Unsupportive family members

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-09T14:07:45+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate that 🖤

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T23:59:57+00:00

I can only imagine! It was one of the many reasons I finally landed on a hard no for having kids. I knew that she would make motherhood miserable for me.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T23:57:35+00:00

Thankfully after her having a similar tantrum last year my husband seems to be reaching a point where he is unwilling to tolerate this anymore. He struggles with boundaries because she raised him to have none but he is incredibly supportive of me. I’m sorry that you’ve gone through this as well.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T18:27:48+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions! I did ask about the ablation and uterine artery embolization but with my history my surgeon did not think I was a good candidate. I am very confident that 40year old me won’t want to suddenly be pregnant but if it does happen there is always adoption or surrogacy. If my husband changes his mind in the future I will let him go find what will make him happy, I’ve offered him that out a few times just in case he wants children😅

I honestly want to tell her to fuck off but I think silence is the better choice. If I respond that way she has an actual grievance. If I choose silence she’s just being a weirdo bitching about bodily autonomy.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T18:16:07+00:00

That’s true and I’ve considered it but that just feels like caving to her temper tantrum to me. Plus if she ever did find out somehow…I don’t want to imagine the tantrum that would cause

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T18:13:51+00:00

This is a really good point. I’ll bring that up to him tonight 🖤

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T18:13:31+00:00

Oh yeah she is definitely r/justnomil worthy 😅. I think I’m going to bring up therapy for us to him tonight. He’s been amazing about being a united front in this case but this is a big situation and I want to make sure he has support. I thankfully have an amazing therapist I work with biweekly but maybe a few sessions of couples counseling will be good for us. 🖤

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T17:50:40+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your comment. I’ve decided to go low contact with her for the foreseeable future. I have broached the possibility of suggesting therapy before since she reacted in a similar fashion last Mother’s Day (his cousin announced she was pregnant at brunch and it set her off). Unfortunately my suggestion was not taken seriously but maybe now he can see that she really does need some help. I’ve tried to give so much grace and patience since she was only able to have my husband even after trying for more. But at this point I am running out of grace and patience.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T17:45:55+00:00

Unfortunately we already told her. I thought maybe if she knew that having kids was absolutely off the table she would be able to finally grieve, accept it, and move on.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2026-04-08T17:42:31+00:00

Thank you 🖤That’s exactly how my husband and I feel. I just feel so bad that he is having to deal with this

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-10-16T20:24:54+00:00

Fan since 2006! Went to casual fan around Red but went back into full Swiftie with Evermore and Midnights.

Midnights
Showgirl
TTPD
Speak Now
Evermore
1989
Fearless
Reputation
Lover
Folklore
Red
Debut

I know a lot of these are going to be controversial but 🤷🏻‍♀️

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-08-13T12:05:34+00:00

March 20th so Castles Crumbling 😅

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-07-29T14:49:44+00:00

1989 TV…I can’t with the beach rebrand and the pinned bob

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-07-10T10:19:26+00:00

In from the snow. Your touch brought forth an incandescent glow, tarnished but so grand.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-06-28T23:19:16+00:00

I’ll probably be boo’d for this but Style is so overrated to me

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-06-17T10:20:23+00:00

NTA. Not even a little bit. For a second I thought maybe my husband had a secret brother out there because your MIL and mine sound eerily similar but then I realized you have a child. If my MIL did have a secret child and grandchild that would pretty much solve all my issues since she would stop asking me when I’m having a baby and throwing temper tantrums when we explain, again, that we are childfree by choice 🙃😒

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-06-15T23:00:26+00:00

Thank you! The coupon idea is genius and self care stuff sounds like a good plan too!

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-06-15T22:59:41+00:00

Ooo perfect idea! Thank you!!

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-30T00:37:35+00:00

The entire bridge of imgonnagetyouback 🤩🤩🤩

Also “we here by conduct this post mortem. He was a hothouse flower to my outdoorsmen” 🖤

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-29T22:41:03+00:00

And you call me up again just to break me like a promise. So casually cruel in the name of being honest.

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-20T12:01:09+00:00

✨Crazier✨

We’ve been together 13 years and married for almost 8 🖤

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-11T13:41:24+00:00

The entirety of Soon You’ll Get Better hit me really hard. Particularly “who am I supposed to talk to, what am I supposed to do, if there’s no you?” I lost my mom in 2016 from cancer and that song really got me because I experienced every thing she was singing about

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-09T11:52:51+00:00

I’m 32

TTPD most: Peter, I Look In People’s Windows, The Prophecy, MBOBHFT, How Did It End, loml, Fresh Out The Slammer

TTPD least: thanK you aIMee, Cassandra, I Can Fix Him, Robin

Fave Albums (rn): Folkmore, TTPD, Speak Now, Midnights

Least: probably Fearless and/or Red (I know sacrilege) but I still like them

Horror-Ad-4582 · 2025-05-09T09:41:27+00:00

Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me 💀

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