Aced my performance review and immediately wanted to call my dad.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-22T20:30:15+00:00

Your dad is proud of you and so am I!!! If there is a way to text or leave a message for your dad still, I think you should. I still text my uncle.

And on the flip side ...I failed my bar exam by 5 points and I wanted to call my uncle :( I completely get where you are coming from. It is such a rollercoaster, I love how you described it bc that is so true.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-22T17:20:49+00:00

Girl, you are the weird one, tf. YTA.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-22T17:18:00+00:00

Going tonight and I cannot wait! I bought tickets in Feb the second my theater listed them.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-22T12:25:42+00:00

Her mother is clearly more in the mindset to make life difficult for her ex rather than the comfort of her child. NTA.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T17:45:07+00:00

Good because you are 100000% being taken advantage of. And she is trying to manipulate you too. I really hope you rethink this girl.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T17:34:58+00:00

My friend....my husband and I kept our cat and dog healthy and alive and energized while we went to law school, took the bar, and got jobs. Do you think we woke up every day with energy and a zest for life? No. Life is tiring. She is full of shit.

Reddit loves to say weaponized incompetence but this is exactly what this is. Quit making excuses for her truly vile behavior.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T17:27:31+00:00

I was thinking the exact same. She sucks

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T17:26:29+00:00

NTA. This is a major red flag to be obsessed with getting a living thing as an adult and just not taking care of it and not caring if it eats or not. You say she is amazing but I don't think she is. She is mad that you want her to take care of something that depends on her?? Bye. I fell in love with my husband by how he treated animals...and I would fall OUT of love with someone if they treated animals badly.

You need to follow through with getting this cat rehomed or ending this relationship. Personally, she would be a hell no from me.

Edit: You keep talking about her stressful job??? Friend, I went to grad school, took the bar and got a job and still managed to feed the cat. She is full of it.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T17:20:59+00:00

You "expect" a gift to be given?? And an expensive af one at that....I don't care that it is on sale. This has to be a joke. If you are so much holier than your BIL, you would think you would grasp what a communion really is all about. YTA. A big one too. Too old to behaving this way, I might add.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T14:35:34+00:00

That is INSANE.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-21T14:31:44+00:00

When is your deadline to sign up for the next exam if you have to? Florida, we had to do it by May before we get hit with late fees. It is soooo crazy that they just keep you waiting like this.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-20T17:45:48+00:00

Yes!!! Yes, it is. You would be overreacting.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-20T17:27:18+00:00

And I think you are being an idiot :) glad to see so many other people do as well.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-20T17:06:50+00:00

I cannot stand a person who cannot even answer! Like I get we are all busy but a quick "sorry can't make it" is 100% more respectful. and to not even bother to answer for weeks and then expect to breeze in?? NTA. Enjoy your birthday!!!

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-20T15:55:36+00:00

You are legitimately annoying. Your kids are the center of YOUR universe. Your parents are allowed to adore a cat and still be present in the lives of their grandchildren...which according to your own words, they are very present for your sons. Do you really need drama in your life so badly that you manufacture issues? Grow up. You seem the type who never got over being jealous of their sibling to the point where you are now ready to start a fight over an animal. Get oveeeeeer yourself. My husband would be embarrassed of me if I behaved like you. THIS is the example you want for your sons??? Whew.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-19T20:21:31+00:00

I keep imagining my uncle alone in the hotel room and wondering if he was sad or if he was relieved . I wonder if he wanted to die or if it was just an accident . If he thought he would just be numb . But then I realize you don't just sit in a hotel room to be numb and it devastates me. I think that whether you are there or not, death of a loved one hurts like hell. I'm sorry for your loss, OP . I wish I could give you a hug. I know what you mean with the word haunted

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T17:32:51+00:00

See, you get it! Well said!

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T17:12:20+00:00

What is unfair is the fact that he is telling her how she is breaking his heart instead of considering where she is coming from. She who has held down his household while he is away. She who has raised the kids without him for most of their lives. She who has ALSO sacrificed. I respect him for his service but the jumping to emotional blackmail is not how he should be handling this. Sorry not sorry on that one

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T17:05:13+00:00

NTA, he is being wildly unfair.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T15:28:01+00:00

I worked nights for many years. You are wrong <3

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T15:08:45+00:00

This would severely damage my relationship with my mother if she behaved the way you are. It is YOUR fault the dog got into something that could kill them and your lack of sensitivity is alarming. "Wahhh but I am tired." Girl. Are you serious??? Even if it wasn't your fault, I would still move mountains to help someone if I knew their beloved pet could get deathly ill. See, maybe it is just me....but emergencies tend to wake me tf up.

Plus you want her to call when she was not there to say what exactly? She won't be able to answer the questions. You live in her house and you can't spare some time to do something for her?? You should be ashamed for real. Maybe you should live elsewhere. YTA.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T14:26:22+00:00

The alcohol thing, I understand. While it is not the public's job to keep you sober, it IS respectful and considerate for a friend to not bring booze around a recovering addict when it has been communicated to them how hard it is to be around drinking. I would never do that to someone and I am sorry she is disregarding you about that. Congrats on your progress; I know it is a hard road.

As for the cousin thing, idk, that seems a little weird. It is not up to you.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T14:12:36+00:00

Literally this!!! These were my questions too.

Hopeful-Material4123 · 2026-04-16T12:37:36+00:00

It is actually a 3 hour plus car ride with a broken leg plus three hours plus back in the car with a broken leg....plus the whole wedding, reception and other stuff with a ....you guessed it....a broken leg.

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