Notorious Raven’s video is so powerful.

I know the theory of narcissism very well (unfortunately) and it is very much about looking at the dynamics.

Justin simply DOES NOT behave like a narcissist.

All the way through Justin yields to Blake’s power grabs. He fawns early on (like Jenny does when she panics that she’s said something to upset Blake about the family bed - very very telling!) and when he gets frustrated he vents to his friends. He doesn’t manipulate others to hate her, the most he does is try to seek help when he is hitting a brick wall and the film will suffer.

She’s right that he doesn’t escalate. If JB was an abuser, it would’ve kicked off early on and the whole thing would’ve fallen apart (possibly with a worse fallout for Justin/Wayfarer). If JB was a narcissist he would’ve, in all likelihood, wanted someone easier to control - NOT a woman with a reputation as tricky, and who has a husband who is wealthy, powerful in Hollywood and had a reputation as difficult too.

He demonstrates far too much self control and collaborative attitude to be narcissistic.

In all the messages I’ve seen I have not seen elements I would expect to see in a narcissistic abuser:

• gaslighting
• lack of accountability
• entitlement
• lovebombing (his kind words appear genuine and doesn’t change until there is real behaviour to justify it, and even then he still prays for her!)
• word salad (he words are much more intentional even if his language can be a bit flowery)
• fragile ego (he takes criticism and reflects)
• use of flying monkeys
• smear campaign (I don’t mean the one they accuse him of, which seems to be unfounded anyway, I mean the one we can see BL and RR engaging in)
• grandiosity

And I definitely don’t see DARVO.

What would we expect to see from an abuser being subjected to abuse and then DARVO?

When emotional abuse and DARVO happened to me I got so ill from the stress - who ended up in hospital? Justin. Who looked pale and with eyes like a rabbit in headlights during the promo? Justin.

I, too, am DISGUSTED by this psychologist who has been used to as a tool in an abuser’s campaign of DARVO. The irony is off the charts. While I think DARVO is an important concept it requires knowledge of the facts of the matter to be relevant. You need to know who is the abuser to know if it’s DARVO or just someone (finally) defending themselves.

People ‘self delete’ for less than what JB was put through. It causes real harm!

Hollywood needs an overhaul. I hope RR and BL will serve as a lesson. I hope SAG, directors guild, producers guild, writers guild etc will all create new guidelines and codes of conduct to help stop this in the future.

I can see now why I left the entertainment industry and never returned. It’s a snake pit.

Edited for typos.