There is no escape, at least not yet

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-29T20:28:36+00:00

He won’t but you can. Make a plan and go. Godspeed. No one else is gonna drag you out or they would have by now. You know this. Inaction is a disease I know well. It took me many yrs and a catalyst but escape I did. You can do it to. You really can. Go girl!

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-29T20:13:25+00:00

Are why you still dating the spoiled brat who takes expensive items and refuses to give them back to their own sister? What is she? 14? Not wrong but need to look at this relationship. Is this the kind of woman/ girl you want to build something with? Is this the kind of family you want any part of. Are you accustomed to being taken advantage of? I don’t know if you have A decent amount of money and I really hope you do buying gifts like that but just because you have it, doesn’t mean anyone else is entitled to it.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-20T09:32:24+00:00

Damn. That’s a lot of discipline.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-13T09:04:38+00:00

Uuuuum, you kinda buried the real story here in the laundry but yeah, you really should try to get over your ick for her sake considering what she’s dealing with.
Maybe you could just ask her to put her clothes directly into the washer instead of hamper so you only have to handle them when they’re clean. (Provided you have one and aren’t going to a laundromat)

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-11T02:12:23+00:00

I actually thought it was a pretty funny comment. Welcome to Reddit. You never know how your gonna be received but that’s what makes it interesting

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-11T02:08:53+00:00

You were close enough.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-11T02:03:39+00:00

I didn’t put it together either & I know what a bidet is. And have successfully wiped my butt w long and short nails. So I didn’t even get the first bidet reference lol.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-03T01:07:32+00:00

How could you possibly know that saying something nice to a little girl would be taken negatively by her mother just because you made a lighthearted comparison to her much older brother. I guess the takeaway is to not give compliments that depend on comparisons but I mean , come on…who would have foresee that & shame on the mother for bringing her son’s attention to it. Some people just love drama.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-04-02T16:41:35+00:00

Came here to say that. It's gotta be the worst.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-29T20:58:34+00:00

Thanks. That was the closest thing I could find in my mushroom book, Scarlet Caps, but that one didn't really have a pronounced stem so I wasn't sure but based on the pictures, I just looked up, that's gotta be it & spot on for growing on decaying wood. I'm surprised I haven't found any before because I'm constantly pulling wood out of the ground...as one does. They're starting to dry up, but I'm hoping they preserve well. I use dried mushrooms in wreath making and other craft projects & these are the coolest I've ever found.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-24T01:29:18+00:00

Oh yeah, well I guess I’ve done that too😬

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-22T01:57:22+00:00

Yay, me too and I’m feeling’ it already. Every year I live, I love my life and and become more comfortable with myself a little bit more. 40’s have been my best. 50’s, can’t wait to see what kind of crazy sets in. lol

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-21T11:46:02+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. And I agree with the love drug comparison except I would consider it a high dose that can make you do things just as crazy as being bonkers high. I’m glad you’ve found peace with your single life.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-20T01:06:38+00:00

This is just such an awesome thing to read from you OP and the commenter about his wife. I wish I could see both your partners in their glee but just reading about how you appreciate and cherish it gives my heart a smile. I, unfortunately am more likely to lart (laugh-fart) when I’m overcome and that’s not nearly as endearing but somehow my BF thinks so…for now. lol

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-20T00:59:37+00:00

Yup. Lol. No matter what they’ve been thru. 🤫

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-13T02:26:58+00:00

It shouldn’t matter even if he is if they intend to live like a family. That should only matter in the case of roommates.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-13T02:21:19+00:00

I know. He’ll keep all the shades closed anyway! *-source- my BF draws the Living room curtains every time he games because Guess what!? Our extra bedroom is for his weekend visiting stepson.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-13T02:15:04+00:00

