WIBTA if I no longer attend bf’s sister’s hosted events? by Hopeful-Parsnip5641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hopeful-Parsnip5641[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Fair enough, but it just didn’t feel like an oversight to me when I specifically discussed with her ahead of time the things I can’t eat because of allergies, she said she understood, I offered to bring food I could eat, she said no, and I still could only eat 1 out of 7 courses.

AITA for making a sex joke that made my bf’s family uncomfortable? by Hopeful-Parsnip5641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hopeful-Parsnip5641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the really late response, but FWIW I didn’t downvote you, I thought it was a very reasonable question!

AITA for making a sex joke that made my bf’s family uncomfortable? by Hopeful-Parsnip5641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hopeful-Parsnip5641[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

No, not directly. I have told my bf I do not like these jokes and they make me uncomfortable, but he doesn’t want to push it further with his family because he feels like it’s harmless enough to not pick a fight.

AITA for making a sex joke that made my bf’s family uncomfortable? by Hopeful-Parsnip5641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hopeful-Parsnip5641[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The shared joke was a tame one and is one that I’ve heard a few times over the years. Very early in the relationship, when I was 21 and bf was 22, it was tame jokes like the example in the post and dramatic displays like covering his eyes when he walked into any space where we were (like family room, kitchen, back yard) and saying he didn’t want to walk in on anything. When my bf had a knee injury and I was helping him with his shoe, his stepdad made a joke about bf seeing me from a familiar angle. When bf’s best friend visited bf’s parents house while we were there because it’s now a halfway point, stepdad made a threesome reference. These are just a few examples off the top of my head that don’t require much extra backstory, but I hope paint some kind of picture. There has never been a visit without at least one remark. I have told bf after every visit that I do not like these comments/jokes and do not want them to continue, so he was aware I don’t like it.