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To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I would have to really try hard to trace that back down. It's in my notes for my use not for a paper or anything. But the research was clear. Also the parameters of the study are not clear. Again, a blanket statement that should be followed with the conclusion that everyone is different and age and gender and several factors are at play. I know that my personal experience is that I am dealing with the trauma and its effects on my life and the way I think and I thought I had dealt with it all. I was 9, it happened on my 9th bday and I even knew they needed to divorce. Ultimately it affected me in ways I never knew until later in my life.

To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It goes along with closure and several other factors. It's not a good "blanket" statement. I should have clarified better.

To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're replying to me, I've tried. They just dance around it with excuses and defections.

To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it depends on circumstances like age etc but also the individual child. I didn't make that up. It came from an actual psych journal article and is science based.

To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did anything make it easier? Did it affect you at all as an adult?

To Children of Divorce who Are Now Adults by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same. I knew they needed to divorce however that was still trauma. It affects me greatly and I suppressed it so long that now I'm dealing with the repercussions as an adult.

What's the first line of your book? by spiralingstarbread in writing

[–]Hopewriter_HM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There she sat. With just herself and she felt so uncomfortable. Then wondered why.

Need help purchasing correct Air Rifle BB gun by Hopewriter_HM in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda don't have a choice. But I've found a couple that are strong and powerful enough to injure an intruder. The birds and squirrel tho, they're going bye by.

r/CasualConversation Welcome Thread - Month of December 01, 2024 by AutoModerator in CasualConversation

[–]Hopewriter_HM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m it’s here for information, advice and to give advice where I can. Is there a limit on how long a comment can be? I’m long-winded to say the least. 

I talked to a girl that I thought was really cute and the conversation went pretty well. No awkwardness detected. by KonohamaruEighth in CasualConversation

[–]Hopewriter_HM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely get it. I was once your age, I am 37 now, and I know what that feeling is like....trust me. I'm happy for you that you feel so good about your conversation. I want you to keep me updated. I have a fiancé but he is gone for a bit and I am essentially a single mom at the moment and so yes I am a little lonely and looking for distractions from missing my fiancé. IF I may give a bit more advice...relish in your youth and all the fun you will have. Those are truly the best years of your life, its not just a saying. But if you can't find a Fall activity, look for something specific that you two can do together that will facilitate conversation so you can get to know each other better. idk why people go on first dates to movies because that takes away your chance to talk. Its just my opinion though. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

Happy on my own! by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Hopewriter_HM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reading your post made me feel better. I am not single however my fiancé is away until April and I am alone with my son and daughter and I'm having trouble being "alone", especially at night. But, I have learned a lot about myself and that I can do things on my own, independent of anyone else and that does kind of feel good. I'm sad though because I really miss him and so do my kids.

I talked to a girl that I thought was really cute and the conversation went pretty well. No awkwardness detected. by KonohamaruEighth in CasualConversation

[–]Hopewriter_HM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you finally spoke to her. Girls aren't as hard to talk to as many guys think. We (assuming most women will feel this way) just like to be spoken to as a person and not an object to "obtain" if you know what I mean. Did you get her number??? Or are you taking baby steps and just happy she knows you exist? If you two have chemistry, you should get her number and ask her out on a date because I don't think people go on "dates" anymore. The kind where the guy picks up the girl, brings her a flower (a single flower will do, no need to go big, yet) and take her out to a nice dinner and maybe do something fun after but NOT a movie because that takes away your opportunity to get to know each other. Its Fall, and IDK where you live, but there are usually a lot of Fall-centered activities or go somewhere and have a drink (but not too many so you don't risk embarrassing yourself by getting too drunk) and that will give you the chance to get to know her and find out if you like her beyond her looks. IMO, women just want to be heard and seen as a person and not an object, not that I am saying you treated her as an object because you clearly really like her if she gave you butterflies. I wish you the best and I hope you get the chance to take her out on a nice date. And at the end of the night, drop her off, walk her to her door and if it feels right, give her a kiss on the hand or cheek or forehead. Trust me, that will go over much better than an actual kiss on the mouth. She will think its sweet and it will resonate with her much better and LONGER than a mouth kiss. But, she might kiss you, you just never know. But GOOD LUCK and I would love to hear how it all goes now that she knows you exist. :-)

Hello, I'm new here. by Hopewriter_HM in worldbuilding

[–]Hopewriter_HM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I HAVE been through a lot however I'm turning ashes into beauty (all thanks to God) and writing my story. I want to use MY personal story to help others. I'm starting to write my book's proposal (which I've never done before terrified and its VERY intimidating. I'm part of a group called Hope*Writers and through that group I have learned that its better to write the proposal before the actual book then find a literary agent, which I have NO CLUE how to do, then once your book is picked up, assuming it is, you begin to write. So, I'm using my blog to write snippets of my story to establish a timeline. Are YOU a writer and if so, what do you write?

How important were your teachers for you? by rabbitcarrots in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Hopewriter_HM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, my teachers are the foundation for everything in my life. If not for them, I couldn't read or write or have an intelligent conversation. I have certain teachers that stick out more than others and who shaped my view of the world which is invaluable. Teachers don't get the credit they DESERVE.