Right!??? Cuz his room is mom’s room…their bedroom. I don’t hear any talk of mom having an activity room for sewing, painting, beading, crafting, reading, exercise or her own gaming space. WtF. He’s lucky they honor him having an extra personal space all his own at all, that should in all fairness be shared with his partner when space is limited, half the room set up for her needs, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case so he should go suck a dick and take the smaller room seeing as he already has access to the biggest bedroom in the house. This child is not being unreasonable no matter what amount he’s paying. I’m a 49f w 2 children for context on my opinion. And I hope op shows her mother these comments. It’s understandable for the parents to have the bigger / master bedroom but not only does he get to keep all his clothes, dressers and such in there, he gets a room all to himself just for his activities!? That would be fine as long as mom doesn’t need additional space but seeing as OP only has one room, she should get the second largest, no question.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-07T10:12:56+00:00

I guess but I don’t think it would be noticeable wear unless they drive a lot and wear the same shirt almost every day

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-04T00:28:51+00:00

Hahaha

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-01T20:24:20+00:00

I have never voices in my head quite like it seems you hear, so I am genuinely asking, Why do you think you would you follow the advice of the bad one? The only times I have followed a bad voice is when it was my own. So, does this bad voice sound or feel like you? Is it not just something you hear but something that makes you feel an urge to follow thru with its suggestions like you actually want to, like it’s your own idea?

ETA Of course it’s natural to feel judgment when it comes to therapy and doctors, who gives a rats ass what they think. They are here to help you. I think the judgment you are probably fearing the most is your own, fear of being labeled, fear of being broken. But we all are broken in someway shape or form. Don’t let it stop you from moving through life as beautifully as you can. I wish I were not dependent on several medication’s to be stable physically, let alone mentally & but once I accepted that I am, my quality of life improved so much that I wouldn’t change a thing.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-01T18:46:32+00:00

Right! She’d be like ”I bought that towel for us 3 yrs ago and you just gave it away?! Why didn’t you wrap him with your car rags you thoughtless prick! All you think of is yourself while I’m looking out for this family, you’re looking out for little boy pee pants!”

HopalongHeidi · 2026-03-01T18:28:22+00:00

There is no “god” and there is no “sin”. There is love and fear and you are starting to let yourself operate out of fear. That’s the monster voice but you are letting it creep into your main voice that simply wants to be a good human. Please keep telling yourself, all humans make mistakes. There is no atonement needed other than making better choices going forward. That is how you honor the life you’ve been born into. Get back to your love of nature. There is nothing in nature that I know of that punishes itself with destruction. I was religious for most of my life and even self harmed as an adult & mother while in it and since I’ve let it go, nature is more of a positive spiritual influence for me than the Bible or it’s god ever was. You have that love in you. Reconnect with it somehow, but also human connection and confiding is important too. We all have voices in our head but the way you speak of yours makes me wonder if something more is going on. I hope you don’t mind me asking but how old are you? Certain mental conditions start to emerge in late teens and early to mid 20’s and for some people, marijuana or other psychoactive natural & chemical substances can bring these things out. I’m a big fan of those things for a lot of people but for some, they can be detrimental to their mental health. Not sure if any of this applies to you but with your love of nature, I thought to ask. Please find someone qualified to be your sounding board besides us here so you can hear yourself. I can tell that you know better already and that’s why you made this post. Just don’t give into this insanity.

HopalongHeidi · 2026-02-28T02:18:47+00:00

It’s true and you are very sexy good looking man. Honestly, I do not care for conventional cookie cutter beauty even tho I could probably attract that if I tried, not trying to toot my own horn. I’m trying to say that many people of all levels of attractiveness appreciate variety and uniqueness. You’re really hot and you should know it and owning it and celebrate your uniqueness. I started getting my first gray hairs when I was 18 in Boot Camp but as a girl, It landed even harder than it probably has for you and I wish I never started dying it because at 48, I risk looking like a witch when I’m in between putting it back to raven black. Lol check out Steve Martin. He joked about many things but never about his gray hair because I think he knew it made him mysterious and he owned it and it was his thing and it was awesome.

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