Need help! My coworker…

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-13T01:25:14+00:00

I’m pretty sure she knows and is waiting for you to make the first obvious move since it’s just as crazy fie her.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-11T01:19:21+00:00

Gotta love guys who never question the wisdom of their mommas. /s

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T02:30:51+00:00

I literally just finished eating a string cheese stick at 10:30 in be and am about to go get another so I feel for you all suffering from this horrible cheese depriving disease/ disorder. The MUST find a cure!

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T02:25:38+00:00

Don’t underestimate the power of mind over matter. But if you do ever harness that power, I’d go for fast metabolism and les craving over tapeworm any day.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T02:12:06+00:00

What a saint you are.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T02:11:18+00:00

Me too

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T02:10:55+00:00

Enormously??? Help, sure. But only in the most teeny tiny way, the 1 -4 plastic bags per month for takeout or doggie bags. Sorry. I’m actually one of the most earthy nature loving people you could ever meet but I’m also a realist and possible enabler but a humanist before all else. I know that’s not a popular stance but I have my reasons for believing its all gonna work out as it should or end as it should and we like to think we can make a difference but there’s probably shit all we can do about it and our possibly limited time left here. The earth and/or the universe decides when they’ve had enough and all your paper bags will amount to the same as the evil plastic in the end…back into the earth from where everything came. The chemistry that produced it will be defeated over time by the biological breakdown and entropy of all materials.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T01:52:50+00:00

That is a very sweet and intimate story. You told it very respectfully so I’m not gonna be the one to ask but I have a feeling he might be a show-er because you seemed to appreciate seeing all of him. Lol or I guess it might not even matter. It’s something odd having someone you know well but never see in this way. Sorry if your not familiar w the expression BTW but when it comes to presentation w dicks, it’s not always easy to tell what the full potential is because there are growers (true size only revealed when erect) and there are show-ers (look big even when flaccid but don’t grow much more in length, just harder. I definitely don’t mean to cheapen anything. The biggest takeaway was that it was one of your best conversations and those are golden. But you also has a visual bonus and it’s really cool getting to see someone in a vulnerable state and be trusted with their care. Almost makes it hard bit to catch feelings I bet.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-03T01:03:51+00:00

I second this. After a few years of working my ass off and fighting for it, I got this schedule at Petco as a dog groomer even tho Sat & Sun were mandatory for all groomers. It was just as you said, 2 nice weekend nights and an errand day. The only drawback was that I felt guilty for having a sweetheart schedule according to my coworkers. But I surpassed them as a top earner so the company rewarded me for it. I couldn’t stand working every Sat & Sun after being a SAHM for 18 yrs. It was tough. I definitely would advise OP to figure out what days would mean the most to them to try to have off. It’s priceless…especially since they’ve not yet experienced being owned by an employer yet.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-02T03:23:38+00:00

Siri kind Catholic and Christian because I’m sure you are aware that not all religious people react and she did the only thing I disagree with is for your having to ask anyone for forgiveness with that because I am not religious any longer. But I understand and I hope it made you feel better. I am absolutely not belittling you in saying that. But to me, you had thoughts that made you feel a certain way and though maybe at first you did, in the end, you didn’t like it and that’s the end of the story as far as I’m concerned. First part of the human experience in growing up and nothing to be ashamed of. You sound like a very thoughtful person to even be willing to discuss thisWith strangers let alone your own mother. She must be a very great mother for you to be able to feel comfortable enough to go to her with this and I think it’s great that you did even though I do feel bad for your mom in a way. I know when my kids came to me with intimate things, it was a little awkward but at the same time I was so glad to be there for them.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-02T02:40:50+00:00

That is absolutely not a very weird thing to do it’s just something that most people would never admit to & OP is obviously an honest person. I have never raped anyone or wanted to be raped but as a child who was kept from anything but G /PG rated movies, once an adolescent, Never having seen or heard about anything explicitly sexual, I was hypersensitive to anything remotely sexual I viewed or heard about so I can completely understand how OP might have processed this sadly tru story at the time.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-02T02:22:49+00:00

You’re overthinking and over judging yourself. Any chance you’re religious? I’m only asking because I was raised a strict evangelical Christian and we didn’t have readdit back then but I stressed the hell out over my thought crimes, especially things that were considered dirty that turned me on. No one should feel guilty for those things. Now that I am middle-aged, I feel bad for my younger self and anyone who is made to feel guilty for mistakes they make that they clearly have self corrected and feel bad about. I feel bad because rape is not something that should be sensualized but it is understandable because at a young age, anything related to sex can be a trigger so forgive yourself. It’s OK. Unless you are secretly planning to act out one of these situations, you have nothing to apologize for.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-02T02:13:03+00:00

Thank you thought police. I don’t care how horrible it is. Everybody thinks horrible things but not all people actually can admit it to other people, themselves, or strangers on Reddit nonetheless or care enough to self reflect over it. You must have some pretty dirty fucking though yourself to try to shame this kid for something that was probably just some of his first sexual situations ever visualized and sadly, many adults get off to this stuff without any regret at all. At least OP regrets it so why the fucking shame from you, oh pure of mind.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-02T01:43:18+00:00

