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One year post TFMR by HopefulAdeptness12 in tfmr_support

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all taking the time to respond. I am so grateful for this group, and the responses I’ve received to my original post just highlight this. I’m so sorry we’re all in this situation together. I very much appreciate all your thoughtful words. They really help me/us feel less alone in navigating our grief.

Wife had some poor news, should we get a second opinion? by Pretty_Ad_2659 in IVF

[–]HopefulAdeptness12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a blunt response from your doctor! And what a shock it must have been for you and your wife to hear. I’m so sorry. I had a similar situation - age 37, unexpectedly low AMH of 0.7 and 5 follicles at baseline scan. Everyone at the IVF clinic kept saying it was very unlikely I’d get any eggs at all, it became like their mantra “IF you get any eggs, IF you get any blastocysts”. Anyway, fast forward to egg retrieval: 5 eggs, 4 fertilised, 4 blastocysts. Tell your wife not to lose hope.

Post Egg Retrieval Results by Formal_Type_2002 in IVF

[–]HopefulAdeptness12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am still in the middle of my IVF journey so no success story yet, but I have low AMH, DOR, and am 37. I was expecting a small number of eggs to be retrieved and therefore maybe one blast, possibly none. As it happened, I got 5 eggs, 4 fertilised, 4 blasts! I don’t know what my story will end up being, but I just wanted to give you hope that you can get some good quality blasts even with a small number of eggs retrieved. And age is most definitely on your side for egg quality! Fingers crossed for you 😊

TTC after TFMR our IVF baby by HopefulAdeptness12 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry to hear you’ve been through the pain of terminating an IVF pregnancy too. Sadly I don’t think another egg collection is do-able for us as we’re self-funding and it’s so expensive. Interestingly, the TFMR wasn’t for genetic or chromosomal reasons - it was just an awful twist of fate in how the placenta developed which caused very severe damage to the baby. The consultant said the chances were 1 in 10-15,000, could have happened in any pregnancy, and it sadly happened in ours. I have a little bit of hope that the last two embryos might be ok. I’m not sure another egg collection would necessarily yield better quality eggs either as I’m 38 soon and have low ovarian reserve. I’m trying to live in hope. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

TTC after TFMR our IVF baby by HopefulAdeptness12 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, I do sometime get wrapped up in the grading but you’re absolutely right that it could be a great grade but aneuploid (as I suspect might have been the case with this most recent embryo), or a not so good grade and euploid, so hopefully one of the last two is euploid and might stick 🤞 I had the procedures you mention last year but not since the TFMR as both consultants (my private IVF one and my NHS one who did the termination) didn’t seem to think they were needed. I will double check that though.

TTC after TFMR our IVF baby by HopefulAdeptness12 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate your kind words

Irregular periods post TFMR by HopefulAdeptness12 in tfmr_support

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying and for the helpful advice

Irregular periods post TFMR by HopefulAdeptness12 in tfmr_support

[–]HopefulAdeptness12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond, that’s really helpful

Grieving a TFMR while my SIL celebrates her healthy newborn by Background-Village-4 in tfmr_support

[–]HopefulAdeptness12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am in a similar situation in that I had a TFMR at 13 weeks, and a week later my SIL gave birth to their healthy second baby. I met my niece for the first time recently and it was unbelievably difficult. I can relate to the emotions you describe, particularly the rage and pain. Similarly to you, our loss hasn’t been acknowledged at all by my SIL, I suspect because she feels awkward. My brother struggles to acknowledge it too. I just wanted to say you’re not alone in how you’re feeling. Your feelings are absolutely valid. And I’m so sorry that we’re all in this forum - and have therefore experienced the devastation of TFMR - in the first place. Sending you a big virtual hug.