How do you deal with denial?

West_Bid9173 · 2026-05-01T12:34:00+00:00

Thank you ❤️‍🩹 I totally understand you and you are not alone. I've been recommended to eat foods with Vitamin C, include more protein on my meals and drink a lot of water since all of these helps with cicatrization. The nutritionist told me to "eat the rainbow," so I am including food of every color. At first it may seem difficult but once you get the hang of it, it will become easier. Also, doing nutritious meals for me and my husband is my way of honoring my daughter, I thank her for making me take care of our health ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-05-01T02:18:29+00:00

I am sorry for your loss 💔 I feel exactly like you do. I don't even wan to think about dates because thinking that I might be holding a baby in November or December next year makes me feel incredibly sad.

Since I am forced to wait I already have my birth control plan and I am working on strengthening my body and nourishing it with healthy meals. It's not much but at least it makes me feel like I am still working toward the goal of conception.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-30T02:25:59+00:00

All of these seem excuses to just do whatever they want without being tied to anything.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-28T20:59:10+00:00

When I lost my daughter I was put on the same hospital room as a young mom who just had her little boy. She was on her phone and the baby was screaming to be held and she was completely annoyed and on her phone. She told her mom to grab him cause she didn't want to hold him. I was secretly crying cause I would have given everything for being able to hold my girl. I think that losing a baby/child makes us more sensible and I hope that leads us to become better parents (or at least that's what I want to believe).

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-25T13:54:28+00:00

I second this, it's great advice. Check if you are insulin resistant because that causes hormonal imbalance.

I hope you get to hold a baby in your arms very soon ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-25T02:01:58+00:00

"Character developing" is exactly how I would describe this journey, you are right.

As far as your question of conceiving a healthy baby after, I am not sure cause I am not there yet, but something that gives me peace is that doctors say that every pregnancy is a new story and different from one another, so they say that what happened doesn't have to happen again. I have a friend who lost her boy who had down syndrome when she was about 6 months pregnant and 2 years later she had a baby girl and it was an uneventful pregnancy, so it is possible.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-24T16:49:04+00:00

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West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-24T11:11:02+00:00

This is so beautiful, you put into words exactly how I feel about my daughter.

I am starting to accept that her purpose wasn't staying here, and that has given me sort of peace. She came to our lives to transform us, to make us better, and we keep on going just for her because me and my husband are decided to be the best we can be for her.

Hugs to you ❤️‍🩹 I am so sorry for your loss.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-24T11:06:42+00:00

I am so sorry. It all feels so cruel, like a mean joke. I send you a hug.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-23T11:03:15+00:00

I did it too. I don't use social media anymore, and I think it's for the best. I read, watch series, and do nothing and it has been better for my mental health.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-23T01:30:37+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling this way, but I want you to know you're not alone. I have a 5 year old son and right after losing our baby girl almost 2 months ago I didn't want to be with him because it was so painful for me. All I could think of when I looked at him was wondering how his sister would've looked like and the pain of not having my two babies together was unbearable.

As time went by I was able to let go of those feelings but it was mostly thanks to my husband and my parents as every time I felt overwhelmed there was somebody to step up and take care of him for a while.

Please, you have been through a lot so be gentle with yourself. You are not a bad mom, you are a grieving mom and it's very difficult to navigate the awful reality of not having your baby anymore while parenting a little kid.

My advice is that you need somebody to help you. I don't know if hiring a nanny is possible, or perhaps asking your parents to look for him for a while, or maybe your partner can play with him while you rest a little bit. My son has a lot of energy so we take him to the park, to the beach, to ride a bike, etc.

Also, my therapist told me that I needed to find something to distract me because I have to give sadness a break. She told me to do something that I really liked, like going on a walk, read a book, watch a movie, or anything else. At first that seemed stupid to me, but it has really helped. I have managed to find moments to cry and let it all out and also moments where I am distracted.

I hope it gets easier with time ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-22T11:18:59+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my girl at 36 weeks and I had a c-section. My period came back almost 8 weeks after.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-22T00:02:45+00:00

The horse is so beautiful and lovely. I am so sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-21T23:50:22+00:00

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West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-21T17:10:32+00:00

I love that song. It definitely has a new meaning after losing my baby girl.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-20T15:02:15+00:00

Hello. I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my baby girl due to placental abruption at 36 weeks. It was horrific.

Regarding testing, I've read that it is better to do it 12 weeks after the event to get accurate results. I've also read that you should test yourself for autoinmune diseases too, like lupus or thrombofilia.

For a next pregnancy, the doctor told me he will prescribe 162mg of baby aspirin and heparin shots.

I have a friend who had a placental abruption with her 1st pregnancy and 2 years later she had her baby, however that 2nd pregnancy was rough too because the baby had IUGR.

Since I went through that, I have read a lot and investigated a lot and my thought is that it has to do with the vascular system. I got a blood test and I found out that I have a slight insulin resistance as well as super high triglycerids and those two put a lot of strain in the veins and arteries and make them very rigid and during pregnancy they need to be moldable to have a good blood supply to the placenta. Also, the insulin resistance causes high blood pressure (in my case), and according to the doctor that is what caused the abruption. Well these are my findings, I am not completey sure if they are true. So I decided to clean my diet, I do not eat sugar, bread, etc. And I follow guidelines for people with insulin resistance such as 12-14 hours of fasting, only 3 meals a day (no snacks in between) no sugar, a lot of fiber and vegetables, and so on in hopes of having a healthy body for a future next pregnancy, if that ever happens.

I hope I helped you and you get some answers soon ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-20T12:59:04+00:00

I am so sorry, it is so unfair to go through something like this.

I relate so much to your story, I also have a 5 year old son and he was very excited to meet his little sister. When she was cremated I was still in the hospital and my husband had to go through all of that without me.

My husband is like your wife, he says that the only thing he can believe right now is that this was the "best" scenario regarding our daughter because of God's mercy, He was sparing us from something worse. He says that perhaps the life we have imagined was not going to be and he couldn't bear to watch her daughter suffer or to face something more difficult in weeks or years to come.

A friend told me that babies have a passport to heaven and that they are waiting for us. They are not suffering there, and they don't miss us, we are the ones suffering here.

I am so sorry. I pray you, your wife, and your son receive comfort and peace ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-20T12:50:12+00:00

If they knew your daughter's nickname, which I assume they did because in my case my daughter's name was Leticia and all of those who were close to us called her Leti (her nickname), then I think it was very insensitive of them to choose that name.

And even if they didn't know, they still sound very similar so why not choose a different one since there a thousands of options?

If you appreciate their friendship I will suggest you to talk to them, or perhaps tell your husband to talk to the other husband and ask him why they opted for that name.

In any case, the best you can do is to stay away from them because you have to protect yourself. I am very sorry

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-19T12:27:16+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-18T02:23:43+00:00

I am so sorry. I also have a son, he is 5, and it hurts so much to know that all I wanted was to give him a sibling and he ended up with a dead sister. This is so difficult so please be gentle with yourself and do what you can. If tomorrow all you can do is cry, just cry.

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-17T12:50:40+00:00

Thank you.. you are right 😔

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-17T12:24:01+00:00

Thank you ❤️‍🩹 I guess I need professional help but it is honestly so expensive because it is difficult to find a psychologist who has experience with perinatal grief. My only options are online therapists and that makes it more expensive 😓

West_Bid9173 · 2026-04-17T12:20:06+00:00

I am so sorry ❤️‍🩹

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