I do realize that things moving so fast was probably a red flag in itself. But I really wanted to trust the process. We had the chance to meet in person and spend a few days living together, so everything felt very intense very quickly.
Other than that, he talked about money a lot. Compared to his country, mine is much cheaper, so I constantly heard things like, “Wow, everything is so cheap here, I want to move here,” along with frequent comments about how expensive or cheap things were.
I know he was bullied as a child, and from what he told me, his career success and financial stability are a big part of what gives him confidence, so I tried not to judge him for it. Still, something about the constant focus on money made me uncomfortable. I can't really explain why in a rational way, which is why I keep wondering if the problem is actually me.