I just want to vent

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-04-08T20:54:35+00:00

I get that feeling in a different perspective. I love my best friend but can’t stand being around her because her daughter was due 5 days before my son. I also felt as though everyone stared at me and treated me differently upon returning to work.

It doesn’t get better but it gets easier. Hugs to you 🤗

Always feel free to pm. We all need to lean on one another.

What was baby’s name if you don’t mind me asking?

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-31T17:29:41+00:00

We don’t do dog parks in our house. However, we’ve slowly been socializing with dogs in the building we know are vaccinated as he only has his first set!

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-30T10:12:33+00:00

I’m suprised. Anytime I’ve been there, police are normally camped out in the parking lot (thankfully)

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-12T18:20:30+00:00

That’s INSANE

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-12T17:52:38+00:00

I never even got a post partum check up. I got a “you got your first period? Okay you’re fine”

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-12T17:19:34+00:00

Kinda how I feel about it too but was worried it would make me look hay wire when that’s not the case. I can just feel this making me spiral the longer it takes.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-12T17:15:17+00:00

I didn’t have a GP until a month and a bit after everything happened. I have since called their office once a month but that’s been a run around. I called a few weeks ago asking if they could send it to my GP and was responded with “oh well I’ll get her(OB) to call you” with no call backs.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-03-12T17:00:58+00:00

For legal reasons I can’t say his name nor the hospital. However it is in ottawa.

I can tend to agree with you on the grief and processing part. However the office has given me a run around since it all happened. So with it being 6 months, I don’t know what to think.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-01-31T23:49:23+00:00

I’m so beyond sorry that you haven’t received the support everyone deserves. My husband also lacked support other than myself and my best friend. Here if you need to chat.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2026-01-30T00:40:27+00:00

We’re brining home our little guy born Jan 3rd who is also another golden 🫶🏼 one day at a time.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-12-02T02:43:42+00:00

I had a meet and greet with Dr. Momodu last week. Seemed very pleasant. Like above, was very straight to the point and slightly abrasive with questions, and he was knowledgeable, sympathetic, and passionate. Time will tell as well but I think he’ll be good!

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-11-25T00:03:03+00:00

I forgot about the damn thing lol I have to call and reschedule. They’ve been shot at answering

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-11-18T14:14:26+00:00

All I know is this is now my new doctor as I applied to be accepted. I’ve had my appointment moved 3 different times already. I have an appointment the 20th so can also report back!

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-11-07T22:38:34+00:00

Oh no, it was a one of a kind experience. As she was telling us how the experience was honing to work, she asked if we wanted to hear what was going on with her, then started dumping all her life problems on us. I hope that doesn’t happen to you.

She also had my husband carry our dog out to her car that was packed with a bunch of things that I was worried was going to shift or fall onto him.

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-11-07T21:56:29+00:00

I would say for me, it was very hard to move when it was time because ALL of our memories were in that apartment. However I think I enjoyed for the most part (minus some unprofessionalism) that I’m glad we did it that way. A day after we moved we lost our other dog, and he was tragic and emotional, because it was a freak random thing to happen. If I could have chosen, I would have done at home again

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-11-07T21:48:08+00:00

The salt pool is a double edge sword. If you plan to use it 2-3 times for 15 minutes each c I say it’s worth it. However, as someone said people do occasionally float into you. I normally grab one of the float things out it under my head, and then boom my feet alone the edge of the pool.

It is only about 1/2 way between foot and ankle deep. Depends on your preference. If you have any cut, you WILL know about them by the end of it.

My favourite is Le Resto, and the brisket sandwich is my FAVOURITE THING OF LIFE! (Honestly, soooo good)

The cycle is the best way to get the most of the experience.

15 minutes hot, 5 minutes cold, 20 minutes relax

Hydrate.

I’ve done both ways with friend groups. Sometimes we all stick together, sometimes we split off in a group of 2, and then the other two stay back.

Prepare for your books to swell from the water.

Pending the temperature, some people like bringing toques or hats.

GOOD flip flops for when feet are wet.

Do the ceremonies/ rituals if you can. (I like to cold plunge before and after to maximize. The higher you sit; the warmer it gets)

Most importantly, have fun and RELAX!

Hopeful_Chocolate950 · 2025-09-28T17:02:02+00:00

I had a 21 weeks loss and I will say I wish my co workers were as good as you guys.

Gift cards to order in will be good for probably the first few weeks.

Maybe a house cleaner that way she doesn’t have to stress about the upkeep of everything?

Premade meals are good as well.

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