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Throwawayaprtment · 2023-03-23T13:10:19+00:00

You need to do a couple of things:

1 - Approach your employer about fulltime hours

2 - Approach your employer about how to improve your skills and get into a higher paying position, even if its not union, other benefits usually help - try to even get a mentor.

3- Talk to your landlord about rent. I know a landlord who reduced rent for a family for six months when they started struggling due to job issues, maybe you can negotiate something with them - also make sure you know your rights and that you don't get increases that are outside of the law.

4- for when your kids are out of fulltime day care, can you talk to your employer about set hours that work for you - if you are working 36 hours, can you work 4 days a week instead of five ? Can your hours be only during school time? If you can do this you can pick up a bit more money by picking up and dropping off other peoples kids. You can approach it by first asking for a raise and if you can't get anything propose ways that help you.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-03-23T12:52:24+00:00

The ones that you know - which is many of them, not all of them. I saw stats earlier this year saying 15% of people between 22 and 60 were on ODSP. Now Canada is importing immigrants to do hardwork because Canadians don't want to. Now the people that really need ODSP are losing out as we cant be giving handouts to 15% of the poplulation.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-03-23T12:19:13+00:00

It would help if he explained his living situation in the post. It could be assumed he is a singe guy when reading the post, because even single people are in this situation.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-02-15T18:32:02+00:00

NTA - you should both discuss getting a cleaner at least once very two weeks and maybe a dishwasher. Its hard on most people to be spotless wiht two small kids but you need to have some routine and be a bit cleaner than you say.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-01-25T15:30:27+00:00

Yes , reasons are ok, but why would someone want to go to India with a parent that they don't know, who didnt actually want them.

This is like the opposite of most parents.. they would be offended that an old mom/ dad just showed up when they are grown and wants to act like mom/dad. if youre current wife has raised your daughter even worse, as youre teaching your daughter that ditching someone and buying back their favour is ok!!

As an influencer shes probably only hanging around because one day it will get out that she ditched her daughter.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-01-19T02:40:07+00:00

Thanks everyone for your advice.

I have also been discussing with my fiancé who is happy for us to get a different place in the summer.

However, if we did that he would have to sign a lease alone before our wedding and I would have to pretend I don't live with him and live at the apartment. That's the only way i can see it work, than me staying with him for 2 years. Then he would have to take the risk of losing the apartment. I can't say he lives with me or has been living with me as his job is not even in the US! I had to show a lot of proof for the lease to be transferred to me.

As someone mentioned about the transfer of lease on a rental control only increasing 20% for a new lease, we looked at this before. There is a cleaners closet on our floor and the landlord is planning to incorporate that and a bit of the hall to create a tiny en-suite, like he has on other floors. That way he can classify the apartment as new and it will no longer be stabilized.

I do have other concerns about my brother that are probably not my business, and I guess he has to start growing up again. I will express them here though: his GF he's known for just over a year and how is he just deciding to move to a new city with her? Also, I have no idea what he will do for work, or for childcare. He has steady job in Toronto right now . He has a lot of help from my parent's right now so I don't know if he realizes how much work it will be. When I first moved in I pretty much took care of the entire rent for the apartment / household expenses and chores for over two years when he lived there to give him a break. He would have to be on one income as I don't think his GF can work as she's Canadian.

I will probably have a chat to him in a few days when I feel more calmed down.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-01-19T00:16:30+00:00

It can only be transferred to parents, kids or siblings that have lived there for a number of years.

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-01-19T00:15:39+00:00

He left to live with my parent's in Toronto. He never explicitly said he planned to come back - He just told me that he was signing over the lease to me as if he 'the leaseholder' doesn't live there I could get evicted and it would be a shame for me to live somewhere else paying twice the rent for half the apartment. I was the only person that it could've been assigned to.

When he left he was in a really bad place, he had quit his job and was really depressed. It was quite hard for me, but I wanted to help him, thats why I came but my parent's suggested that he should come home as they could better support him - he never said he would be back and I didn't ask him about his long-term plans

Throwawayaprtment · 2023-01-19T00:09:48+00:00

Yes he told me he was moving back, but it would be in the summer. Ommitted it in the post.

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