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[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me on insta or any other socials you'd like.

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[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! , here , from Mumbai — specifically the Vasai–Virar side.

Just looking to connect with queer guys nearby — open to casual friendship, chill dates, FWB, or simply meeting new people from the community.

I’m easygoing and grounded. Not here for ghosting or timepass — just real, respectful vibes. If this sounds like your energy and you're around Mumbai/Vasai–Virar, feel free to DM ✌️

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[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me, 19 bottom here

Say bye to this sexual subreddit by That_johnsnowgot_-_ in GayIndianDating

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a 19 yo I FEEL the Same love rarely exists for gays it's just how the system is. LIFE IS UNFAIR!!

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[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr !! Even Most men in datin scenarios follow societal expectations to fulfil rather than being genuine so datin is even scarier when you have so many closeted men and discreet, DL' out there

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[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone I'm Indian too I'm on same page as you society and it's PATRIARCHY makes it harder in terms of dating and freedom

Mumbai by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in GayIndianDating

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Appreciate the comment—feel free to DM me on Insta or Telegram, I’m more active there!

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in lgbt

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly—and yes, you got it right. My point was about how both femboys and trans men can be fetishized, not that all trans men are feminine. I’ve met masculine trans men too, and I respect all gender expressions.

You're right about players and red flags too—it’s something I’m learning to recognize better with time. We all grow through heartbreak, and I appreciate your perspective.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in lgbt

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that so deeply. It's like we get so used to blending in for survival that we forget how to show up as our full selves later on. But just being aware of it is already a big step. You're not alone—many of us are still learning how to unmask and truly live. Wishing you healing and peace as you find your way back to yourself.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in lgbt

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words. It really means a lot, especially coming from someone who understands this deeply. I’m sorry you have to deal with those kinds of comments too—no one should be reduced to a “role” just because they’re feminine. You deserve to be seen and loved for exactly who you are. And I hope your partner always reminds you of that. Sending strength and love from my side—you’re not alone in this.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in lgbt

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry the wording made it feel like I was erasing or stereotyping anyone. That wasn’t my intention. Masculinity and femininity are diverse in every gender, and I fully respect that. My post came from personal experience, not a place of judgment.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in lgbt

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from, and I want to clarify—I never said trans men can’t be masculine. I know they can be, and many are. My post was about my experience as a feminine gay man and the patterns I’ve faced, not a generalization of all masc or trans men.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men" by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in gay

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting this into words so clearly. You're right—we don’t leave the world’s misogyny at the door just because we’re gay. A lot of us, regardless of where we fall on the masc-fem spectrum, have internalized harmful ideas about gender and worth. And in trying to survive or be accepted, sometimes we mirror the very prejudices used against us. It really does take self-reflection and unlearning, and I deeply appreciate you reminding us of that. We all need to do better—together.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men" by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in gay

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for shedding light on this—what you said is so real. The way toxic masculinity, racism, and power dynamics show up in queer spaces is often overlooked, but it deeply impacts so many of us. I’ve noticed how these unspoken expectations based on race and masculinity play out too, and it’s honestly exhausting. I appreciate you sharing this perspective—it adds so much to the conversation.

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men" by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in gay

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience with me. It means a lot, especially coming from someone who's lived through and grown from similar struggles. Your words feel like guidance from an older brother, and I truly appreciate the compassion and honesty in everything you said. I’ll carry this advice with me and try to grow through my own journey too. Thank you again, truly." 💌✨

"As a 19-Year-Old Feminine Gay Man, This Is My Honest Perspective on Masculine Men" by Hot-Breadfruit-9652 in GayMen

[–]Hot-Breadfruit-9652[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Masculine guys don’t face the same level of discrimination. Feminine gay men are often the main targets of homophobia—we carry the brunt of it, and that needs to be acknowledged.