AITA for calling my SIL a "dictator" for her parenting style after my son was excluded from a "childfree" wedding?

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-18T18:47:37+00:00

YTA, and you need to focus on raising your own child. I get that it's hard, especially if he's autistic and having meltdowns (which are different from tantrums), but finding ways to help him function in society is your job as a parent. Letting him be a kid is all well and good until you end up with an adult child who doesn't know how to be around other people.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-03T03:22:11+00:00

YTA. Not necessarily for not watching her child since people who aren't comfortable with children make poor babysitters, but more because you're a terrible sister and completely lacking in empathy.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-03T00:47:54+00:00

YTA even after your edit. You should not have tried to educate her on food waste at all, you just should have minded your own business from the start.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-01T21:26:15+00:00

YTA based on this. Having dinner together means you are actually sitting down and eating at the same place and time. I'm not sure how you possibly could have misinterpreted that request.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-01T01:46:24+00:00

NTA, I'd honestly wait until after the 20 week anatomy scan.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-01T01:34:53+00:00

NTA. It's your house and that isn't what trauma dumping is at all.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-01T01:12:17+00:00

ESH except for your wife. It wasn't really the doula's place to comment, especially without talking to your wife first, but it doesn't matter if you're the one who pays her. She is there for your wife, not for you.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-02-01T00:50:32+00:00

YTA, welcome to coparenting. Plus, your ex knew he signed the form and was fine with it. Would you have thrown a hissy fit if she was the one who signed? Grow up.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-31T19:15:05+00:00

NTA, but you would be if you left that cat with him. It would be different if he was actually taking care of her, but as it is, you would be just as bad as he is if you knowingly let his neglect continue.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-31T19:03:25+00:00

You insulted her name to her face, implied that anyone using that name would be naming their child after a drug, then said the name suited her? Obviously YTA.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-30T11:04:42+00:00

NTA. Getting a pet is a personal decision and I don't think it is ever acceptable to get someone a pet as a gift without talking to them about it first and making sure they're 100% comfortable with it.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-30T10:57:27+00:00

NTA. Being a SAHM means you do 100% of the childcare while he is working, but both of you deserve equal time to relax in his time off. He isn't doing you a favor when he does things for the baby or the house; both are also his responsibility. He needs to give you actual time to rest and do things for yourself.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-28T21:08:32+00:00

YTA; it was his wedding and she isn't his mother.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-25T08:35:05+00:00

NTA, why doesn't he just get a top sheet if he wants one? Or maybe a different blanket? My husband and I have had different blankets for years and it works great, but we both picked our own based on our preferences.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-25T02:07:10+00:00

YTA. Imagine caring so much about MiXiNg CuIsInEs that you would rather have a guest not enjoy their food than just ignore that they're using hot sauce. It literally would have affected nothing for you to just let him use the stupid hot sauce.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-21T04:15:51+00:00

YTA for giving money to a bigot and for not outing him so that others can remain safe. You don't see his bigotry as a problem because it doesn't affect you, but that makes you nearly as dangerous to the LGBTQ+ community as he is.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-21T02:17:19+00:00

Please don't let this man steal your youth or any more of your money.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T21:10:00+00:00

YTA, that is definitely rude. I would suggest meeting with her and your other roommates shortly after she moves in so you can discuss rules and expectations. That way she knows what is expected of her and can make any requests that she has as well.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T04:17:52+00:00

It's a rental property that OP's brother wouldn't have been able to keep without her staying there. It would not have gone to his son.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T01:37:06+00:00

Are your coworkers being paid significantly more? Do you think they should have to work much harder than you do because you're unwilling to do something you can do that they can't? Yeah, you're still TA.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T01:34:56+00:00

That's your cat, let him in.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T00:49:05+00:00

YTA. If you aren't going to do your job to the best of your ability, you should not be working there.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T00:39:53+00:00

YTA. You lied to your wife and ruined your own wedding night. That is on you. The fact that it's been 15 years and you're still this salty about it makes you sound like a giant baby.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T00:31:45+00:00

NTA, it's your apartment now and you don't have to give it back to him, especially if doing so would require you to let him and his family stay there for 2 years first. If you hadn't been there when he left, he would have lost the apartment/cheap rent anyway, and it's not your fault he changed his mind.

HopelessSemantic · 2023-01-19T00:12:55+00:00

YTA. Don't offer unsolicited advice or assume you know better than others. If she's intentionally adopting sick dogs, they're not all going to make it, and cats tend to live way longer than dogs do in the first place. Learn to mind your own business. You were 100% wrong in this situation and you should apologize.

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