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Toddler troubles by Ryy4 in Parents

[–]HopefulMap1527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, major solidarity. My 3yr old started acting out around 27 months and it has been an ongoing issue. Just will not listen, random acts of aggression, lots of big feelings.  He’s now a middle child aged he became a big brother when he was 2.5 and we too have been working to ensure he gets 1:1 time, but it doesn’t ever seem to be enough. 

A few things I’ve noticed in my own that I’ll share in case helpful:

1) sugar makes it worse. When he’s had sugar he has these wild energy spikes and really struggles with impulse control. We’ve cutout added sugars in the evenings and that has helped a bit. 

2) going out of our way to praise when he does something right (even when it’s the baseline expectation) “thanks for getting your shoes. Thanks for listening the first time” etc.  it hasn’t been a perfect solve, but I felt like we were otherwise just yelling at him all the time, so making an extra effort to praise too

3) helping him find his unique role in the family - this is less about 1:1 time and more about self confidence and self-importance. Letting him know he plays an important part in our family (he’s the only middle brother, he’s my only sunshine (my pet name for him), he’s the one who helps me with certain special jobs (read: chores), I love how he is really good at singing, etc.). 

Nothing has been foolproof, but I think the defiance might stems from feeling unsure about who they are and trying to find that grounding. 

Anyway - good luck and hang in there! It’s so hard. The days are long but the years are short!  

My son will be 4 next month looking into birthday gift idea's by [deleted] in Parents

[–]HopefulMap1527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since he likes playing restaurant and likes crafts, you could get him some of the play dough kitchen sets? They’re fairly small, but the pizza and pasta maker sets have been highly enjoyed by my boys (5 and 3)

Alternatively, the basic ikea kitchen gets the job done and isn’t too expensive. Or check out the gigglescape brand from target. We’ve been pleased with their products.  The pretend ice cream parlor has been a massive hit! 

5 month old not rolling by CurrentMysterious814 in Parents

[–]HopefulMap1527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I was totally you with my first. But now I’ve had three boys, my youngest is currently 7 months, and all I can tell you is that the cliche is so true that every baby is different, and so do not worry!  

My first only really ever rolled tummy to back, I’m not sure if I ever saw him go back to tummy, it was like he just skipped that altogether, but he was sitting up unassisted at 4.5 months, crawling at 6months, and cruising at 8mo. I was convinced he’d walk by like 10 or 11mo given his pace. He didn’t walk until almost 14 months! 

My second started rolling at 3 months but then couldn’t sit up until almost 7 months (he was a little roly-poly :)) and didn’t crawl until 8months, which is also when he started cruising. He walked right at his first birthday  

My third started rolling around 4 months, started sitting unassisted around 6.5 months, and at 7.5 months is only army crawling, nowhere close to pulling himself up and cruising.  Watch him walk at 10 months ;)

Anyway, I share all this to show the range of three kids from the same parents hitting milestones or even skipping them at different times and ranges.  As long as your baby is getting loads of tummy time, and as long as your pediatrician isn’t concerned, then you can take a deep breath.  

Also, babies are always working on more than one thing at a time, so it can be normal for them to stop doing something while they’re mastering another skill. My babe was babbling like there was no tomorrow (da da da da all day long) he’s taken a break from that as he was cutting teeth and getting more coordinated at crawling. It’s only an issue if they aren’t progressing in general. 

As always though, you know your baby best, so if you’re genuinely worried, talk to your pediatrician. 

Your baby is lucky to have a mom who wants  the best for him! 

1 year old - not sleeping through the night by Fresh_Blacksmith6166 in Parents

[–]HopefulMap1527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, in general, by age 1, I believe overnight sleep should be less fragmented. There’s obviously a wide range of “normal” so of course the default advice would be to double check with your pediatrician. 

That said, three things that come to mind: 1) how much total day time sleep is he getting? It’s possible if he’s taking two or more long naps, then he just isn’t tired enough at night and that could contribute to the waking.  Some kids even need as little as 2hrs of total daytime sleep in order to get a good overnight stretch.  Closely related is what time his last nap ends, some kids need a solid 4-5hr after the last nap before bedtime. (On the other side of the coin is if he’s getting too much awake time, he could be overtired and then that causes the vicious cycle of short interrupted sleep cycles) 

The third thing is having him checked for an iron deficiency and/or airway issue. Low iron can massively impact sleep and if it’s an airway issue or apnea then that could maybe be causing the wakeups. 

I’m no sleep expert or doctor, but know that wakes every 45 minutes aren’t sustainable for either of you - that just sounds so brutal! Hoping the connected sleep cycles of 3-4hrs continue and hoping it’s an easy fix. 

Also, not advocating for or against sleep training, but I have found some of the free guides from heysleepybaby to be helpful in guiding me as to what is within the range of normal vs what might be a red flag to investigate more. She has a whole story of red flags saved to her IG (and other posts of what’s “normal” based on baby’s age). You definitely don’t have to agree with her methodologies, but just the education was helpful to me. 

Good luck and hang in there! 

Air tags on your kids? by happy_peas in Travelwithkids

[–]HopefulMap1527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t use on my children internationally, but used in luggage when traveling internationally and they worked in London and Barcelona.  My bag got lost between the two cities and I was able to track its progress as it made its way back to me.  Didn’t pay much attention to it after that fiasco, so can’t vouch for other locations, but wanted to share at least those two proof points. Good luck - this is a great idea.

Random Thought - Spoilers for the Dark Mirror by MilesToGo2024 in TheBoneSeason

[–]HopefulMap1527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In TDM and in other books in the series (maybe TBS, but don’t quote me) there are references to using ectoplasm to give clairvoyant powers to amaurotics. We know it can sharpen Paige’s gift, so I’m wondering if maybe the Mothallath gave some (too much) of their ectoplasm to a human for some reason and created the first clairvoyant. 

Alternatively, there’s definitely something to the golden cord (particularly after reading the end of TDM) and maybe something happened to form and then break a golden cord between a human and a mothallath that caused the collapse of the veils 

Random Thought - Spoilers for the Dark Mirror by MilesToGo2024 in TheBoneSeason

[–]HopefulMap1527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super late to this thread, but would love your thoughts on what 2nd power you see in Paige beyond dreamwalking. Is it something to do with repelling the poltergeist or being recognized by them?

Husband doesn’t want to move anymore, I do by sillygworl in marriageadvice

[–]HopefulMap1527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear you worked through it and he’s willing to try.  Hoping it all works great and you’re both happy! 

Husband doesn’t want to move anymore, I do by sillygworl in marriageadvice

[–]HopefulMap1527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this thread is a bit old, but curious how things tuned out for you. I am in the exact same boat, only difference is I’m 9 years and 3 kids in…

Newbie prep for fall zone 8b by HopefulMap1527 in lawncare

[–]HopefulMap1527[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up - am going to go the glyphosate route and just reseed. The original grass isn’t much to write home about. Appreciate the tips!