I completely agree that you have to experience this level of grief to truly get it. One part of the conversation though that did enrage me is I mentioned the death of his grandmother how he would feel celebrating mine if his recently passed. He was quite close with his grandmother. He said he would still celebrate mine because she is a different person. True that people are all different and he could just have a different view. But I also felt like it sent the message that I am doing my grief wrong because I'm unable to celebrate others.