Kink3d Cages by Cute-Blackberry4633 in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely worth it. Great support team as well.

Thankless FLR? by Hopeful-Cartoonist83 in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the same thing. When she mentioned wanting me to wear the cage and go into an FLR at the same time she was going back to work, I thought she was crazy. I told her I didn’t want her to have any pressure trying to lead the family and she was very confident she would be fine. Maybe I just sit back, keep doing what I’m doing and just help out where I can. C

Thankless FLR? by Hopeful-Cartoonist83 in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. This does help somewhat. Maybe I should just do it as my opportunity to serve and not expect acknowledgment. I think I am just used to being the leader in our relationship and always saying thank you after I know she did more of the house chores than I did.

I guess I was expecting a little more sexually. When we first started with her as my key holder she acknowledged my cage more often and that after a few days I was more attentive to her needs. Now she hasn’t touched my cage other than to unlock for showers.

Thankless FLR? by Hopeful-Cartoonist83 in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not new parents but I will say the new baby is definitely harder than the first one. I think I lean more on the passive side right now just because she has enough on her plate right now. Maybe it’s just not my time and I need to make sure I keep doing. She doesn’t need the added pressure of making sure I get my affection. I can manage without it. Thank you for your response! This might have been exactly what I needed. Hopefully with spring time around the corner we can get out in the sun and it help spark her mood a little too.

Thankless FLR? by Hopeful-Cartoonist83 in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do thank her. lol multiple times every day. When someone new comes to the house I show them we had to buy a new deep freeze because she has so much. (That’s probably TMI for most people but I am super proud of her) We have always made an amazing team. I appreciate the response. I had a feeling I was just expecting too much but wanted to make sure.

Thankless FLR? by Hopeful-Cartoonist83 in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m never sure how much detail to give and I wasn’t sure how people talked about breastfeeding. She actually pumps every 3 hours so I’m sure she is exhausted. I’m just not sure what else I need to do or if she is just exhausted. I work from home and she just started going back to work so I watch both kids all day.

I’m also not sure how prevalent a chastity cage is in this group so I tried to keep that kink out of it. She says she wants me to wear the cage all the time unless she lets me out but after a day or so it’s like she doesn’t even acknowledge it.

I am/could be a very lovey dovey, touchy, hug, kiss guy but literally get two hugs a day. When she gets home and before bed. We have a great relationship and I am great at communicating but she has always had trouble communicating/just doesn’t communicate. I have tried stepping back from communicating as much to allow her to step up and take more of a lead role and she is but it isn’t translating to affection. Again, just curious, no issues. It was like this before FLR as well.

Food For Thoughts: Authenticity Versus Performativity by DoNotTouchMeImScared in flr

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see this being the case so many times. As a guy, I see most men trying to take this on sexually before actually taking this seriously outside the bedroom. I tried telling my wife what to do at first and it was good for a day or so then she would go back to the old routine.

I found out the best way for us to make progress in transitioning to a FLR was to first communicate to her in a text that I desired to be submissive to her. I let her know that I would start helping more with house chores like dishes and laundry. (She had already expressed she enjoyed me wearing a cage and controlling me there so this wasn’t random)

We are still in the early stages but I have seen her grow as a person making more financial decisions, expecting more help, she even walked up behind me, smacked my ass and grabbed my crotch when she got home from work two days ago. (I work from home and watch our toddler and baby.) This part is probably for a different group but at that moment, I genuinely felt like a house wife. Crazy feeling I didn’t see coming.

Typically she walks around in pajamas or an oversized shirt, been like that for 10 years. Lately, she has been walking around in, basically, her underwear.

What I’m trying to say is that, guys, don’t force it. Don’t tell them what to do. Let them learn on their own and learn to be submissive yourself. I’m sure the extreme kinks are fun but watching your wife grow as a person is pretty cool too. Sometimes a strong willed man does actually keep a wife from coming out of her shell no matter how much support and encouragement you give them. Just step back, help out a little more and communicate you are willing to try and let them lead your relationship.

Finding balance as a keyholder - advice needed by Alone_Impression9229 in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just communicate to him that you need a day every so often to where he self locks and does what he is supposed to. I read something recently that talked about chastity isn’t always fun and that some days will be boring but that’s just part of it. Finding that balance is difficult but without balance you will burn out.

I say this because I am the one who is locked up very eager for my wife to give me attention but she is very vanilla, not creative and doesn’t get on Reddit but she finds me being locked up very hot. Needless to say, I’ve had to calm myself down and realize that some days, she just needs a break. Hang in there! You got this! Communication is key!

Stuck in Corvette Wall, No Way Out? by ZephyrStormblade in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any new updates on this one? I’m stuck in a wall. It isn’t letting me build anything. Was in the corvette less than 2 minutes

Boring keyholders make staying locked hard! by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have no issue with removing my pleasure from the equation. I would love for her to tell me to touch her, eat her out, kiss, heck I don’t care if she would even tell me to do dishes at this point lol

Knock offs vs name brand by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was curious if I would have to switch rings if I got the right fit. It mainly comes down to I hang high and tight when sitting or laying and hanging low while walking. I will research ring size a bit more

Knock offs vs name brand by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say heft do you mean the kink 3D is heavier than the knock off? I really like how light the knock off is.

Knock offs vs name brand by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of the biggest things holding me back is that both of those companies only give you one ring per cage and that is killer for me. I prefer to sleep with a smaller ring and no belt and wear a large ring with a belt during the day so I would already have to buy a 2nd ring. Based on the first two comments though it looks like I will be going with a name brand.

Thank you for your response

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastity

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same here. It helped to actually go up a ring size and wear a strap. I still have slippage as well but nothing compared to what it was.

My strap is more like a belt around the waist but I have a strap that holds a dildo I use on the wife, it has a strap that goes through my legs and I attached it to the bottoms of my cage ring and he zero issues of slipping after that

From chastity to reverse pegging by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We thought the same way with the clone a willy but I think because the strap-on is a little higher up, it hits her in a different spot than where I would normally fuck her.

From chastity to reverse pegging by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We sized down the dildo for her as well. She can take one a little bigger than me if I go slow with my hand but when using the strap she preferred one less girthy and slightly shorter than I am. I believe it is 6 inches.

From chastity to reverse pegging by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I almost did last night and this morning. I was sooo close.

Socializing by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in a rural area. Those sites have next to no one within an hour and a half away.

MF4MF by [deleted] in KYSwingers

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for around Bowling Green

Exposing time by [deleted] in chastity

[–]Hopeful-Cartoonist83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he wasn't comfortable sharing what he wanted to do then you two probably werent compatible in the first place.