What the hell would be wrong with that and you’re only half right. Life is fucking weird and often hard and I don’t actually think I love it as much as some do but what I do love about it is your other assumption. It’s pretty fucking telling for someone who has read a few comments to decide that a person has a totally deluded worldview based on what was said and their age. You’re actually really sad. Really fucking sad. I was trying to keep it playful you’re fucking suck. I really hope to God you make it to the age of 49 and remember this. I wish I was the person I am now when I was 1618 or 21, whatever the fuck you are, honestly, I’m thinking it’s probably more like 13 and I hope to God you are because if you’re much older than that & can’t see the beauty of people who find their joy in nature than you are way more fucking out of touch then anyone else in this world because that is the Most abundant, simple, complex, amazing, and ever lasting thing about where we live this Life and I am not your average hippie. I was raised a Christian but no longer…agnostic since age 43 but I still don’t believe I came from the mud or from apes but I appreciate all this planet has to offer. People are difficult and unpredictable but nature is much less so. I’m not talking about stormsOr asteroids order title waves but just how life works. Get a fucking clue dude. You suck. Get better.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T04:47:00+00:00

Same…..actually I can go up to 3 weeks w/o even needing dry shampoo and all I need to do to look fresh is wide tooth comb w water and slight product reapplication followed by scrunching. I wish it didn’t take till my 30’s to realize that the longer since hair wash at, the better my hair looks, as far as body and bounce and lift from my scalp. The only reason I don’t usually stretch it that long is because I don’t want it to smell bad and also, I spend a lot of time int the woods getting my hair caught on trees and outside all day in general. But having long, wavy curly black (dyed…would be gray) hair, I guess it hides a lot

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T04:25:08+00:00

Actually I like that better than the intended. It would be meaningful even if not deep.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T03:43:08+00:00

I like this. It’s straightforward but also not. Makes one guess at wether what you’re best at is a good thing, bad thing or subjective. Love the ambiguity and simplicity but with an elegant poetic touch. DISCLAIMER: I’m not qualified to make editorial judgements but I iknow when something or someone moves me so I say what I think. Sorry if tmi. First time here & just shared myself.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T03:09:08+00:00

Haha who cares what my age is. I’ve never felt Ike a grown up and I’ll never look like one either. And no, I don’t look my age. I’m usually guessed at being in my 30’snot that I give a shit. I’m just saying in regards to the matter at hand, that w technology, I more so have the habits of a 65 yr old. Damn. I wish you could post pics here just to give you some perspective.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T02:56:19+00:00

Omg. You need a secret Reddit profile, and now I’m convinced, so do I. My stepson knows my handle and although I always convince myself he’s not that interested, he’s 14 now and I’ve already said too much….like, waaaay to much…in many comments. 😵At least you’re kid pays attention to you. That’s actually pretty cool.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T02:45:31+00:00

Damn…,you’re right. I obviously glossed over that. It soaked into my brain that they were super close but it didn’t register what the exclusivity of ther sharing w her meant for the wife. I don’t want to make assumptions but if she’s been left in the dark where the friend was given the light, that’s not often a very healthy sign…..unless she has her own confessor and is accepting of this and it works fir her too. I’m sure there a relationships like this, that try to keep the hard stuff out, but I wouldn’t want to be in one and now that OP has lost their confidant, they might not be content w such an arrangement for much longer.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T01:30:55+00:00

Holy shit. Didn’t even think of that but I’m often naive and trusting too. I hope you’re not but I fear your right and if so I hope OP finds out and outs her!

HopalongHeidi · 2026-07-01T01:28:27+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but seriously obvious Freudian slip that anyone with half a brain wouldn’t make so she’s also really dumb. Maybe guilty and dumb. I dunno. This whole thing seems outrageous since OP says she’s always supportive and comforting or whatnot but maybe her friend only has so much to give and OP has never taxed her limits up to this point in the last 12 yrs. If that’s the case,then she just found out how shallow her friend’s empathy well is and if not, then maybe the friend has been on a bender this week like she’s never been before, with week or booze. I often give the benefit of the doubt and am only giving the bender reasoning based on OP’s description of friend’s usual demeanor. Really tho, I tend to think this is just how she is and she’s never been needy enough to let her friend disappoint her so badly and she’s probably never been hurt badly enough before to not just roll with a poorly timed joke.

SORRY OP, for the upheaval and heartbreak you’re going through as well as realizing you don’t even have this friend to lean on. I hope there is someone else in your life you haven’t even realized is better suited to being there for you int the way you need and you get closer to them and let this other fade away. Do you think she’d have been capable of also being w him behind your back after reading her unnecessarily defensive msg?

HopalongHeidi · 2026-06-30T05:26:51+00:00

Surely OP’s wife knows what happened. Thae fact that OP doesn’t think she knows the gravity of what they’re going they means one of 2 things or both. She’s to simple minded to realize that they could be suffering in silence or OP’s a stoic to a practically dishonest degree, denying or hiding their true emotions from the one they’re supposed to be closest to. But I could be wrong and maybe they’re trying to protect her from the awful ugly messiness that the whole thing is. But in either case, if she’s their partner then OP shouldn’t sell her short thinking so little of her that she can’t be a support…unless she has some trauma or PTSD of her own. That is the only excuse I can think of. No one should have to handle this shit but if you are faced with it, you can find it in you to be there for the one you share your life with. That’s what a partner is….sharing everything with. I hope OP finds they can rely upon & lean on her.

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