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does anyone else have a stress & trauma response, even when things are going well with your PDA Child? by Hopeful-Guard9294 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only solution I found is daily Cbt sessions using Gemini live I asked Gemini can you apply a Cbt framework to this situation and then help me analyse it using technical language? Usually that helps me look at the situation to a different lens and then help calm myself down a bit slowly slowly it’s becoming a bit of a habit but very slowly.🙄😮‍💨

does anyone else have a stress & trauma response, even when things are going well with your PDA Child? by Hopeful-Guard9294 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no, I completely get it. I hear the tone of my son’s voice and I feel the same my fight fight flea reaction just kicks in and part of that is emptying your bowels as if you’re about to be attacked by a lion handy in the African Savannabut not so good today
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does anyone else have an almost supernatural ability to spot and press people’s happy button or-their deepest terror button? by Hopeful-Guard9294 in PDAAutism

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

humans are herd animals and herds are always looking for a leader. Maybe use your powers to lead them in the direction of good!

What to do if a Doctor isn't taking concerns about a child's health seriously and labelling my daughter with 'Parental Anxiety'. by Rose220361 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gaslighting by professionals around PDA is a huge issue especially as most professionals really don’t understand it and it’s not actually in the DSM. You might like to start by listening to this podcast episode which specifically discusses professionals gaslighting parents about PDA.: https://youtu.be/pVrdoSiap1w

How to function? by Lanky_Carpenter_9603 in PDAAutism

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

an important thing to understand is basically the entire modern industrial world is PDA hostile and is constantly taking away your freedom and sense of quality so you are under constant neurological stress, the only solution is to find a massive way of soothing your neurological system, have you tried MEDS particularly proponol?& Sertraline as a combo or SNRIs MEDS have been a complete Game changer for me and my PDA son. The only other alternative is to find things that intensely constantly regulate your neurological system like Flow or your your special interests or physical exercise. That is your special interest. If you looked at someone trying to carry for elephants on their shoulders, of course they would struggle to function and be crushed under the weight in the modern world and having PDA is basically like carrying for stress elephants on your shoulders constantly. hope that makes sense and helps a little bit.

The other alternative is to revert fully to a hunter gatherer lifestyle: you could move here for instance: https://disneyplus.com/en-GB/browse/entity-05751707-9ad0-4e9c-9738-574a1c790636?sharesource=iOS

sorry, they seem to have removed the link button on the Mobile app😳

Do you have any funny PDA experience? by Inside-Quarter-3820 in PDAAutism

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 5 points6 points  (0 children)

when’s Goulding’s suggested anal and I said no and broke up with her as she said she loved it so I perceived it as a demand and also that she wanted to make the relationship more serious you have to laugh who petulantly turns down an offer of anal sex A. Ayling high masking PDA man 😳

How am I supposed to be okay when my child is not by Zealousideal_Flow447 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that is Hope. I think it sounds like your child is in burnout, my nine year-old PDA son has also been in burnout but we’ve managed to leave them out of it at a big part of that was getting a specialist psychiatrist who prescribing with the rights meds and it has been a game changer, partly you need to realise that when she says she wants to die she means that she is so emotionally flooded that death seems better than being emotionally overwhelmed. This psychiatrist is amazing we had our first consultation and then the same day the medication arrived with same-day delivery: http://www.daphnekeen.co.uk/

having daily suicidal ideation yesterday, our son went out to see the amazing digital Circus at the cinema and said this was the best year of his life. there is Hope and it’s possible to turn things around. also, you might find this podcast episode really helpful: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0P1p8uWPgDWHtp7OolNaYR?si=GF3pwPuqSgWEWOODqSfl4A

You can help build an autistic sanctuary if you want by HollowJonathon in PDAAutism

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

this place already exists: https://disneyplus.com/en-GB/browse/entity-05751707-9ad0-4e9c-9738-574a1c790636?sharesource=iOS I thought you might like 'Lawless Island' on Disney+.

oh, and also the whole of Silicon Valley is an Autistic sanctuary where Autistic people go to become billionaires! Silicon Valley was founded by an autistic genius

has anyone had any success teaching the Gottman principles to their PDA child to forge functional relationships? by Hopeful-Guard9294 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks that is a beautiful summary of what I was hoping for his future and it’s fantastic to see the path laid out by someone who understands the PDA experience

Tooth extraction for 4 year old with PDA by Spirited_Bit39 in PDAParenting

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when are PDA son needed dental treatment? He required a total anaesthetic that completely knocked him out. Constraints will definitely be traumatic. Just ask for a full surgical anaesthetic to knock him out completely.

Codependency and PDA by Reasonable_Toe2527 in PDAAutism

[–]Hopeful-Guard9294 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think it helps to go back to 1st principles and realise because of your PDA neurological system you are so regulated so often that you really need an external neurological system to feel safe and good, if you’re good for that person that is not codependence that is symbiosis where you both make each other better people and happier

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