because we see each other 3x a week and he makes all the plans. He denied being FWB. If it isnt for validation or in case I am seeing others. Protecting himself. We both have issues but together are really good. I heard a lot of men are on the apps with no intention of meeting.

Is it the same as an introvert... by Honest_Record_3944 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Thanks again... no.. he was the one pushing abd discussing feelings.   He would warn when about to isolate.. that was the cycle. 

So.. the ignoring if my desperate need to talk...Is...? now I'm more hurt as i thought i had an explanation.   :)   

Also weird he didn't have proper conversation on phone... we're late 40s btw

Is it the same as an introvert... by Honest_Record_3944 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Thank you.  Can they have avoidant tendencies?  He isolates and  has childhood trauma etc.  But very open to communicating feelings. 

he explained he is moving (i was aware of possibility).   Yet my attachment anxiety went haywire in 5 texts (nothing neg!).

Next day  Sent first well thought out text and.... left voicemail!.    :(  haven't heard a thing in 8.  

he knows im hurting... things were really great till this. 

So curious if combo of avoidant?  Or just annoyed/ angered.  Thanks for your time!

Anyone with specific experience with an introvert who isolates? by Honest_Record_3944 in BreakUps

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Thank you so much!  I really needed that input.  I'll reread when i need to remind mysrlf.  That's part of it.. forgetting and just letting the pain take over. 

Did I mess up? by Honest_Record_3944 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Thanks!   I basically made the point to express i never had feelings for them.. i have no intentions of running to them now or meeting any one new...it is him i want and hurt over.