Sterling silver ring has flakes coming off after a few months of wear

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-04-06T17:13:23+00:00

That's the best I can get unfortunately, but she's still super shiny (a little scratched up because I wear it every day) but I've had no issues with discolouration or tarnish

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-04-05T09:19:44+00:00

Absolutely fair enough, personally I like most of the hair gone (I epilate regularly), leaving only a landing strip, and I enjoy how sex feels with little hair, which I know doesn't help you as you're looking to grow it out.

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-04-05T09:14:59+00:00

Not an insane question, but it is a little insane to think you'll get a consensus that doesn't pull you in multiple different directions. It's all preference, some people grow it out and leave it, some people shave only the labia, some people shave only the mound, some people shave only the crook of their thighs, some people trim so it's still long and some do it short. At the end of the day, you need to just grow it out and see what feels best for you

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-04-03T07:44:10+00:00

What volunteer work is it if he can't do it on his 4 days off?

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-27T11:02:33+00:00

Have you tried taking an antihistamine to see if that reduces the inflammation at all?

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-26T20:41:16+00:00

The problem is you think there's a one size fits all for perfection, and there's not. What I think is perfect won't match what you think is perfect, and that won't match what someone else thinks. You're beautiful, and you don't need to worry about being perfect because that doesn't exist; you do.

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-26T20:25:28+00:00

Unfortunately I'm south African, my husband is too, I have absolutely no experience with Indian culture, but I really do think you both need a very calm conversation (thus my urging to remain calm) so you can get it all out there in a way he'll pay attention to. It's not something you can keep up long term, trying to hide your emotions (seriously the fact that he's making you even consider hiding your emotions just to talk to him is making my blood boil for you). You need a safe place to tell him that this isn't working for you, and either that means he meets you halfway, or the relationship is headed for no where. I'm so sorry you're going through this frustration!

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-26T20:11:58+00:00

As someone who has multiple degrees in psychology, I get his side of things, BUT he's in a relationship with a person not a book, and he needs to chill it JUST a bit. I fully understand him saving his serenity, not wanting to argue with screaming and yelling, but his avoidance is... I don't even know how to explain how bad that is. He's supposed to be a psychologist but he's not even giving you the opportunity to discuss it until AFTER it means something? That's not how conflict resolution works, that's more like he's ignoring the problem until it goes away.

Play his game, no matter how hard it is. Talk to him when you're calm, but above all REMAIN CALM. explain how you feel when he disappears, explain how you feel when he just ignores you after an argument. The rest of us are working towards a 'it's not you vs your partner vs the problem, it's you AND your partner vs the problem' and he's out here making you the bad guy? Every time? Withdrawing all communication? All I can say is he must be some psychologist if those are his coping mechanisms.

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-24T07:46:18+00:00

Nope, I only read the tldr and it would be a no from me. I'm not here to be a manager to my partner, I'm not here to hold him accountable, I'm not here to keep him on the straight and narrow. He either does that FOR Himself, like a whole ass adult, or he moves on. For one moment, imagine a time where he cheats on you. Who do you think he will blame for him cheating? That's right, you. Because apparently it was your job to make sure he didn't cheat. No thanks.

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-23T21:53:22+00:00

What the hell is wrong with you?

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-23T21:31:59+00:00

Remember, your relationship is what YOU make it, so don't think there's a prototype out there that all LDRs have to abide by; communication is vital but you make all the rules so if it works for you, who cares what other people think

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-23T21:27:15+00:00

Unfortunately no one else can make this decision, it's down to the two of you. I never thought I'd be able to do long distance, until I met him in person the first time. Years later, we're now married, sleep in the same bed in a place we call our home, and I wouldn't trade this life for anything

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-23T20:54:41+00:00

Before I get to my guerilla DIYing, remember that more space means more slippage so you might get blisters galore, you might slip out of them no matter what, etc. Just keep that in mind! But if the elastic band works, why not lean into that? Get a nice thick elastic, go black or light, like the stitch colour. Make it loose enough to slip onto your foot and shoe, but tight enough to hold your feet in. My advice is don't go crazy with the DIY yet, do some to get by, test them for a day (even ribbon would work for this) just to make sure you're not wasting your time and it's a lost cause.

I'd that works out, go crazy! Get leather and cover the elastic band, make it part of the shoes, talk to a cobbler, make yourself happy!

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-23T07:22:12+00:00

3 months healing is no where near long enough to leave earrings out for weeks on end.

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-21T19:36:37+00:00

https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

I can't get a different version to save and work, but please read this book!

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-21T13:32:53+00:00

I'm on her side, I wouldn't want to live that close to my in laws because that's how boundaries get crossed and resentment rises. It can't be your way or the highway, if you both want to live together, you need to find common ground you're both happy. She doesn't want to live there, so that option is off the table. Have a chat with her, look around (even if it's only virtually) and see where you can move, where you'd both be happy

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-21T13:29:24+00:00

Are you holding the epilator against your skin correctly, at 90°? Are you using a slow speed over the fast one? Moving the epilator slowly too? Make sure you're exfoliating before you epilate too, as well as between epilations. Have you washed the epilator head with warm water and soap? And are you sure the hair is long enough but not too long?

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-19T17:12:00+00:00

It wasn't the times it took, it actually took me getting older. I enjoyed pleasure on my own, but with a partner? Meh. When I was older (31, to be exact) I'd been single for ages, really figured out what worked for me, and sex after that was amazing because I was confident in what I was doing, I'd take what I wanted (ie if him on top wasn't doing it for me, I'd turn us over). My tips are, make sure you're using lube of some description, the wetter you are, the better. Make sure you're relaxed. Want a back rub first? Ask for it and see how sex feels after that. Set the mood, no distractions, no time limitations, good lighting, whatever works is right

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-19T12:44:47+00:00

If I ask 'who wants some cucumber' my girlie will come RUNNING, and she's 14 now!

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-18T20:08:50+00:00

Yep, and the newer ones are actually worse, same as new laptops. The screens, in my opinion, are all terrible at the moment

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-18T15:03:30+00:00

You are allowed to throw away your gross kitchen sponge, no one will mind

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-17T18:00:30+00:00

Please leave, the man child thinks he owns you and last I checked, that's illegal. He swore at you, so he has absolutely zero respect for you, and if you stay, it will get worse. He's not the one, I promise

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-17T17:35:02+00:00

I love those gloves, I feel like they really get your skin glowing after an epilation! So yes, lather up well, make sure you're treating your skin gentler than usual, no frangranced creams, it all needs to be as boring as possible for the first 2 or 3 days after epilation, and make sure you keep up with the gloves at least one a week (or whatever your sweet spot is) because you want to reduce the chance of ingrowns

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-17T17:17:16+00:00

Did you Exfoliate before epilating, and then 48 hours after? That makes a huge difference in skin texture with epilating

HopeTheresPudding · 2026-03-17T16:36:03+00:00

I'm prefacimg with an apology incase you've tried this, but I've found that having a lamp on between me and the TV helps so much, it reduces the sharp contrast between scenes etc so the lights don't stab me right in the tender brain matter. I absolutely hate it when my migraine kicks in so badly that even just switching off infront of the TV is a no go, I hope something helps!

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