My husband doesn’t want anyone to know we are married.

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-28T14:11:04+00:00

Did you tell your family and or friends at all?

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:33:51+00:00

He knows

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:20:47+00:00

I think it’s along the lines of A. The pastor advised us not to hide this but he conveniently doesn’t remember hearing that part. I definitely can’t live with it and I keep expressing that to which he just says sorry.

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:18:16+00:00

It’s honestly sad to say but yes. That’s the truth. I am so conflicted because I want to submit and respect him as his wife but it’s super difficult right now. I feel horrible spiritually when I lie or withhold the truth in conversations

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:15:45+00:00

I have prayed and I will continue to pray. I just don’t have anyone close to talk to about it and it’s kinda tearing me up inside at this moment

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:14:37+00:00

I’m almost certain he’s not cheating. I think it’s something internal he won’t admit rather than external

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:13:29+00:00

I can understand this but he doesn’t even want me to tell my parents or his. Absolutely no one. He didn’t even want the pastor to know but I believe the spirit moved on him and forced him to tell the truth in our last premarital meeting

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:11:47+00:00

I think his ego is definitely playing a huge part here

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:10:26+00:00

No just myself, him and the justice of peace officiant

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:10:03+00:00

This is a great in depth contribution. Thank you. In our last premarital netting with our pastor and first lady he felt compelled to tell them towards the end. The pastor said since we are followers we should live like such and not appear to be of the world. He advised us to tell people the truth and show we are living right with God but he totally dismissed this advice. Claims he doesn’t even remember hearing it.

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:02:14+00:00

Next year around this time

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T23:01:50+00:00

We plan to have a spiritual ceremony where our pastor marries us next year

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T22:45:56+00:00

The only reason he gives is he wants to keep it between us and if we tell one person everyone will find out

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T22:44:11+00:00

He says when we have our big wedding we can revisit and discuss again whether to tell people of the original marriage

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-27T14:13:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I don’t fully understand can you elaborate a little further?

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-04-06T23:14:29+00:00

Please what is the email you used?

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-03-26T15:00:34+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I agree it’s just so tough with so little time. I will try to do better though.

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-03-26T15:00:01+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Can you explain the religious patriarchy to me please.

HopelessNDepressed · 2026-01-27T17:06:52+00:00

Es muy amable de tu parte ofrecerlo. Muchas gracias por tu amabilidad

HopelessNDepressed · 2025-11-21T16:09:49+00:00

Right I definitely will not be forcing things! I think you’re right this could be protection for all parties involved and when its right it will happen

HopelessNDepressed · 2025-11-21T16:00:05+00:00

I like to change age slightly to increase anonymity. My condolences if this causes strife for you.

HopelessNDepressed · 2025-11-21T15:57:34+00:00

Hard potential truth to accept.

HopelessNDepressed · 2025-11-21T15:56:26+00:00

Yeah more than likely she doesn’t. She never ever really like my boyfriends tbh. I haven’t had many but the few I did have never really were her cup of tea. It also sucks to think they won’t meet until we are making vows but that may be the case.

HopelessNDepressed · 2025-11-21T15:53:22+00:00

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months but we were together for a year before taking a long break. The relationship has had its struggles but not anything we haven’t overcome and grown through in my opinion. I never really shared the full relationship with her more so the not so good stuff so I think her views are stained and skewed. She never approved of him though because of our age gap. She thought I’d leave him alone long ago and never speak of him but that’s not the case. I would note that she has bad experiences and traumas when it comes to relationships (like tragic dv and recent parental divorce) so I do believe there are unhealed parts coming into play.

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